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Chapters

(00:00:02) - Gay Men Going Deeper: Work Life Balance
(00:02:09) - What is Work Life Balance?
(00:06:38) - How to Get Out of Burnout
(00:13:13) - March's Purpose
(00:13:36) - Don't Take Too Much Time Off Work
(00:18:05) - Burnout and the Power of Compassion
(00:24:15) - How to Get Through a Burnout
(00:26:35) - What Does Balance Mean To You?
(00:32:27) - Pete and Jay on The Future of Ideas
(00:33:01) - How Much Work Should You Do?
(00:36:30) - Geminis Talk About Work-Life Balance
(00:39:32) - Seeking Balance in Your Life
(00:42:47) - What boundaries do you put in place to ensure a work life balance
(00:46:49) - Self-Care Coach Reno on Burnout
(00:49:30) - How I Keep My Phone Off My Face
(00:54:44) - I'm Done Being Wanted by People
(01:00:10) - Self-Care on The Elevator
(01:03:57) - Gaiman Going Deeper: 161

Another “Failed” Relationship (Navigating Gay Dating)

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 09 Nov 2023 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode Matt speaks with Indie Author and Counselor, Jonathan Lee about dating as a gay man. Jonathan wrote his debut book 40 Single Gay where he over-shares his experience in the hostile gay dating world and what he learned about himself through the process. Matt and Jonathan unpack everything from hookup culture and non-monogamy, to intimacy and how to get our emotional needs met as gay men.

Here are some of the concepts they explored in this episode:

What is your experience of dating in the gay community?
Societal pressures to be in a relationship
Hostile world of dating
Baggage and insecurity from past relationships
The investment of time and energy it takes to date
The epidemic of intimacy avoidance in our community
Reframing failed relationships
Doing our inner work

If you find yourself lonely and frustrated with the gay dating scene and hook up apps, this episode may be just what you need.

Don't miss this episode!️

Today's Hosts:

Jonathan Lee: Instagram

Matt Landsiedel: Instagram Website

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - Another Failed Relationship
(00:01:28) - The Failed Relationships of Gay People
(00:02:32) - Gay Dating: Complicated Issues
(00:04:19) - Bookmark: 40 Single Gay
(00:08:53) - On Dating Now
(00:11:13) - Dating with a Secure Attachment Style
(00:17:55) - Do You Miss The Gay Bar Scene?
(00:21:37) - Steve Hadley on Sexual Pressure To Be In A Relationship
(00:24:47) - What is intimacy avoidance in the gay community
(00:30:27) - "Growing Up Gay"
(00:36:56) - What Is A Healthy Couple's Playfulness?
(00:37:48) - Outing The Gay Dating Scene
(00:40:00) - Oh My God!
(00:40:52) - Open Relationships
(00:47:05) - Doing Our Inner Work
(00:48:53) - Do You Have An Anxious Attachment Style?
(00:51:35) - "Punishing People for Being Different"
(00:52:30) - How to Love Yourself Without a Relationship
(00:56:01) - Where to Find My Book

Discovering Your Purpose

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 02 Nov 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Every human being has a unique purpose: something you and only you can bring to this world. In today’s episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we are sharing our personal journeys towards our purpose. We’ll share how moments of clarity, inspiration, and even adversity provided invaluable insights into our true calling. Some of the questions we’ll be answering are:

How did you discover your purpose?
What gives your life meaning?
What kind of impact do you want to make?

Whether you're at a crossroads, seeking a change, or simply looking to infuse more meaning into your life, this episode is for you.

Don't miss this enlightening conversation that will inspire you to take steps towards discovering your unique purpose so you can embark on a path that leads to a more fulfilling and purposeful future.

Don't miss this episode!️

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Chapters

(00:00:02) - Gay Men Going Deep: Discover Your Purpose
(00:00:44) - How To Find Your Purpose
(00:02:37) - Finding Your Purpose
(00:06:25) - What is Your Purpose?
(00:06:48) - Reveal: Living Your Purpose
(00:10:06) - Gemini Fitness Recording
(00:15:07) - How My Purpose Became Real
(00:18:08) - What gives your life meaning?
(00:21:55) - What Do You Live For? Inspiration and Love
(00:27:17) - Three Questions for the Brotherhood
(00:29:11) - What gives your life meaning?
(00:33:41) - What Kind of Impact Do You Want to Make?
(00:38:09) - In the Elevator With Michael Jackson
(00:43:53) - "You're Not Deserve This!"
(00:48:34) - You're Too Much Gay For Me
(00:50:35) - Your Impact on the World
(00:51:59) - The Gay Men's Brotherhood

Sharing NSFW Pics

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 26 Oct 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In this provocative episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael DiIorio and Pepper pushing boundaries, sparking discussion, and providing helpful tips on sharing NSFW pics.

Some of the topics we’ll be covering today are:

Why do we send NSFW pics?
What are the risks in doing so?
Does it impact how our relationships unfold?
Are we too desensitized to nudity?
What are some best practices for sending and receiving pics?

Join us for this entertaining episode where we celebrate sexuality and self-expression while also considering the very real risks and drawbacks of the world NSFW pics.

Don't forget to share with your friends – this episode is not to be missed! ️‍

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Chapters

(00:00:03) - Gay Men Going Deep: Sending NSFW Pics
(00:01:50) - Nudes and SFW Pics on Podcast
(00:03:04) - Nude Texts Are Sending Around
(00:05:48) - What Are Your Thoughts On Sending Nudes?
(00:07:13) - Queens of the Brotherhood Facebook Group
(00:07:39) - Send Nudes On Grindr
(00:10:09) - Grindr Chat: Nudes Are Safe To Send
(00:16:16) - Kinder On Grindr: The Entitled Guy
(00:18:09) - What's The Point Of Sending Nudes?
(00:20:32) - Is It Necessary To See Their Nudes On Grindr
(00:26:15) - What I Wish I Knew About Sexting
(00:31:18) - Are We Too Desensitized To Nudity?
(00:36:59) - Does Sharing Nudes Affect Your Relationship?
(00:43:48) - The Sexual Risk of Sending Nudes
(00:47:51) - Married Gay People on Grindr
(00:50:57) - Best Practices for Sending Close Friend Stories
(00:52:50) - Beyond The Grinder: Best Practices
(00:55:08) - Grindr: Some Tips For Safe Sex
(00:56:49) - Unlock Pepper's Secret To Nudes
(00:59:18) - Gay Men's Brotherhood

Healing a Traumatic Past (CPTSD)

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 19 Oct 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode Matt speaks with Scott Blackwood about healing their traumatic pasts. They talk about the impacts of relational and attachment trauma on their lives and how this led to Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), shame, low self-esteem and social isolation. They talk about how the unresolved trauma impacted their relationship with themselves and others and the steps they are taking to overcome this.

Here are some of the concepts they explored in this episode:

What is trauma?
What is CPTSD?
The Neurobiology and Nervous system impacts of trauma
Exploring how trauma shows up in us (trauma responses)
Our personal stories of relational/attachment trauma
The impact trauma has on the gay community
Ways to heal past trauma

Most humans experience relational/attachment trauma over the course of their lives and it is important to be trauma informed so we know how to be sensitive and compassionate towards ourselves and others as we navigate our own trauma healing journeys.

Our hope is this episode will normalize trauma, and release any shame or stigma around having unresolved trauma because it’s a lot more common than we think.

Don't miss this episode!️

Today's Hosts:

Scott Blackwood: Facebook

Matt Landsiedel: Instagram Website

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - Healing a Traumatic Past
(00:03:11) - Uncovering Complex Trauma
(00:07:50) - CPTSD and Relationship Trauma
(00:13:44) - Being Bullied as a Child
(00:15:20) - The Impact Of Bullying On My Life
(00:18:40) - The Place of Protectors in Your Life
(00:22:10) - Michael on Protecting His Inner Child
(00:27:08) - The Search for Who We Are
(00:28:34) - Transcending Trauma Healing Complex PTSD With Internal Family Systems Therapy
(00:32:22) - Treatment of Trauma: The Shame
(00:37:39) - How Dissociating Made Me More Fearful
(00:40:24) - I Share My Story On My Inner Child
(00:45:44) - Talking About Coming Out As A Gay Man
(00:48:13) - Why Overcoming Codependency Is Hardest Work Ever Done
(00:52:18) - How to Stop Avoiding Gay Things
(00:54:01) - How to Love Yourself After Trauma

Inner Child Work

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 12 Oct 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Today we are diving deep into the profound practice of inner child work, a transformative journey that has the power to heal wounds from our past and pave the way for a brighter future.

Join us as we delve into various techniques and exercises that can help you connect with your inner child, nurture them, and ultimately begin the process of healing any unresolved childhood pain. Some of the questions we’ll be exploring are:

How would you describe your relationship with your inner child (past and present)?
What does inner child work mean to you? How have you done inner child work?
What have been some of the benefits of doing inner child work?

Tune in as we explore the depths of our inner selves, heal old wounds, and embrace the power of self-love and inner child healing. In this episode, we shared reflection questions that can help you connect with your inner child.

What was I most worried about and how did I cope with that?
What desires went unmet and how did I cope with that?
What needs went unmet for me in childhood?
What role did I play in my family dynamic?
What was I rewarded for?
What was I punished for?

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - Gay Men Going Deep: Inner Child Work
(00:02:10) - What is Inner Child Work?
(00:06:59) - 4 Inner Child Wounds
(00:12:24) - The List of Wounds
(00:13:59) - In Touch With My Inner Child
(00:18:12) - Inside Me
(00:22:09) - Grief for a long-term relationship
(00:28:44) - A Moment of Recognition for Matt Walsh
(00:31:42) - A Child's Love for a Giant Tree
(00:33:24) - Inner Child Work
(00:41:06) - Episode 8: Inner Child Work
(00:44:38) - How Inner Child Work Changed My Life
(00:49:36) - The Healing Process of Inner Child Reception
(00:56:02) - Intuition and the Inner Child
(00:57:26) - What have been the benefits of doing inner child work for you?
(01:01:15) - Honorizing the Inner Child
(01:02:29) - Inside Child Work and the Byproducts
(01:05:34) - What have been the benefits of my Inner Child Work?
(01:07:33) - What needs went unmet for me in childhood
(01:09:48) - October Is For Love & Brotherhood: Inner Child
(01:14:13) - TALKING TO YOU!

Bullying: Panel Discussion

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 05 Oct 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Bullying is defined as an ongoing and deliberate misuse of power in relationships through repeated verbal, physical and/or social behaviour that intends to cause physical, social and/or psychological harm.

Why this conversation is important:

It is said that approximately ⅓ people will experience some form of bullying in their lifetime; in the home, in the community, in the classroom, in the workplace, online, and/or outside of these spaces.

Our goal today is to have a discussion with men who have experienced bullying either in childhood or adulthood so that we can bring light to those experiences and help those who have also gone through it by destigmatizing it and offering support.

In today’s conversation, we explore the following questions:

What is your experience with bullying?
How did your experiences with bullying impact your life beyond the initial experience(s)?
Would you say you have healed from those experiences, and if so, what made that possible?
What wisdom would you provide to someone who is navigating bullying (and/or what might you say to that former you?)

We remind you that this is a conversation in which individuals are sharing and answering these questions from their personal experiences. We invite you to explore this topic further if you wish to, and because of the sensitive nature of this topic, viewer discretion is advised.

If you or someone you know is experiencing bullying, tell someone you know and trust, contact your local crisis line, and/or visit the links below for support:

Panelists

Phil McAuliffe or email connect@thelonelinessguy.com
Warren Augustin
Keone Wales

Today's Host: Reno Johnston

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - Gay Men Going Deep: Bullying
(00:00:43) - A Talk About Bullying
(00:02:57) - Black People's Experience With Bullying
(00:04:52) - Bullying in the Workplace
(00:09:20) - Warren and Phil's Experience With Bullying
(00:16:30) - On The Impact of Ancestral Bullying
(00:23:00) - How Bullying Has Impacted My Life
(00:33:32) - Philip Keone Talking About Bullying
(00:41:11) - My Experiences With Bullying
(00:45:37) - Healing from the Shamanic Experience
(00:50:23) - Accepting the invitation to love yourself
(00:55:30) - The Power of the Chiron Returns
(01:00:49) - Andrew Tate on His Healing Process
(01:06:26) - In the Elevator With Bullying
(01:08:54) - How to Deal with Being Bullied
(01:13:48) - Bullying Is Not Acceptable

Spiritual Abuse & Religious Trauma

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 28 Sep 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In today’s episode, Michael DiIorio invites special guest Jeremy Russo to explore how spiritual abuse can manifest within religious communities, causing harm to individuals' mental, emotional, and even physical well-being.

We also touch upon religious trauma, discussing its lasting impact on survivors, and the journey towards healing and forgiveness.

While this is a deeply sensitive topic, we believe it’s crucial to shed some light on the dark corners of this often-overlooked aspect of faith and spirituality.

Resources discussed in this episode:

Emerge New Worshiping Community
Global Center for Religious Research
Tempest Counseling Services Thomas Hanna, LMHC

Today's Guest: Jeremy Russo

Today's Host: Michael DiIorio

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(00:00:00) - Gay Men Going Deeper: Spiritual Abuse and Religious Trauma
(00:00:55) - This is What Spiritual Abuse Is Really Like
(00:01:54) - Queer Experience: Sex and Religion
(00:04:23) - Spiritual Abuse and Religious Trauma
(00:06:48) - What's The Difference Between Spiritual Experience and Religion?
(00:07:53) - Jeremy's Story of Sexual Abuse
(00:12:25) - He Said He Was Gay
(00:17:41) - Bob Jones' Physical Abuse
(00:22:04) - Coming out as gay at 18 years old
(00:27:15) - Pauline On Gay-Friendly Churches
(00:31:11) - Spiritual Abuse and Sexual Abuse
(00:35:35) - How Shame Affects My Life
(00:37:29) - Trying to Heal From Trauma
(00:43:20) - How to Heal From Trauma
(00:47:58) - Did You Want Justice Or Revenge For What Happened To You?
(00:53:53) - Michael Jackson on His Own Past Abuse
(00:56:58) - Jeremy on His Own Healing
(00:58:32) - What else would you want to say to people who've been through
(01:05:44) - Where to Find Support for Codependency

Guided Meditation: Balancing the Masculine & Feminine Energy within

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 21 Sep 2023 15:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel takes you on a guided meditative journey to discover the relationship between your masculine and feminine energies.

The guided meditation is designed to help you restore balance between your masculine and feminine energy. When we use the terms masculine and feminine, we are not referring to the gender or sex of an individual, we are referring to the energetic duality that exists within all human beings. We all have a masculine or yang energy, and we all have a feminine or yin energy within us.

If you are stuck and unable to heal or slow down in your life, then you may be suppressing your feminine energy. If you are not actively engaged in your life and feel unmotivated, then you may be suppressing your masculine energy. This guided meditation will help you reconnect to the divine masculine and feminine energy within you so you can become integrated and balanced as nature has intended for you.

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Expressing Your Femininity

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 14 Sep 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Expressing your feminine energy does not diminish your masculinity or make you less of a man.

Each person is a unique expression of masculine and feminine energies, and this expression is a natural and valid part of our identity.

In today's episode, we are sharing our own experiences of discovering and expressing our feminine energy. We'll explore various aspects of embracing our inner femininity, from fashion and emotional expression to intuition and relationships. We're answering questions such as:

What aspects of yourself do you consider feminine?
How has your expression of femininity evolved?
How do you find the balance between your inner masculine and feminine?

This is a must-listen episode that will inspire, inform, and celebrate the beauty of being true to yourself, regardless of societal expectations.

Don't forget to check out last week's episode on Expressing Your Masculinity.

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Expressing Your Masculinity

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 07 Sep 2023 15:00:00 +0000

Gay culture has historically idolized traditional masculinity in the context of societal norms, which includes traits like physical strength, assertiveness, and stoicism.

But we must remember that there isn't a single, fixed definition of masculinity. While some embrace traditional concepts of masculinity, others may lean towards more non-conforming presentations.

Lately, there has been a growing acceptance of the fact that gender expression and sexual orientation are distinct aspects of identity. In this episode, we're exploring our personal expression of masculinity by answering questions such as:

What does masculinity mean to you?
What's the difference between toxic masculinity and healthy masculinity?
In what ways has societal conditioning shaped how you relate to your own masculinity?
How do you express your masculinity?

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Libido

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 31 Aug 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Libido, or sex drive, is our natural instinctual inclination for sexual activity. Libido varies person to person and fluctuates over time.

It’s not uncommon for men to put a high value on their sex drive, especially if they associate it with their masculinity and self-esteem.

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael welcomes Dr. Hector Rodriguez to answer your questions about libido.

Some of the topics they’ll be covering are:

How does aging impact your sex drive?
How do you measure libido?
What causes a loss of libido?
How changing libido can impact your relationships?
What steps can you take to increase libido?

Join us for this informative episode that begins to de-mystify many of the question we have - but are too afraid to ask.

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Energetic Attraction

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 24 Aug 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Attraction is a fickle matter. Call it a vibe or energy or aura, it is indeed a powerful unseen force that influences our relationships.

In the metaphysical sense, energetic attraction stems from the belief that everything in the universe is made up of energy, including human beings, and that this energy can interact and create connections between people.

In this episode, we're going deeper into the concept of Energetic Attraction, by answering these questions:

What traits make someone attractive?
How much control do you have over who you're attracted to?
Can you become more energetically attractive?

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Spiritual Awakening

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 17 Aug 2023 15:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio unpack the concept of the spiritual awakening. They both share their personal experiences with spiritual awakenings and how they navigated these really challenging periods in their lives. If you are struggling in life right now, you might be going through a spiritual awakening. The best way through one of these experiences is to learn about its meaning, making it easier to navigate.

Here are the 4 questions we explored in this episode:

What does spiritual awakening mean to you?
What has been one of the most profound spiritual experiences you’ve had?
What practices do you have to help you move through spiritual awakenings?
What has been your greatest learning when it comes to spiritual growth?

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Manifesting Your Ideal Partner

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 10 Aug 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Attracting a romantic relationship is as much about energy as it is about the practical steps. Directing your thoughts and emotions towards finding love adds an energetic boost to any tangible action steps you’re taking.

In this episode, we’re sharing our experiences with attracting love including:

Manifestation basics
Artificial desire vs. authentic desire
How to recognize your 'ideal' partner
Why you attract who you attract
Our fave tips and tricks

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Body Confidence

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 03 Aug 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Body confidence is the ability to feel good in your body, regardless of its size or shape. But there are many reasons why gay men in particular struggle in this area.

Wanting to work on your body is perfectly natural, but having the right mindset is crucial to this process.

How can you work on your body goals without it being harmful to your mental health? In today’s episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael DiIorio invites Jarrod Bruce Lee to answer that very question, as well as discussing:

Where body confidence actually comes from
Dealing with the pressure to look a certain way
What prevents us from feeling more confident in our bodies
Motivating yourself with self-love instead of self-loathing
Balancing external validation with self-validation

Today's Guest: Jarrod Bruce Lee

Today's Host: Michael DiIorio

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Aging

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 27 Jul 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Aging is an inevitable part of life, but we each have a unique relationship with it.

Some of us embrace it with open arms and don't buy into the idea of a "gay death" at a certain age.

Others struggle with aging and cling to our youth and relevance as each year passes.

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re talking about our own relationship to aging and what it means to “age well.”

Some of the questions we’ll be unpacking are:

What has been your relationship to aging?
What do you like and dislike about aging?
Where do your ideas/beliefs about aging come from?
How would you define “aging well” on your own terms?
Who is someone who you perceive to have “aged well”?

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The Core Wound of Growing Up Gay

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 20 Jul 2023 15:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Theo Bill have a heartfelt conversation about the struggles and joys of being a gay man. They discuss the core wounds of growing up gay, the impact this has on the gay community, and what we can do to start to heal these wounds.

We explore these topics in the episode:

The wounds gay men may experience in their development
Toxic Shame
Attachment trauma
Gay men and spirituality
What advantages do we have as gay men
Some things we can do to start healing our wounds
Sensitivity

The GoHigher Summit (hosted by Theo) is about elevating the rainbow community by finding the gift of growth and healing that resides within each of us. 30+ speakers shared their life stories, lessons and experiences – all to empower, elevate, and educate! It is a place to celebrate our diversity and unique culture, but also to learn how we can more easily expand our identity beyond our wounds.

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Age Discrimination Panel

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 13 Jul 2023 14:00:00 +0000

It’s a sad reality that older gay men face stereotypes about their attractiveness, desirability, or relevance as they age.

Age discrimination, or ageism, can result in feeling isolated, undervalued, and even invisible.

In today’s episode, we are having a panel discussion about age discrimination with 3 of our community members.

We’ll cover topics such as:

Being judged by younger gay men
The discomfort around revealing your age around to others
Dating and aging
What advice they have for younger gay men
The importance of intergenerational relationships
How the gay community has changed or remained the same over the decades?

Listen to this episode to recognize and challenge ageism so that we can foster a more accepting and inclusive community.

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Today's Host: Michael DiIorio

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Friends with Benefits

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 06 Jul 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Friends with benefits (FWB) is a type of relationship where you can enjoy the sexual benefits of a relationship without the expectation of long-term commitment.

Navigating the blurred lines between friendship and sexual intimacy is a complex and potentially risky endeavour.

In this episode, Michael DiIorio and Pepper of The Gay Good discuss the nuances of having Friends With Benefits. They’ll discuss topics such as:

The pros and cons of FWB
Why this is common with gay guys
When FWB works and when it doesn't
Dos and don'ts for a satisfying FWB relationship

Join in for this revealing discussion that will give you greater clarity and understanding of this common relationship structure.

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Today's Host: Michael DiIorio
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Unconscious Bias

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 29 Jun 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Unconscious bias refers to the internal biases or attitudes that influence our interactions and behaviour towards others.

We all have these deeply ingrained biases that unfortunately can hinder our efforts to build a more diverse and inclusive community.

In today's episode, we are sharing our experience with Unconscious Bias in hopes that it will help contribute to embracing greater acceptance and belonging. Some of the questions we'll be unpacking:

What are some unconscious biases you currently have or have had in the past? Where did they come from?
How do you discern between preferences and prejudices?
How can we become aware of these biases and change them to be more inclusive?

By acknowledging unconscious bias and working to mitigate its impact, we can celebrate a more inclusive queer community that values the diverse experiences of all individuals.

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Creating Authentic Connection

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 22 Jun 2023 15:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Jamaal Wesley talk about authentic connection and the importance of having relationships in our lives where we can be completely ourselves. They share their own personal challenges with being authentic and how they have overcome these challenges. Come spend an hour learning how to bring your most authentic self into connection and reap the reward of being seen, understood and getting your needs met.

The questions we explored in this episode are:

What does authentic connection mean to you?
In what ways do you hold yourself back from belonging and connecting?
What does it feel like for you when you have authentic connection?
What can people do to have more authentic connection in their lives?

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Acceptance and Belonging

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 15 Jun 2023 14:00:00 +0000

One of the goals of the Gay Men’s Brotherhood and this podcast is to help foster a deeper sense of community and connection for queer people all over the world.

But how do you learn to belong to a community that does not accept you as you are? This is the crux of today’s episode on Acceptance and Belonging.

We’re answering some tough questions such as:

What do you think is responsible for the lack of acceptance and belonging within the gay community?
What parts of yourself do you struggle to accept?
How can we begin to cultivate more acceptance and belonging within ourselves and the gay community?

Join us for this important episode about what it means to take up your fair share of space as a queer person in the queer community.

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Being a Dad

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 08 Jun 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Being a dad can be one of the most rewarding experiences of a man’s life. Historically, gay men have not had adequate opportunities to be parents, but the tide is turning.

In this episode, Joseph Tito of The Dad Diaries stops by to talk to Michael about his journey from surrogacy to fatherhood, including:

The decision to be a parent
The challenges and rewards of being a parent
Dealing with homophobia
Advice for anyone considering parenthood

Whether you’re a dad yourself or have ever considered what it’s like to be one, this episode is for you.

Today's Guest: Joseph Tito of The Dad Diaries

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Celebrating Diversity

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 01 Jun 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Pride is celebration of the progress we've made as a community and a reminder that there is still much work to do. Unfortunately, many people don't feel like part of the community- and we want to help change that.

In today’s episode, we’re not just celebrating our queerness, but also the diverse range of people, experiences, and interests our community has to offer.

In this episode, we’ll be talking about:

How we have felt included in the gay community
How we have felt excluded
How we can create space for more diversity
How we can learn to belong

Join us for this episode that kicks off Pride month by celebrating ALL of the beautiful flavours of the queer rainbow.

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Heterophobia

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 25 May 2023 17:10:21 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Andre-Lee Wills talk about their experiences with heterophobia. They share what it was like growing up gay in a heteronormative world and how this created fear and anger towards heterosexual people. They also unpack the relationship between internalized homophobia and heterophobia and how taking responsibility for ourselves in new ways can help us overcome these fears.

The questions we explored in this episode are:

What was life like for you as a young gay boy?
When did you first realize that it was not acceptable to be gay? How did you cope with that?
In what ways did you/do you fear heterosexual people?
How can we overcome heterophobia?

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Healing Shame

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 18 May 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Shame is that terrible feeling that arises when you get the sense that something is fundamentally wrong about you. It is often accompanied by inadequacy and self-doubt. Shame convinces you that you are not enough.

Like it or not, shame plays a key role in the gay man’s life. Born into a straight world, we must contend with the fact that we are different. While we all have a unique way of dealing with shame, healing it is necessary if we want to develop an authentic sense of self and truly connect in our most intimate relationships.

We’ll be exploring 3 key questions:

How shame affect us as gay men, specifically
How do we identify shame
What are some ways we can start healing shame?

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External and Internal Validation (Part 2)

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 11 May 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Having a healthy sense of self-worth means balancing both external and internal validation.

In part 2 of the two-part series, we are focusing on internal validation, the skill of fuelling your self-worth from within you, rather than seeking it through external sources.

Developing your sense of worthiness from within you is fundamental to living authentically as you become less attached to the opinions of others, and more focused on living in integrity with your personal core values.

This episode covers topics such as:

What gets in the way of feeling internally validated?
How exactly do you do it?
What does your self-worth come from?
What makes you feel valued?

Join us for this discussion that will help you start feeling more worthy right here and now.

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External and Internal Validation (Part 1)

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 04 May 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Having a healthy sense of self-worth means balancing both external and internal validation.

External validation is when you derive your self-worth from sources outside of yourself while Internal validation is when your self-worth comes from within.

Unfortunately, many people rely on the external at the expense of the internal, thereby creating a situation where you are hustling to prove yourself to others and are over-sensitive to their criticism.

In this special two-part series, we’re welcoming back to the show, Reno Johnston, to discuss how we can develop a more secure sense of self-worth using both external and internal validation.

In part 1, we’ll be focusing on the external by discussing things like:

Why do we crave external validation?
In what ways do gay men typically seek it?
What are the benefits?
When does does become an issue?

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Imposter Syndrome

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 27 Apr 2023 14:30:00 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Travis Holp talk about imposter syndrome and how they have navigated periods in their lives when they felt like imposters. They also unpack the concepts of self-doubt, inadequacy, perfectionism, and fear of failure, which often underlie imposter syndrome.

The questions we explored in this episode are:

Can you share a time when you experienced imposter syndrome?
In what ways do you experience self doubt?
How do you deal with feelings of inadequacy?
What have you learned that's helped you deal with imposter syndrome?

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Purity Culture 2.0

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 20 Apr 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Whether you are aware of it or not, Purity Culture has influenced social norms around sex and relationships for centuries by attempting to repress sexual expression and label it as 'sinful.'

Even though society has evolved, so too as Purity Culture. It continues to have a harmful impact on the queer community by influencing policy and feeding into stigmatizing attitudes.

In this episode, Michael DiIorio invites Jon Carl Lewis of Sex and the Queer Christian to have a discussion about Purity Culture 2.0. They’ll be discussing topics such as:

What’s the difference between purity culture 1.0 and 2.0?
Its impact on the gay community
Monogamy and non-monogamy
HIV/AIDS and PrEP
Sexual consumerism and pornography
How can Christianity evolve?
Tips on how you can reconcile your sexuality with your spirituality

Join in for this revealing conversation about discovering your unique sexual values.

Today's Guest: Jon Carl Lewis

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Sex and Intimacy (part 2)

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 13 Apr 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Do you want sex or do you want intimacy? Or both?

Sometimes our attempts to connect with guys gets thwarted by the confusion between these desires. This can lead to frustration and over time, loneliness.

In part 2 of this 2-part episode, Michael and Matt are going deeper into the topic of intimacy by talking about...

How to develop more intimate connections
Why gay men avoid intimacy
How to overcome the fear of intimacy

If you want to increase your capacity for greater intimacy in your relationships, this episode is for you.

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Sex and Intimacy (part 1)

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 06 Apr 2023 14:00:00 +0000

Do you want sex or do you want intimacy? Or both?

Sometimes our attempts to connect with guys gets thwarted by the confusion between these desires. This can lead to frustration and over time, loneliness.

In part 1 of this 2-part episode, Michael and Matt are going deeper into sex, intimacy, and sexual intimacy including…

How are sex and intimacy different?
Different ways to practice intimacy
What is (and isn't) sex positivity?

Join us for this informative episode full of helpful tidbits that you can use to increase intimacy in your relationships.

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The Science of Healing

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 30 Mar 2023 14:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel interviews Ed Cohen about the science of healing. Ed shares a holistic perspective on healing and how we can begin to reclaim our authority over our health from systems that can easily fail us if we become too passive. We explore how the mind and body are intrinsically connected when it comes to health and healing, and that it is important to search for deeper meaning when our body is expressing illness in any form. If you are someone who suffers from chronic illness, this episode will definitely shine a fresh perspective on healing for you.

The concepts we explored in this episode are:

What does it mean to heal
Curing vs. healing
How our culture places so much emphasis on external healing and asks us to give away our authority to professionals
The ways in which modern medicine is failing us
Psychosomatics: how the mental and emotional impact the physical body
The importance of finding meaning in your illness

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Peace Love Rainbows: Calan's Last Episode

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 23 Mar 2023 13:00:00 +0000

On today's extra-special episode, we're saying goodbye (for now) to our incredible friend and co-creator, Calan Breckon.

This marks his last episode as a co-host of the podcast and he is sharing the reasons behind his decision while we reflect on the first 127 episodes of the podcast.

Join us for this sentimental episode where we mark the end of one chapter of the Gay Men Going Deeper podcast, and the beginning of the next...

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Your Relationship with Your Body

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 16 Mar 2023 13:00:00 +0000

How would you describe your relationship with your body? Are you BFFs or are you more like frenemies?

We each have a unique relationship with our bodies which directly influences how we treat it.

In this episode, we’re going deeper into that relationship by answering questions such as:

How would you describe your relationship with your body?
How has that relationship changed over the years?
How can you improve your relationship to body?

Join us for this episode if you want to feel better about your body and create a more loving, respectful relationship with it.

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Body Representation

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 09 Mar 2023 15:30:00 +0000

Mainstream and social media influence the norms of what is an attractive or acceptable body within our community.

Buying into this narrow definition is easy, but it can be detrimental to your self-image and self-esteem.

Body representation is the practice of celebrating a diverse range of body types and unlearning the conditioning that only some bodies are worth showing.

In this juicy episode, we’re answering questions such as:

What has been your experience around body representation and body image in the media?
How did that translate into your experience in the gay community?
Do you actively work at changing your relationship with media/social media and how it affects you?
What (if any) are the things you try to do to be part of the change around body representation?

Join us for this spirited discussion about body positivity, self-image, and what you can do to support more diverse body representation in the media.

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Being Kinder on Grindr

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 02 Mar 2023 15:00:00 +0000

There’s no doubt that Grindr has cemented itself as part of the gay culture. For an entire generation, an app has shaped what it means to be gay - for better or worse.

In this episode, Michael invites special guest, Pepper, to make a case for engaging on Grindr with more respect, kindness, and humanity.

They are talking candidly about such things as:

What to write in your bio
Kinder communication
Ghosting
Respectful rejection
Setting expectations
Hook ups
Dealing with unsolicited pics
Stating preferences politely
Knowing when to take a break

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Love Languages

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 23 Feb 2023 15:30:00 +0000

There are countless ways to give and receive love. We each have unique preferences can change over time.

Our "love languages" are influenced by factors such as our upbringing, attachment traumas, and relationship history.

In this episode, we're going deeper into the Love Languages, specifically answering questions such as:

❤️ What are your love languages?

❤️ What makes you feel loved? What influenced this?

❤️ How do you like to give love? What influenced this?

❤️ What would be your 6th love language?

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The Practice of Empathy & Being an Empath

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 16 Feb 2023 15:30:00 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Dr. Michael R. Smith talk about empathy and what it’s like being an empath and sensitive gay man in a world that isn’t designed for us. We share our own personal experiences being empathic/intuitive and how this can be beneficial but also challenging. We also discuss how relationships and sex can be different for empaths and how we have learned to best navigate this dynamic terrain.

The concepts we explored in this episode are:

What is empathy?
What is an empath?
Why is empathy important?
Challenges of having high empathy
Benefits of having high empathy
The science of empathy
What is it like being an empath in relationships?
What is it like to have sex as an empath?

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Unconditional Love

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 09 Feb 2023 15:30:00 +0000

Unconditional love sounds romantic, but is it realistic or even healthy? There are a lot of factors at play when we talk about this type of love, and it’s not as simple as it sounds.

In this episode, we're diving deeper into unconditional love asking some important questions such as:

❤️ What does unconditional love mean?

❤️ What gets in the way of unconditional love?

❤️ How do you move towards loving someone unconditionally?

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Dating Intentionally

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 02 Feb 2023 15:30:00 +0000

Dating is still one of the greatest mysteries in the world some might say. And with over 1,500 dating apps out there it’s only getting more confusing on how to “figure it out” and find someone who is compatible.

In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks some of the mysteries around dating intentionally with guest Michael Kaye.

Michael is the Head of Global Communications at OkCupid, one of the world's largest dating apps, where he leads public relations programming, influencer marketing, and social media.

Michael has been a leading voice in dating and relationships and has been featured in many news outlets such as ABC News, Cosmopolitan, The New York Times, and The Washington Post as well as many others.

Together they unpack questions like…

Where do you think we’re going wrong with dating on all these different apps these days?
What do you think the difference is between just dating and dating intentionally?
How can someone be more intentional when they’re looking to seriously date?

...as well as some insider information from behind the curtain of what those dating apps know about us as daters, and you may be surprised to find that it’s not what you’d think!

Be sure to listen to the full episode as there is a surprise waiting at the end for those who make it there.

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Zero F**ks Given

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 26 Jan 2023 15:30:00 +0000

What is holding you back from doing everything you want to do and being whoever you want to be?

For a lot of people, worrying about what others will say or how they’ll be perceived gets in the way of living a truly authentic life.

In this episode, we’re looking at what it means to give zero f**ks. We’ll be answering questions such as…

If you gave zero fucks and could do anything, what would it be and why?
What’s the fear holding you back from doing it now?
Where’s the line between being true to yourself and honouring your needs but not hurting other people by being unapologetic?
What’s something you’re going to work on this year and be unapologetic about?

Whether you give too many fucks, not enough, or just the right amount, you’ll find valuable insights and laughs in this fun-filled conversation.

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Intergenerational Relationships

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 19 Jan 2023 15:00:00 +0000

In a youth-obsessed culture, it’s easy to overlook the benefits of aging and the wisdom that only comes with lived experience.

Including people of different generations in your social circle helps enrich our community and improves quality of life for everyone involved.

Yet there are many stigmas attached to intergenerational (or “age-gap”) relationships, especially the romantic variety.

In this episode, Michael invites psychiatrist Dr. Hector Rodriguez to talk about platonic and romantic intergenerational relationships. This episode covers a variety of topics such as:

Benefits of intergenerational relationships to our community and at the individual level
Common stigmas in romantic relationships
Ageism in the gay community
Fetishizing older/younger men
The unique challenges of romantic intergenerational relationships and how to overcome them

Join us for this episode that is ultimately about connection and community - regardless of age.

Today's Guest: Dr. Hector Rodriguez

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Michael DiIorio is a certified life and wellness coach specializing in self-confidence, sexuality, and relationships. You can find Michael at www.wellismo.com and follow him on Instagram @wellismo_coach.

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Reinventing Yourself

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 12 Jan 2023 15:30:00 +0000

One of the most exciting things about life is being able to transform your identity whenever you want.

For most people, transformation happens naturally and gradually over time. But sometimes you can purposefully and intentionally undergo a process of personal reinvention to become a new version of yourself.

In this episode, we’re talking about Reinventing Yourself and answering questions such as…

What has contributed to defining your self-image?
How have you let go of old versions of yourself?
How have you gone about reinventing yourself?
How do you perceive yourself now? How much of that perception comes from how others respond to you?

Join us as we share our own reinventions of the past, and present, and how we’re reinventing ourselves for the future.

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Healing From Sexual Trauma

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 05 Jan 2023 15:30:00 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Tirrell Cherry talk intimately about healing sexual trauma. They share their own personal experiences with sexual abuse and how they have moved through their own trauma healing journeys. If you have experienced sexual trauma, you are not alone. This episode was created with the intention to normalize having these difficult conversations that can lead to deep connection, authenticity and healing.

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Website link: https://tirrellcherry.life

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Making Friends

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 29 Dec 2022 15:30:00 +0000

Research has shown that quality friendships are fundamental to the mental and emotional well-being of 2SLGBTQ+ individuals.

A close-knit circle of friends can help us feel less alone, affirm our identity, and alleviate the stressors that come with being part of a stigmatized minority group.

But making friends can be challenging for many reasons.

In this episode, we're exploring the topic of making friends, and answering these questions:

What is the hardest part about making new friendships and how do you deal with it?
How can you become more “likable” to others and still honour your individuality?
What steps can you take to expand your social network?

Whether you want to make more friends or improve the friendships you already have, this episode will give you plenty of tips and insights that will help you improve your social circle.

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Conflict Transformation

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 22 Dec 2022 15:30:00 +0000

The holiday season can be a triggering one for a lot of people, especially those of us from the LGBTQ+ community.

In today's episode, host Calan Breckon speaks with guest Jeremy Long about how we can navigate conflict during this holiday season. Together they share their personal tips and tricks for those difficult interactions in hopes that it can make your holiday season a little more jolly.

Jeremy Long is the founder of the Conscious Queer Community where he leads Queer Men's groups. He’s also the owner of Enhance Leadership where he coaches about Leadership and Relationship Systems. Jeremy’s personal struggle with self-esteem and acceptance of his sexuality inspired him to support other queer men on their journeys. He now applies his experience in facilitation, emotional intelligence, and relationship systems to support queer and emerging leaders and teams who are ready to reach the next level in their development.

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In this episode, we’re exploring conflict transformation and ways you can go about navigating the holiday season with family and friends.

We’ll be answering questions like:

How can people best navigate conflict during the holidays?
Why is it so hard to admit when we’re wrong? and why must we be willing to admit it if we are?
What are some tips and tools you use to navigate conflict when it comes up for you?

Join us to get a few tips and ideas on how you can survive this holiday season.

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Lonely vs Being Alone

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 15 Dec 2022 15:30:00 +0000

Being alone does not necessarily mean that you’re feeling lonely. Some people quite enjoy the experience of solitude and prefer it over being in large groups. But over time, does that disconnection lead to chronic loneliness?

In this episode, we’re exploring the difference between being alone and the feeling of loneliness. We’ll cover topics such as:

What’s the difference between loneliness and being alone?
What roles does introversion or extroversion play in feeling lonely?
How do you know when you’ve had too much alone time?
How do you come back to connection if the feelings of loneliness start to creep up?

Join us to get a deeper understanding of how your introversion or extroversion can impact your experience of loneliness.

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Bathhouses and Cruising

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 08 Dec 2022 15:00:00 +0000

Long before the days of Grindr and the internet, the gay scene was largely underground. Gay and bi men had to find creative ways to connect in discreet, yet relatively safe spaces.

For many, the locals baths - or bathhouses- were a sanctuary where you could be yourself and meet other guys who were interested in both sexual and friendly connection.

Meanwhile, cruising spots were known public spaces where men met for casual encounters.

Yet for decades, the baths were routinely raided and became a battleground for the fight for queer rights and the gay liberation movement.

In today’s episode of #GayMenGoingDeeper, Michael is talking with long-time writer, activist, and educator Tim McCaskell about bathhouses and cruising. Together they’ll share personal stories while exploring topics such as:

What really goes on in a bathhouse?
Why are they important to our history and culture?
Are they still relevant today?
What are the risks?
Tips for making the most of your visit

Whether you enjoy the bathhouse scene or not, this episode will shed light on the sociological and historical significance of these queer spaces from the perspective of two men of two different generations.

Today's Guest

Tim McCaskell is a long-time writer, activist and educator. In addition to being a collective member of The Body Politic from 1974 to 1986, he was a leader in the fight back against police raids on the gay baths in the 80s. He was also a member of AIDS ACTION NOW! where he fought for funding for AIDS treatment and medication. He has published two books: "Queer Progress" and "Race to Equity".

Today's Host

Michael DiIorio is a certified life and wellness coach specializing in self-confidence, sexuality, and relationships. You can find Michael at www.wellismo.com and at in the Sexual Empowerment Group. You can also follow him on Instagram @wellismo_coach.

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Dealing with Loneliness

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 01 Dec 2022 15:30:00 +0000

Loneliness is extremely common among gay men of all ages and backgrounds. In fact, some mental health professionals refer to loneliness as an epidemic for our times.

In this episode, we are sharing our own struggles with loneliness and how we have dealt with it.

The questions we’re answering today are:

How has loneliness impacted your life?
What relational fears do you have when it comes to connection? How do you deal with these fears?
What have you done to deal with loneliness in your life?

By the end of this episode, our hope is that you will feel less lonely and have some strategies for the next time this feeling shows up for you.

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Leadership in the Gay Community

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 24 Nov 2022 15:30:00 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel interviews Peter DeWitt from Gaywellness.com and they explore the topic of leadership in the gay community. Both Matt and Peter have been in leadership positions within the gay community over the last several years and they wanted to share what their experience has been like and how we can all be a leader in our own right. Come join us to learn what makes a great leader and how you can step into your power through leadership.

These are the questions that were explored in today’s episode:

What does leadership mean to you?
What makes a good leader?
What are the needs you see in the gay/queer community?
How can we develop more culture of connection in the gay/queer community?
What can people focus on to become great leaders in gay/queer spaces?

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Website link: www.gaywellness.com

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Having Difficult Conversations

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 17 Nov 2022 15:30:00 +0000

A difficult conversation is often the one thing standing in the way between you and greater connection. Many of us have a hard time with these conversations because we don't have the tools to navigate all of the emotions that arise when we feel vulnerable.

In this episode, we're discussing how to have these prickly conversations

Join us as we discuss how to navigate a conversation when you need to talk about topics charged with negative emotions.

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Intersectionality & Mental Health

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 10 Nov 2022 15:30:00 +0000

In this episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks some of the questions around intersectionality with guest Owin Pierson and the work he does as a mental health and Asian American Pacific Islander advocate.

Intersectionality is the acknowledgement that everyone has their own unique experiences of discrimination and oppression and we must consider everything and anything that can marginalise people ranging from gender, race, class, sexual orientation, physical ability, etc.

Today's episode is sponsored by The Silva Ultramind System

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Crying

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 03 Nov 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Researchers have established that crying releases oxytocin and endogenous opioids, also known as endorphins. These feel-good chemicals help ease both physical and emotional pain.

There are 3 different types of tears that we cry:

Basal: The tear ducts constantly secrete basal tears, which are a protein-rich antibacterial liquid that help to keep the eyes moist every time a person blinks.
Reflex: These are tears triggered by irritants such as wind, smoke, or onions. They are released to flush out these irritants and protect the eye.
Emotional: Humans shed tears in response to a range of emotions. These tears contain a higher level of stress hormones than other types of tears.

In today's episode, we're talking all about crying and its multiple benefits.

Specifically, we'll be talking about...

What has your journey with crying been like?
What benefits have you experienced from crying?
Do you practice crying?
How can the people out there listening learn to cry in a supportive and healthy way?
How can we support others to cry more?

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Masturbation

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 27 Oct 2022 14:00:00 +0000

Masturbation is a perfectly natural and healthy sexual activity that has many physical and mental benefits.

However, some question whether it is a harmful habit that leads to negative consequences in their personal life and relationships.

In this provocative and educational episode, Michael and Sex Coach, Craig Cassey answer your burning questions about masturbation, including topics such as:

The benefits of masturbation
When is it too much?
Masturbation while in a relationship
Is porn helpful or harmful?
Feeling guilty
Tips for mindful masturbation

Join Michael and Craig as they share their own experiences and provide their best coaching tips for more mindful masturbation..

Today's Guest

Craig Cassey is a professional life, executive, and sex coach. You can find Craig at www.craigcassey.com or on Instagram @craigcasseyjr

Today's Host

Michael DiIorio is a certified life and wellness coach. You can find Michael at www.wellismo.com or on Instagram @wellismo_coach. You can also join Michael's Sexual Empowerment Group.

The link between masturbation & risk of prostate cancer (2004 study)

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Lack of Trust in the Gay Community

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 20 Oct 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Trust takes a long time to build and only seconds to break. In this episode, we’re talking about how our trust issues impact our ability to connect with others. Specifically, we’ll be exploring questions such as:

What do you think has led to trust issues in the gay community?
How have trust issues impacted your relationships?
How can we begin to heal trust issues amongst gay men?

Join us to learn some practical tips on relating more authentically with others, especially if you’ve had a hard time trusting others in the gay community.

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The Psychological Impact of Conversion Therapy

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 13 Oct 2022 14:30:00 +0000

In this episode Matt Landsiedel interviews Dr. Lucas Wilson about the psychological impact of conversion therapy. They explore how shame and internalized homophobia are typically precursors to making someone susceptible to agreeing to do conversion therapy. Dr. Wilson shares his own personal experience with conversion therapy and how this experience has impacted his life. Both Matt and Dr. Wilson share how they have approached their own healing journey through shame and internalized homophobia and how to move through the trauma caused by conversion therapy.

These are the questions that were explored in this episode:

What is conversion therapy?
What is your personal experience with conversion therapy?
What impact did conversion therapy have on your psychology?
How is conversion therapy connected to religion?
What is affect theory and how does it relate to conversion therapy?
How can someone who has gone through conversion therapy begin to heal?

Born and raised in Toronto, Dr. Lucas Wilson is the Justice, Equity, and Transformation Postdoctoral Fellow at University of Calgary. He holds graduate degrees from McMaster University, Vanderbilt University, and Florida Atlantic University. He has authored several peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, and his public-facing work has appeared in The Advocate, Queerty, LGBTQ Nation, and Religion Dispatches, among other venues.

Connect with Dr. Lucas Wilson:

Website link: https://ucalgary.academia.edu/LucasWilson
Instagram: @lukeslamdunkwilson
Twitter: @wilson_fw
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/luke.wilson.96

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Trusting Yourself

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 06 Oct 2022 14:30:00 +0000

We often talk about trust in the context of trusting others, but in this episode, we’re focusing on how to build an internal sense of trust.

We’re exploring questions such as:

How do you know if you trust yourself?
What gets in the way of trusting yourself?
What is one thing you can do to build greater self-trust?

Join us for this informative conversation that will help you develop your relationship to self, and ultimately your relationship with others.

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Making Space for Being Uncomfortable

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 29 Sep 2022 14:30:00 +0000

In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon and guest Drummond Fulcher dive into the uncomfortable for a conversation that revolves around cancel culture, the "either you’re with me or against me (or us)" mentality, giving space for the in-between where conversation happens, how bridges are where understanding is born, and where we need to go in order to work through the uncomfortable feelings in order to learn and grow.

Together they unpack questions like:

Why do people avoid being uncomfortable?
How do you think cancel culture affects our community?
How do we make space in our lives for being uncomfortable and having hard conversations?

Take a listen to find out how you can better navigate uncomfortable conversations and begin building more bridges of understanding and compassion in your life today.

Your Questions Answered

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 22 Sep 2022 14:30:00 +0000

You asked and we answered!

In this episode, we're answering some of the juiciest questions from our community such as…

How to let go of the past?
Why can’t gay men find love?
How to get unstuck and move forward?

Join us as we cover topics such as shame, gay dating, self-confidence, and trust in this Q & A style discussion.

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Behind the Scenes of the Gay Men's Brotherhood

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 15 Sep 2022 14:30:00 +0000

In this very special

Our Community

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 08 Sep 2022 14:30:00 +0000

From the outside looking in, the queer community is seen as an inclusive space that celebrates diversity. Yet for many people, it feels quite exclusive and lonely.

In this episode, we are sharing our vision for the gay community and the different ways we are implementing this vision.

We’re talking about...

What exactly is our vision?
What are the different parts of our community?
Why is building this community important to each of us?
How we’ve changed from the beginning to today?
What is one thing we’re excited about co-creating for our community in the future?

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The Dark Night of the Soul

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 01 Sep 2022 14:00:00 +0000

Dark periods are an inevitable part of life that can happen at any moment and in any number of ways:

The death of a loved one
A terminal diagnosis
Job loss
Relationship breakdown

But what is the spiritual and psychological significance of this pain?

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael is joined by LGBTQ+ affirmative psychotherapist Justin Oberste to discuss the concept of the Dark Night of the Soul, including:

The 4 phases of a dark night of the soul
Sharing personal, real-life examples
The spiritual significance of dark periods
Tips for finding hope within the darkness

The 4 Phases of a Dark Night of the Soul - blog post referenced in today's episode

Connect with Justin

Website: www.justinoberste.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/justinoberste

Today's Host: Michael DiIorio

Website: https://www.wellismo.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/wellismo_coach/
Courses: learn.wellismo.com

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Mindset

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 25 Aug 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Your mind is a powerful tool that you can use to create a life that you love. Your mindset is your overall outlook on life and it will determine whether you remain stuck spinning your wheels or moving towards your goals and dreams.

In this episode, we’re looking specifically at the difference between the Fixed and Growth Mindsets. We will be discussing questions such as….

What type of mindset were you raised with (growth of fixed)? And what mindset do you have today?
How do you cultivate more of a growth mindset for yourself? What did you have to transform to become a more growth mindset-oriented?
What is your internal dialogue in a fixed mindset say to you vs. when you’re in a growth mindset?
What has helped you on your growth journey that may help our listeners?

By the end of this episode, you’ll feel motivated and inspired to leave behind the fixed mindset and shift into a growth mindset.

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Pretty Privilege

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 18 Aug 2022 14:30:00 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Andre-Lee Wills unpack the hot topic of pretty privilege.

Pretty privilege works on the principle that people who are deemed more attractive—based on accepted societal beauty standards—have an upper hand in the world and are afforded many opportunities that less “attractive” people don't have. Yet, it's not often that people are willing to admit it—or even talk about it—especially if they’re on the receiving end of its benefits.

Here is what Matt and Andre-Lee explored in this episode:

What is pretty privilege?
What is your personal experience with pretty privilege?
Why is this topic important for gay men to discuss?
What does it mean to be attractive?
Why does our culture place so much emphasis on attractiveness?
How does pretty privilege relate to ageism, racism or sexism?
How can we start to deconstruct the system that is conditioning us to be so limited in our definition of attractive?

Connect with Andre-Lee:

Andre-Lee Wills is an Empowerment Coach. He uses his unique gifts and talents to offer guidance, support, and assistance to others in being an expression of their truest and highest self. He is adept in career coaching, life and relationship coaching, communication, team building, and organizational management.

mrandreleewills@gmail.com

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Open and Closed Relationships (Vol. 2)

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 11 Aug 2022 14:30:00 +0000

As more people are choosing to explore non-monogamous relationships, the discussion about open and closed relationships can be divisive and unhelpful.

In today's episode, we are having an open conversation about open and closed relationships that will enrich your understanding of the many different types of relationships out there and help you figure out what's right for you. We will cover questions such as:

What is the ideal relationship structure for you?
How do you handle jealousy in your relationships?
Which of your needs do you expect your primary partner to meet and which needs can be met outside the relationship?
What tips will help someone decide which relationship structure works for them?

Listen to this episode to get some fresh and insightful perspectives on this hot topic.

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Community Inclusion

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 04 Aug 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Recognizing and understanding privilege can be a hard pill to swallow for some. It means admitting you’re not perfect and possibly “looking bad,” which we were all taught growing up not to do.

In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks some of the hard questions around community inclusion with guest Raymond Jordan Johnson-Brown and the work they do as an indigenous wellness leader. Raymond, who uses they/them pronouns, is passionate about creating connections for marginalized groups and having courageous conversations around these sometimes hard topics.

Together they explore questions like...

How do you think people are “missing the mark” when it comes to inclusivity for racialized folks?
How has your lived experience inspired your work?
What is intersectionality?
What are some of the ways the queer community has contributed/participated in systems of harm?
What could a path forward look like to create an equitable world?

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a better understanding of how you can be more courageous about getting uncomfortable and having those sometimes difficult conversations around inclusivity.

Follow Raymond on Instagram: @TheOnlyRJJB

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Sexual Empowerment

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 28 Jul 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Sex is a natural part of the human experience yet many people sense a lot of shame and insecurity around the topic.

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we want to help you become more sexually empowered. We will be discussing things like…

What does sexual empowerment mean to you?
What makes you feel sexually empowered?
What makes you feel sexually disempowered?
What is one tip you can share with the audience to feel more sexually empowered?

By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to improve your own unique relationship with sex and sexuality so that you can enjoy the sex you want on your terms.

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Shiny Object Syndrome

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 21 Jul 2022 14:00:00 +0000

Shiny Object Syndrome (SOS) is the tendency chase after things that are new and exciting, keeping you in a state of perpetually looking for “the next best thing”.

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael invites psychiatrist Dr. Hector Rodriguez to discuss how Shiny Object Syndrome affects gay men in life and in relationships. They’ll cover topics such as:

SOS in dating apps
The link between perfectionism and SOS
The role of social media
The fear of genuine intimacy
The impact on mental health
How you can overcome SOS

By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to recognize where SOS is showing up in your life and how you can overcome it.

Connect with Dr. Hector

Website: https://www.doctorhector.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drhector511/

Today's Host: Michael DiIorio

Website: https://www.wellismo.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/wellismo_coach/
Sexual Empowerment: Sexual Empowerment 101

"The Rise of the A-Gay" - GQ Magazine article referenced in today's episode

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Bottom Shaming

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 14 Jul 2022 14:30:00 +0000

One of the most common forms of sexual shaming we see in the gay community is towards bottoming. The closed-minded narratives that are perpetuated around receptive anal sex reflect a patriarchal belief system that inhibits our growth as a community.

In this episode, we're tackling the topic of bottom shaming and exploring questions like...

Where do you think bottom shaming stems from?
Why do you think bottom shaming keeps being perpetuated in the community?
How do you think we as a community can start moving away from bottom shaming and start empowering ourselves?

Join us as we unpack the causes and effects of sexual shaming and understand how we all play a role in elevating the dialogue around sex and sexuality.

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Introduction to Breathwork

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 07 Jul 2022 15:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel speaks with certified SOMA Breath breathwork instructor Jason Samadhi.

Jason takes us on a journey into the power of breathwork and how consciously connecting with your breath can be one of the most potent tools for healing. By sharing the science of breathwork, Jason teaches us about the health benefits of working with your breath and how it can be used to improve performance both in and out of the bedroom.

Jason then takes us on an hour long breathwork journey that will leave you feeling expansive and blissful. You do not want to miss this episode!

What is explored in this episode:

BREATHWORK DISCLAIMER

Breathwork is NOT advised if you have a known cardiac arrhythmia (including very slow heart rate), a history of heart block, or are taking certain antipsychotic medications. Please review and acknowledge the Breathwork Liability Waiver

Recommended Book: “Multi-Orgasmic Man” by Mantak Chia

Connect with Jason:

@samadhibreath & www.samadhibreath.com

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Ego

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 30 Jun 2022 14:30:00 +0000

One of the greatest obstacles along the spiritual path is an overactive ego - that fear-based part of you that needs to control outcomes and win at all costs.

But having an ego is necessary to the human experience, so how can we reconcile both the ego self and spiritual self?

In this episode, we’re explaining how understanding your ego can actually benefit your spiritual practice. We’re answering questions such as:

How do you distinguish between your ego self and spiritual self?
How do you regulate your ego?
How can you develop a greater connection to the Spiritual Self?

Join us for this thought-provoking episode as we go deeper into the concepts of spirit and ego.

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Navigating Non-Binary

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Change can be scary. And in today’s world of ever-evolving language around gender and identity, it can make it hard for someone to ask questions without feeling judged or misunderstood.

In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon opens up the conversation around navigating non-binary with genderqueer author Jason June and what his journey was like and how it now informs his work as a writer.

Together they explore questions like…

What is Non-Binary and what does it mean to be non-binary?
What’s the most important thing people need to know about Non-binary and genderqueer people?
Why do you think we’re experiencing more of a conversation around gender and gender identities in recent years?
and much more!

After this episode, you'll have a better understanding of the term Non-Binary and how you can navigate this ever-evolving and growing landscape around gender and identity.

About today’s Guest: Jason June (it's a two-name first name, like Mary-Kate without the hyphen or the Olsen twin) is a genderqueer writer mermaid who loves to create picture books that mix the flamboyantly whacky with the slightly dark, and young adult contemporary rom-coms full of love and lust and hijinks.

When not writing, JJ zips about Austin, Texas. He loves dinosaurs, unicorns, Pomeranians, and anything magical that takes you to a different world or time. JJ is a tried and true Laura Dern stan, and he is actively looking for an Andalite friend.

Connect with Jason June:

Website: https://www.heyjasonjune.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyjasonjune/
Books: https://www.heyjasonjune.com/books.html

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Spirituality

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 16 Jun 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Spirituality is an umbrella term that means many different things to many people. In this episode, we’re revealing our own experience with spirituality and spiritual practices by exploring these questions:

What does spirituality mean to you?
What in your life brought you to spirituality?
What does your spiritual practice involve?
Where can someone start if they want to develop a spiritual practice?

Whether you’re spiritual or religious or neither, this episode will give you much to think about when it comes to nurturing that deeper connection to something greater.

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Guilt, Shame, and Religion

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 09 Jun 2022 14:00:00 +0000

Guilt and shame are two of the most challenging emotions we encounter. For those who grew up with a religious or spiritual belief system, guilt and shame can have a uniquely traumatic impact on your sense of self and in your relationships.

In this episode, host Michael DiIorio speaks with inter-faith community leader, Jeremy Russo, who has used his experience with spiritual abuse to become a leader in the queer community helping others overcoming their own spiritual and religious trauma.

In this episode we cover:

The similarities and differences between guilt and shame
What is spiritual abuse and religious trauma
The unique impact this has on queer people
Resources and tips to help along your healing journey

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, this episode will help you better understand and navigate your way through guilt and shame.

TODAY'S GUEST: Jeremy Russo of Emerge, an inter-faith and ecumenical space for the “nones and dones,” LGBTQIA+ people, women, people of color, individuals with different abilities, ex-vangelicals, and anyone who feels like their voice and spiritual journey was discouraged or silenced by institutional churches.

Connect with Emerge on Facebook or Instagram

TODAY'S HOST: Michael DiIorio is a certified life and wellness coach specializing in self-confidence, sexuality, and relationships. Connect with Michael on Instagram or www.wellismo.com.

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Toxic Positivity

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 02 Jun 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Toxic positivity is the belief that people should maintain a positive mindset, no matter how challenging a situation may be. This belief invalidates your authentic emotions and is a form of avoidance.

In this episode, we're sharing our own experiences and understanding of toxic positivity and we'll answer the questions:

What are your thoughts on toxic positivity and the effects it has on silencing negative emotions and experiences?
What’s been your experience with pushing away negative emotions and how did it affect your mental health?
How have you learned to embrace all of your emotions and honour them in healthy ways?
What tips or practices can someone try if they’re just learning to engage with their negative emotions?

By the end of this episode, you'll have a deeper understanding of how toxic positivity may be showing up in your own life, and what you can do about it.

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Embracing Opposites

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 26 May 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Have you ever found yourself conflicted about being top, bottom or vers?

Or maybe you find yourself torn between whether or not you want monogamy or non-monogamy...

Sometimes we can see pros and cons on both sides of our inner conflicts and it paralyzes us from making decisions.

Being conflicted about your desires is completely normal.

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Miguel Ezra Ramirez talk about polarity in life and how to navigate contradictions, preferences and the duality of the human experience.

As human beings, we can’t have sadness without knowing happiness, and we can’t understand clarity without first knowing confusion - this is polarity. We are all navigating ourselves and this world through our minds and our souls, and the polarity of this experience can be overwhelming for some people.

We created this episode to guide you towards embracing more of who you are and what this universe has to offer you through learning to let go of preferences or attachments and embrace opposites. Come on this ride with us and you might learn something new about yourself.

Together they explore concepts like:

What is dualism and polarity?
Matt and Miguel's personal experiences with dualism and polarity
How holding on too tightly to preferences might be inhibiting your growth
How fear prevents us from being able to embrace opposites
How can someone begin to embrace opposites?

Connect with Miguel:

@miguelramirezintuitive

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Emotional Health

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 19 May 2022 14:30:00 +0000

While emotional health falls under the overall umbrella of mental health, it deserves its own conversation because your emotions have a profound impact on how you show up in the world and your overall quality of life.

This episode will answer questions such as:

What does it mean to be emotionally healthy?
How can you tell when your emotional health may be suffering?
How do you handle challenging emotions?
What are some simple things you can do to support your emotional health?

By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped with loads of useful tips and skills that will support your emotional health.

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Depression

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 12 May 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Depression is one of the most common mental health conditions in the United States that affects an estimated 17.3 million adults and 3.2 million adolescents according to the National Institute of Mental Health.

Research shows that gay and bisexual men are at a higher risk for: Major depression, Bipolar disorder, and, Generalized anxiety disorder, and are more likely than heterosexual men to attempt suicide.

In today's episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks the heaviness around depression with guest and therapist, Jacob Monkarsh (LMFT & CGP).

Together they explore questions like:

What is depression and how does it affect a person?
Is it possible for someone to be depressed without knowing it? What are the signs and symptoms someone should be aware of?
What are the biggest triggers for gay men struggling with depression?
How can someone currently struggling with depression work to get out of the cycle?
How can people best support someone struggling with depression?

During the episode, Jacob asked a very important question concerning gay men and our childhood experiences: "What happens when someone can't connect with themself?" and as children, we often can't connect with ourselves fully once we realize something is "different" about us and we begin hiding who we truly are, but is that creating disassociation within us and our community?

Listen to his answer and more in today's episode.

Guest: Jacob Monkarsh

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- Therapy Options -

Inkblot Therapy - Canada Based
Mind Beacon - Free Therapy for Ontario Residents
Open Path - Affordable Options
Psychology Today - search for clinicians that take insurance OR have sliding scales
Good Therapy - Sliding Scale Therapists
Try looking up local counselling centres like Southern California Counseling Center or the Los Angeles LGBT Center.

Suicide

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 05 May 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Each year, over 800,000 people die from suicide and it is the 2nd leading cause of death among 10-24 year olds.

The LGBTQ community has a significantly increased risk and that’s why we’re dedicating an episode to having a candid conversation about suicide.

In this episode, we’ll answer questions such as:

How have you been impacted by suicide?
What are some of the stigmas around suicide?
What is your advice to someone who is feeling suicidal?
As a community, how can we best support someone who is suicidal?

If you are feeling suicidal please reach out for support:

Trevor project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/
Crisis Services Canada: https://www.crisisservicescanada.ca/en/
Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention: https://suicideprevention.ca/
Suicide and Language: https://www.suicideinfo.ca/resource/suicideandlanguage/
USA national suicide prevention hotline: 1.800.273.8255

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Mirroring In The Gay Community

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 28 Apr 2022 14:00:00 +0000

Your environment plays an important role in developing a strong identity and sense of self. Everything from the people you spend time with, where you get your news, and the social media accounts you follow will influence your sense of belonging in a community.

In this episode, LGBTQ+ affirmative psychotherapist Justin Oberste joins host, Michael DiIorio to discuss mirroring: how we reflect back our lived experience with the world around us. Today’s episode will answer these questions:

What is mirroring?
How can this strengthen our sense of self?
How does this impact our relationships?
How can we use this to elevate the gay community as a whole?

By the end of this episode, you’ll understand how developing a more conscious approach to your environmental influences can have a positive impact on your sense of self, relationships with others, and the greater community.

For more info on today's guest, Justin Oberste, visit his website or find him on instagram @justinoberste.

Today's host: Michael DiIorio

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Building Better Relationships

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 21 Apr 2022 14:30:00 +0000

Relationships can be a minefield to navigate when you don't have the right tools or language to help you. Whether it's romantic or platonic ones, we all could use a little more guidance and support with it comes to creating more secure, healthy relationships.

In this episode, we're giving you a sneak peek into our exciting new course, Building Better Relationships, where we guide you on how to build better relationships in your life as well as deepen the one you have with yourself.

Today we're sharing our personal experiences with the course content and how it helped us improve our own relationships. Join us as we discuss…

Which of the course modules we have experienced the most growth personally?
Which lessons are we currently working on now in our own lives?
What was our favourite lesson to teach?
What are the biggest benefits for students going through the Building Better Relationships course?

By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of what all relationships need in order to grow and deepen as well as our outline for the Building Better Relationships course.

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Or, take our "Building Better Relationships" course at your own pace with our self-study option here: "Building Better Relationships" course (self-study)

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Fitness, Nutrition & Mental Health

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 14 Apr 2022 14:00:00 +0000

In today’s episode, host Matt Landsiedel speaks with Nutrition Coach Scott Weisgarber about the relationship between fitness, nutrition and mental health.

Together they explore questions like:

What is the relationship between fitness, nutrition and mental health?
How come gay men are so concerned about physical health and appearance?
How does this obsession with appearance impact mental health?
The difference between approaching health from feel good vs look good mentality
How can we find more balance in our relationship between mind and body?

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Intimacy

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 07 Apr 2022 14:00:00 +0000

Intimacy is defined as the feeling of mutual vulnerability and closeness in personal relationships.

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re talking about our unique experiences with intimacy as gay men.

We’ll answer questions such as:

What does intimacy mean to you?
What was an intimate experience you’ve had that was not sexual?
What unique challenges do gay men face when it comes to intimacy?
How can you nurture intimacy in any kind of relationship?

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a more in-depth understanding of the different types of intimacy and what it takes to enjoy deeper and more authentic connections with friends and loved ones.

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Grappling with Grief: Addison Brasil

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 31 Mar 2022 14:15:00 +0000

Grief can be a hard experience to navigate because nothing can really prepare you for deep and emotional loss. It's something that everyone will have to experience at least a few times in their life and each person's experience with it is going to be different.

In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon is joined by special guest Addison Brasil to talk about his journey with grief after the lose his brother to cancer, find his father from suicide and survive a fatal event that killed a dear friend and left him needing to relearn how to walk and deal with a brain injury. After 13 years in the grief arena, Addison has learned a thing or two about grief and shares what has helped him in his new book "First Year Of Grief Club: A Gift From A Friend Who Gets It."

By the end of this episode, you should have at least a few more tools in your belt that can help you navigate grief whenever it might come up in your life.

Guest: Addison Brasil

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Secure Relationships

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 24 Mar 2022 14:00:00 +0000

Relationships have a natural rhythm between feeling connected to your partner, and other times feeling disconnected from them. Each end of the spectrum can trigger different fears: the fear of being too close and/or the fear of abandonment. Understanding attachment styles helps you see how these fears show up in your relationships.

In this episode, we're exploring our attachment styles and sharing ways we can find a greater sense of security in the naturals ebbs and flows of connection in relationships.

We're answering questions such as:

What attachment style(s) do you most relate to and why?
What has prevented you from having secure relationships in the past?
What does a secure relationship look like for you?
What inner work have you done to have a more secure relationship style?

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Love, Intimacy & Connection: Vol. 2

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 17 Mar 2022 14:00:00 +0000

In this juicy and personal episode, Michael is letting you take a behind-the-scenes peek into his relationship with his partner, Star.

While vacationing in Mexico, they are opening up about the lessons learned after one year together. Specifically, they're talking about relationship dynamics including conflict, intimacy, and communication.

They'll be answering questions such as:

How have they grown over the last year?
What have been their biggest challenges?
How do they handle conflict?
What are some communication do's and don'ts?

This intimate and honest conversation between partners is full of tips and advice for couples and singles alike.

Referenced in today's show- Episode 20: Love, Intimacy, & Connection (behind the scenes of a modern gay relationship)

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Heartbreak & Breakups

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 10 Mar 2022 15:15:00 +0000

The painful sting of heartbreak is a uniquely awful experience that brings up a lot of our wounds around abandonment and rejection. In today's episode, we're getting raw and real about our heartbreak and breakups.

We'll be answering questions such as:

What was your hardest breakup and why?
What do you need when you go through a breakup and how do you usually manage it?
What have been some of the biggest life lessons you’ve learned through heartbreak?
Looking back, what are you grateful for about your past dating experiences?

Listen to this personal and poignant episode to learn how heartbreak can be a valuable part of your personal growth and development.

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The Sensitive Gay Man

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 03 Mar 2022 16:00:00 +0000

Sensitivity is one of the most misunderstood temperament traits due to toxic gender norms and stereotypes about masculinity and femininity. Come learn about the science of sensitivity and ditch the stigma you may have inherited about what it means to be a sensitive gay man.

In today’s episode, host Matt Landsiedel unpacks all you need to know about sensitivity with Clinical Psychologist Dr. Chris Horan.

Together they explore questions like:

What does it mean to be sensitive? (the science and the stigma)
What is a Highly Sensitive Person?
Our sensitivity stories
Unique challenges of being a sensitive man
Why do gay men and HSP have such similar struggles?
Challenges we face as sensitive people
Benefits of being a sensitive person

Take the HSP test to find out if you are a Highly Sensitive Person

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Forgiveness

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 24 Feb 2022 15:30:00 +0000

Forgiveness is a necessary part of the healing process. When we are able to truly forgive others, we liberate ourselves from the pain of the experience so we can find peace and move on. But forgiveness isn't always easy

In this episode, we're here to help you out by answering questions such as:

Do you find it harder to forgive or to apologize?
Can you truly ‘forgive and forget’?
How can you tell if an apology is sincere?
What advice do you have for people who have a hard time with forgiveness?

Whether you're asking forgiveness or forgiving others, join us to learn how you can heal these emotional wounds and find peace within.

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Therapy

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 17 Feb 2022 15:30:00 +0000

Therapy is crucial for our mental health, yet some people still look at it as unobtainable due to financial struggle. There are also still myths around Therapy that say you’re weak if you need to go, you’re less of a man if you want to talk about your emotions, and that Therapy is only for “other people who are broken.”

In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks all you need to know about Therapy with licensed marriage and family Therapist, Jake Myers, who’s also founder and CEO of LGBTQ Therapy Space and writes a regular column for Queerty.com.

Together they explore questions like:

Why is it important LGBTQ+ peoples have access to specialize therapists from the community?
What are some of the old myths about therapy that just aren’t true?
How long does someone usually go to therapy?
Where can someone find funding or support if they don’t have the means right now to cover the costs of Therapy?

By the end of this episode, you’ll have broken down the myths about Therapy and you’ll have the knowledge on how to start (or continue) your own Therapy journey.

Guest: Jake Myers

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- Therapy Options -

Inkblot Therapy - Canada Based
Mind Beacon - Free Therapy for Ontario Residents
Open Path - Affordable Options
Psychology Today - search for clinicians that take insurance OR have sliding scales
Good Therapy - Sliding Scale Therapists
Try looking up local counselling centres like Southern California Counseling Center or the Los Angeles LGBT Center.

Victimhood

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 10 Feb 2022 15:30:00 +0000

Whether we're aware of it or not, we all have an inner victim within us that needs to be acknowledged. Processing this can be uncomfortable and triggering, but it is necessary in order to grow and evolve beyond it.

In this episode, we're talking about victimhood both at the macro level as queer people, right down to the micro level as individuals. We are answering questions such as:

How have we been victimized as gay men?
What impact do you see in our community from this victimization?
What is your personal experience with victimhood?
How have you moved through victimhood?
What advice can you offer people who may be stuck in victimhood?

By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of how victimhood is showing up in your life and how you can take the first steps to move through it.

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Betting on Yourself

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 03 Feb 2022 16:00:00 +0000

Your life is a series of choices. Sometimes those choices will ask you to bet on yourself - to pursue what you love, even if there is an emotional risk in doing so. When you bet on yourself, you awaken a world of possibility. When you bet against yourself, you always lose.

In this episode of, Michael is joined by Alex Ray as they talk about what it means to bet on yourself and why doing so can help you get unstuck and feeling more enthusiastic about your life.

Today's Guest: Alex Ray

https://coachalexray.com/
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Tips for Motivation

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 27 Jan 2022 15:30:00 +0000

We all have those days when motivation is hard to come by. Whether you’re lacking time, energy, or inspiration, this episode will give you the useful tips you need to get and stay motivated. We answer questions like:

What helps you get motivated?
What are your biggest motivation distractors and how do you avoid them?
What keeps you on track with your goals and deadlines?

By the end of the episode, you’ll be ready to slay your goals and start taking action towards them.

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Discovering Authenticity Through Embodiment

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 20 Jan 2022 16:00:00 +0000

In this episode Matt speaks with Gay Olympian, Kung Fu Master, QTBIPOC Counselor and Shaman Devante Love. They talk about how to heal and discover your most authentic self through connecting with the body. Here are the questions explored in this episode:

►What does authenticity mean to you?

►What does embodiment mean to you?

►What is the connection between the body, our thoughts, our emotions?

►Why is it important for gay men in the 21st century especially to engage in embodiment practices?

►Forces that exist in society that have/can cause us to become disembodied: Capitalism, technology, colonialism, religion

►How do we become more embodied?

►Importance of developing a lexicon for bodily sensations

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Personal Transformation

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 13 Jan 2022 15:30:00 +0000

Personal transformation can be fun when it comes to setting goals and imagining the possibilities of the future, but things get tricky when it comes time to execute these plans.

In this episode, we are going deeper on the topic of personal transformation. We’ll be exploring questions like:

What does ‘personal transformation’ mean and why is it important?
What is the most challenging part of changing yourself?
What is the best advice for anyone who is serious about personal transformation?

By the end of this episode, you’ll have the inside scoop on how to make your personal transformation last.

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Dating & Disabilities

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 06 Jan 2022 15:30:00 +0000

Dating is already a minefield to the everyday gay, add living with a disability to the mix and things get even more complicated. In today's episode host Calan Breckon explores the DO's and DON'Ts around dating and disabilities in the gay community. He's joined by special guests David Oliver Wudel and Ryan Michael Williams who both live with different levels of cerebral palsy.

In this episode, we're unpacking questions like:

What is acceptable vocabulary and what is no longer acceptable?
What’s the biggest struggle about being a gay man with a disability?
How can someone ask questions without coming across as an ignorant ass?
and what's the most important thing the community needs to know when it comes to our gay brothers living with a disability?

At the end of the day, we're all just looking for the same thing: love and acceptance.

David Oliver Wudel: 6wheelco.com / @6wheelco

Ryan Michael Williams: @ryanmwilliams82

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Emotional Intelligence

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 30 Dec 2021 15:30:00 +0000

Emotions can cause a lot of unnecessary suffering when we are not equipped with the tools to manage them. In this episode, we are exploring what it means to have emotional intelligence: the idea of knowing our feelings, what they mean, and how they affect others.

Listen in as we share:

How we describe our relationship with our emotions
How we avoid our emotions
What situations bring up a lot of emotions for us
Our greatest learning about emotions

By the end of this episode, you'll realize that you have far more influence over your emotional well being than you give yourself credit for.

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Sex Positivity

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 15:30:00 +0000

Your sexuality is yours, and how you express it is the fun of life. But for so many of us, sex is wrapped up in shame. In this episode, Michael has a candid conversation with special guest, Mike Iamele, about sex positivity and sexual confidence. Together, they explore:

What is sex positivity?
The link between shame and sexual desire
How to be more sexually confident

Michael also volunteers to have his sensitivities mapped to illustrate how your sensitivities and desires are linked. By the end of this episode, you'll feel more empowered to be authentically you- both in and out of the bedroom.

Mike Iamele: mikeiamele.com/map / @mikeiamele

Michael DiIorio: www.wellismo.com / @wellismo_coach

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Dating Apps

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 16 Dec 2021 15:30:00 +0000

Dating apps are one of the most common ways we connect with other gay men. Yet many people struggle to make the connections they seek, and many more give up altogether... at least for a little while.

In this episode, we're sharing many years of combined experience with using dating apps, specifically:

What are some best practices and a rule of thumb when using dating apps?
How can someone find success using dating apps?
What's the biggest mistake people make on dating apps?
What’s the # 1 thing people don’t include on their profiles that they should include?

Whether you love them or hate them, by the end of this episode you'll have some fresh perspectives and ideas to use next time you reach for the app.

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Sex and Porn Addiction

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 16:00:00 +0000

In this episode Matt interviews Psychotherapist and Clinical Sexologist, Dr. Joe Kort about Sex and Porn Addiction. Dr. Kort shares his 36 years of clinical experience working with sex addiction and compulsive sexual behaviors. In this episode we unpacked the following questions:

How do you define addiction?
What is the difference between compulsion and addiction?
How come you stopped labeling it sex addiction and now refer to compulsivity instead?
Why do gay men tend to struggle with sex and porn compulsivity?
What are your thoughts on gay men and intimacy disorders?
How does sex and porn compulsions impact one’s ability to develop intimacy?
What is a common course of treatment you would used to treat sex and porn compulsions?
What is one thing someone struggling with sex and porn compulsions can do to support themselves?

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Fake vs. Real Confidence

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 02 Dec 2021 15:30:00 +0000

About today's show

Self-confidence looks like a lot of different things, depending on who you ask. In this episode, we're shedding some light on the difference between fake confidence and real confidence. We'll be looking at:

What does it mean to be truly self-confident?
How do you tell the difference between fake confidence and real confidence?
What are some unique challenges gay men face with respect to building confidence?
What are some habits that help develop greater self-confidence?

By the end of this episode, you'll be feeling inspired and empowered to be more authentically you.

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Never Been In Love

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 25 Nov 2021 15:30:00 +0000

About today's show

Have you ever seen that movie "Never Been Kissed" with Drew Barrymore? Well, today is kind of the adult gay man version of that story...only with love.

I'm sure many gay men out there can relate to Tyler Boyle's story of being a 30' something gay man who still has yet to fall in love. After being a late bloomer Tyler found himself navigating a very different dating world compared to his heteronormative past life. Along his journey, he figured out 4 key things to help him navigate this new gay world and to hopefully, one day, find love.

Therapy Options: Inkblot Therapy

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Tyler Boyle @monsieurboyle

www.tylercboyle.com / www.dreamwalkersmeditations.com

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Personal and Relational Boundaries

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 18 Nov 2021 15:30:00 +0000

About today's show

Personal and Relational Boundaries are easy to talk about but can be challenging to implement. In this episode, we're sharing how setting and honouring boundaries is an act of self-care and ultimately helps increase your sense of self-love. These are the questions we'll be discussing:

What do boundaries mean to you?
What are some things you practice setting boundaries for?
How do you know when you need to set a boundary?
What are some fears that come up for you when setting boundaries?

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Queer & Christian

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 11 Nov 2021 16:00:00 +0000

About today's show

While homosexuality and Christianity are often incompatible, there are many people who must navigate both. In this episode, Michael hosts a panel discussion with 3 queer men who grew up in the Christian faith. They are sharing their experiences in the church including how they came to terms with their sexuality.

Even if you don’t consider yourself religious or spiritual, their stories will inspire you and illustrate that despite our differences, we have more in common than you think.

TODAY'S GUESTS

Matthew Wood @mosesmihyke / moses74656@gmail.com
Kaaron Peters
Justin Oberste @justinoberste / justin@justinoberste.com

TODAY'S HOST

Michael DiIorio @wellismo_coach / michael@wellismo.com
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Getting Your Needs Met

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 04 Nov 2021 14:30:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

We all have needs that, when met, allow us to live more authentically and enjoy more fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode, we're talking about getting these needs met and will unpack questions such as:

What self-care practices do you have in place to ensure you are meeting your personal needs?
How do you know when you’re out of alignment with your needs and no longer being authentic?
What tips and advice do you have that have helped you along the way to figuring out how to meet your own needs?

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Self-Love

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 28 Oct 2021 14:30:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Come spend the hour with Matt Landsiedel and Jerome Braggs to learn more about self-love. Jerome Braggs is a highly-gifted Intuitive Empath, Inspirational Speaker, Writer + Poet, and Psychopomp. He shares so eloquently with the listeners how he moved closer to wholeness and love for himself by healing shame. Jerome also shares his powerful story of a near-death experience that completely transformed him. He identifies this as being pivotal to learning what the essence of love is and how to access it more freely.

Some of the questions we’re answering are:

What is self love?
What is the difference between self love and self worth?
How come gay men seem to struggle so much with self love and self worth?
What gets in the way of us loving ourselves?
What are some things we can do to develop more self love?

By the end of this episode, you’ll be feeling a little more connected to love and have new wisdom and tools to develop more self-love.

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Everyday Courage

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 21 Oct 2021 15:00:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

We are all courageous if you look closely enough. On today's episode, we're talking about Everyday Courage- those small, simple acts of courage that we all experience, yet often overlook.

Some of the questions we're answering are:

What does it mean to be courageous?
What gives us courage? (and takes it away)
How can you show courage in your everyday life?

By the end of this episode, you'll be feeling a little more courageous in your own life to be able to face your fears and take steps towards greater empowerment and self-expression.

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Why LGBTQ+ Representation in Literature is Important with Author Robbie Couch

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 14 Oct 2021 14:30:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Queer representation in stories and literature is starting to make its way into the mainstream market and big publishing houses. It's still a long road before we see LGBTQ+ books being promoted by big publishing houses as the new norm but with the help of today's guest, we're on track to getting there!

On today's show, Calan Breckon has a sit-down with author Robbie Couch to talk about why queer representation is so important in literature and how he managed to find success going the traditional publishing house route with Simon & Schuster.

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SoulBound/Metahuman by Hailey Turner, The Magpie Lord by KJ Charles, Forsaken Fae by R.A. Steffan, Widdershins by Jordan L. Hawk, Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Sáenz, Running with Lions by Julian Winters, Jay's Gay Agenda by Jason June, You Should See Me in a Crown by Leah Johnson, Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli, Adam Silvera.

Books and Authors mentioned in today's episode:

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Normalizing Fear

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 07 Oct 2021 11:00:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Fear is a natural human emotion that is often misunderstood. In this episode, we’re sharing our personal experiences with fear and giving some tangible tips on dealing with fear in your own life so that you can release the suffering that it often brings. We’ll answer questions like:

1. How do you experience fear?

2. What are some things you’re afraid of?

3. What are some strategies you use to overcome fear?

This episode will show you that you’re not alone in your fear and in fact, it may just be the perfect opportunity for the next step of your personal development.

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Your Questions Answered on Non-Monogamous Relationships

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 30 Sep 2021 15:00:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

In this episode, Michael welcomes back special guest, Craig Cassey, to answer your questions about gay relationships, sex, and monogamy. Our episode on Non-Monogamous Relationships generated quite a bit of discussion, so today we are responding back to some of your juiciest comments and questions, such as:

How do I make a long-term relationship work?
How do I bring up the topic of openness with my partner?
How do I work through guilt and jealousy?

Join us for yet another candid discussion that will help you build stronger relationships with others and with yourself. Craig Cassey is a professional life, executive, and sex coach. You can find Craig at www.craigcassey.com or on Instagram at @craigcasseyjr

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FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 23 Sep 2021 11:00:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

The Fear of Missing Out (a.k.a FOMO) tells us that if we could just be somewhere else, do something else, or be with someone else, we would be “better.” All it really does though is take us out of the present moment and creates unnecessary anxiety. In this episode, we’ll answer these questions:

1. What sparks FOMO in you?

2. Where do you think FOMO really comes from?

3. What can we do to alleviate and work through our FOMO?

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Transforming Limiting Beliefs

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 11:00:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

In this episode, Matt speaks with Holistic Practitioner, Andrew Rowe about transforming limiting beliefs. Andrew and Matt share their best spiritual and psychological wisdom on how to shed those beliefs that are no longer serving us. Limiting beliefs tend to be the culprits that are preventing us from becoming our most authentic and confident selves. Time to learn how to let them go.

Here is what you can expect to learn from the episode:

● What are beliefs?

● How are limited beliefs formed?

● How do limiting beliefs show up in our lives?

● How do you transform-limited beliefs?

● What are common beliefs you help gay men transform?

● What can our listeners do to start to make this transformation to their limiting beliefs?

You can connect with Andrew on Instagram at @andrewrowe111

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Self-Acceptance

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 11:00:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

We all want things for ourselves and our lives: more confidence, more love, more connection. But we can’t get to more if we don’t begin by accepting exactly where we are in the present, flaws and all. Join us on this episode as we unpack these questions:

1. What does it mean to accept yourself?

2. What are the practical benefits of self-acceptance?

3. How can you develop greater self-acceptance?

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Coming Out Later in Life

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 02 Sep 2021 11:00:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Not all of us had the luxury of being able to come out at a young age and enjoyed the benefits of long fought for rights. There are many men around the world who still have to live in the closet due to fear of safety and many other reasons.

Today Calan Breckon hosts an open discussion with 3 amazing men who all came out later in life. Each one of them has a unique experience to offer through their own coming-out story. You can come out at 40, 50, 60, at any age really, and still have an amazing and fulfilling life living authentically true to who you are.

Thank you, Ron, DJ and Phil for sharing your stories of finding light at the end of the tunnel. If you think it’s too late for you, think again! It’s never too late <3

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People Pleasing

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 26 Aug 2021 11:00:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

What is ‘people pleasing’ and how is it different from simply wanting to be nice to others? In this episode, we’re diving into this very common pattern that tends to have a unique flavour for gay men. We’ll answer questions such as:

– how has people pleasing impacted your life?

– why do gay men start people pleasing in the first place?

– how can you start to overcome people pleasing?

Psychology Today Reference

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Non-Monogamous Relationships

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 19 Aug 2021 15:11:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

There is a cultural shift occurring where more people are questioning whether traditional monogamy is right for them.

In this episode, Michael has a candid and informative conversation with professional life & sex coach, Craig Cassey about alternative relationship structures.

From monogamy to polyamory and everything in between, this illuminating episode answers questions such as

What are different relationship structures and what do they look like?

How do you know what’s right for you?

How do you find people who want what you want?

How do you communicate this sensitive topic with your partner or potential partners?

Craig Cassey is a professional life, executive, and sex coach. You can find Craig at www.craigcassey.com or on Instagram @craigcasseyjr

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Finding Your Inner Circle

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 12 Aug 2021 15:10:00 +0000

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About Today’s Show

Your inner circle are the people who you can count on to ride life's highs and support you through the lows. They can help us foster greater trust, intimacy, and vulnerability. On today's episode, we're sharing who is in our inner circle, why they are important, and what you can do to find and connect with these people in your own life.

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Sexual Consent with Court Vox

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 05 Aug 2021 15:10:00 +0000

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In this episode, Matt speaks with Sex and Intimacy Consultant Court Vox about sexual consent. The term “consent” is becoming a lot more common in the gay community as men learn to honour and value their need for safety within their sexual and intimate relationships. Come spend an hour with Matt and Court as they unpack the following questions:

-What is consent?

-Implied consent vs actual consent?

-Why do many gay men struggle with consent?

-How does the hyper-sexualized culture of the gay community impact consent?

-How are gay men influenced by the heteronormative culture around consent?

-How do drugs and alcohol influence consent?

-How to properly ask for and give consent?

-How to create a culture of consent in the gay community?

Court Vox is a Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate. He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, and the Founder of The Body Vox. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationship/s seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives. When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years. Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well-known sex educators who seek him out when they are wanting a professional to work with. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe.

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Inside Out

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 29 Jul 2021 15:09:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

We tend to rely on external things in our lives to make us feel good, but the truth is that our power is actually within us at all times. In this episode, we're going deep within to understand how things like internal conditioning and beliefs impact our experience of the world around us. We'll also speak about the difference between external validation vs. intrinsic self-worth and how to find greater alignment with your true self.

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Exploring the Feminine with Chris Oh!

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 22 Jul 2021 15:07:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Life likes to box us in a lot of the time. If you don’t fit into a nice and tidy box with a bow on the top then how are people suppose to judge you accordingly? Androgyny, Boylesque, drag queens, non-binary, it can all be a grey zone at times.

In today’s episode, Calan and special guest Christopher Olwage a.k.a. “Chris Oh!” have a dynamic conversation about exploring the feminine as well as all aspects of ourselves through self-expression. The former Mr. Gay World 2013 has an open and honest conversation about his journey to becoming one of the most sought-after Burlesque performers in the world. From his childhood obesity and suicide attempts to learning to love himself and embracing his gender-bending ways, Chris shares his journey with love, laughter and hope to inspire others to break out of their metaphorical boxes.

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Internalized Racism

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 15 Jul 2021 15:06:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Welcome to a special takeover episode of GMGD, with special guests Reno, Starron, Mike, and Andre. Today’s episode is a deep, potentially heavy, important, introductory, and ongoing conversation around the topic of internalized racism. We are not experts in the topic, nor do we represent the perspectives of all BIPOC people. In this episode, we speak on our own personal experiences with internalized racism, while briefly touching on some of the definitions, and sharing how we’re working to create solutions to this problem.

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Loneliness & Belonging

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 08 Jul 2021 15:05:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Going through life as a gay man can be alienating. In fact, some say that loneliness is the new gay epidemic. Despite widespread progress in legal and social acceptance of homosexuality, studies show that gay men are disproportionately affected by loneliness.

In today’s episode, Michael and special guest Phil McAuliffe a.k.a. “The Loneliness Guy” have a candid discussion about normalizing loneliness and how we can seek a greater sense of belonging.

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Internalized Homophobia

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 01 Jul 2021 15:04:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

What is internalized homophobia? How does it show up in your life? What can you do to address it?

In this episode, we’re going deeper within as we unpack internalized homophobia. We’ll share our own experiences as well as some tips that will inspire you to look within to heal the aspects of yourself that may be harbouring these negative beliefs.

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Demisexuality

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 24 Jun 2021 15:04:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

In this episode, Matt explores the topic of Demisexuality with fellow brothers Carlos, Ron and Andre.

All 4 men identify as demisexual and they candidly break down what it’s like to be demisexual in the gay community and the benefits and challenges of honouring this truth.

Here are some of the questions explored in the episode:

-What does it mean to be demisexual?

-In what ways do you find it difficult to fit into the gay community being demisexual?

-How has it been communicating with non-demisexual men your desire to develop intimacy prior to having sex?

-The benefits of dating a demisexual?

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Celebrating Our Gayness

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 17 Jun 2021 15:03:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

On this episode honouring Pride Month, we’re celebrating what it means to be gay. We speak out about the challenges we've faced and the valuable life lessons they have provided us. Pride has a unique meaning for everyone and this episode is about celebrating who you are in a way that feels authentic to you.

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Interview with Brita Filter from RuPaul's Drag Race Season 12

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 10 Jun 2021 14:30:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

On today’s episode, Calan has a sit down with RuPaul’s Drag Race season 12 contestant Brita Filter (aka Jesse Havea) to talk about mental health and the experience of being on a show like RPDR. Jesse was very open, honest and candid with Calan as he shared his journey with depression, toxic social media, alcoholism, being painted as “the villain” on his season of RPDR, hitting rock bottom and attempting suicide. He also shared how he’s now on a healing journey, recovering, re-focusing his energies and learning how to navigate life in the public eye.

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Lone Wolf Syndrome

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 03 Jun 2021 15:02:00 +0000

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The Lone Wolf mentality can feel safe and serve us in some ways, but as we share in this episode, it's also one of the common blocks that prevent us from belonging and connecting in community. We'll also share some tips on how you can allow more connection in your life.

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Evolution of the Gay Community with Tim McCaskell

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 27 May 2021 15:00:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

As Pride Month celebrations begin, Michael turns back the clock and takes a glimpse into the evolution of the gay community with long-time activist, author, and educator, Tim McCaskell. Tim shares his unique experience living through those watershed moments of our shared history including the fight for gay liberation and the AIDS crisis.

Together they discuss how the gay community has evolved through the last 50 years. They also take stock of where we are today and explore whether the notion of community is as relevant or necessary as it was in the past.

Connect with Tim: Tim_mccaskell@hotmaill.com

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Tim’s books, Race to Equity and Queer Progress can be found at your favourite bookshop or directly from the publisher by clicking here.

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Fear of Judgment

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 20 May 2021 15:59:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Fear of judgment often prevents us from showing up as our authentic selves. Not only do we fear judgment and criticism of others, but we also have to contend with our self-judgment and self-criticism. In this episode, we're sharing our experiences with this deep-seated fear and the lessons we've learned on how to deal with it.

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Gender and Sexual Identity with Christiano Green

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 13 May 2021 15:15:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

In this episode, Matt Speaks with Identity & Mindset Coach, Speaker, Trainer, Author, Podcast Host, Thought Leader, & Entrepreneur Christiano Green about Gender & Sexual Identity.

These two coaches candidly breakdown the difference between gender and sexuality and how it is a spectrum, not a construct. Further concepts that are unpacked in this episode are gender fluidity, gender energies, rising of the feminine, topping and bottoming and how we view them as masculine and feminine, and gender stereotypes that are holding us back due to shame and patriarchal conditioning.

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The Power of Vulnerability

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 06 May 2021 15:15:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

We tend to avoid vulnerability but when we use it to our advantage, it can be a potent source of personal power and a means of establishing authentic connections with others. In this episode, we're sharing how vulnerability has actually helped us along our respective journeys to become more self-confident, more rooted in authenticity, and develop deeper relationships.

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Talking Relationships with Jordan Bach

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 29 Apr 2021 15:56:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Relationships! Always such a hot topic in the gay community (and in all communities really). In today’s episode, Calan Breckon invites guest speaker, writer and Life Coach Jordan Bach back for a chat about gays and relationships.

Covering things like resentment after a rejection, conscious uncoupling, clearness is kindness, confidently asking someone out and what “pretty privilege” is and how it affects us are just a few of the topics that came up in today’s chat.

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Romantic Relationships

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 22 Apr 2021 15:54:00 +0000

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Romantic relationships give us a perfect opportunity to learn more about ourselves and how we relate with others. In this episode, we're sharing our perspectives and lessons learned in love, dating & relationships.

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Myths & Misconceptions About Sexual Health

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 15 Apr 2021 15:53:00 +0000

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What is ‘super gonorrhea’? What are the side effects of PrEP? What is U = U? In this bonus episode, Michael and special guest, Pharmacist Andrew Schonbe dismantle some of the myths and misconceptions about STIs and PrEP. Join us for an open and informative discussion about sexual health.

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Friendships with Gay Men

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 08 Apr 2021 15:53:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Developing friendships with gay men can be challenging when the line between platonic friends, friends with benefits, fuck buddies is blurred. In this episode, we talk about our own unique experiences with making friends and how we've learned - and continue to learn - ways to nurture these important relationships.

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Talking HIV Stigma

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 01 Apr 2021 15:15:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

In this episode, Matt speaks with Arnoud Boek and Steven Band from the Gay Men’s Brotherhood about HIV Stigma.

The three of them unpack some of the heavy topics that surround this issue that many face within the gay community. Some questions they explored are:

1) How has Prep impacted the gay community?

2) How has being HIV+ impacted dating and intimacy for you?

3) How have your family relationships been impacted by your HIV+ status?

4) How quickly do you disclose your HIV+ status?

5) What needs to shift for the stigma to be lifted?

6) How are we contributing to the stigma?

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Surrender

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 25 Mar 2021 15:15:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

In this episode, the guys are talking about what it means to surrender. Whether it's surrendering control of outcomes or surrendering to our emotions, there are valuable gifts and lessons to be learned.

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Interview with Jordan Bach; Life Coach, Writer and Motivational Speaker

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 18 Mar 2021 15:40:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

In today’s bonus episode, Calan has a one-on-one with Jordan Bach; Life Coach, Writer and Motivational Speaker.

Jordan has been on the Life Coaching scene for over a decade and quickly became a trailblazer for gay men looking to go on a personal development journey.

In today’s episode Calan and Jordan chat about how he started his career as a coach, working through “imposter syndrome,” how to handle those nasty keyboard warriors, healthy boundaries and much more.

Jordan’s Instagram

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The Illusion of Control

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 11 Mar 2021 16:44:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Are you a control freak? Recovering Perfectionist? Or maybe you feel like you’ve never had any control.

Today we dive into the topic of control and how we navigate this illusion that we can control the things and people around us.

We share insights on how we learned to let go of the need to control everything around us and how we each embrace the energy of allowing and having faith in the process.

Calan also shares a very personal story in today’s episode about where his need to control came from and what he’s been doing to move through it and have more faith that everything is unfolding the way it’s supposed to. Be warned, you may shed a tear or two!

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Love, Intimacy & Connection: behind-the-scenes of a modern gay relationship

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 04 Mar 2021 16:45:00 +0000

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In this juicy episode, Michael and his partner have a raw and refreshing chat about gay relationship dynamics including interracial love, monogamy, and conflict.

They’ll share how they overcame their fears and trust issues in a messy yet authentic way. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode is full of tips and advice for you.

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Shift Happens (Reno's Last Episode)

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 25 Feb 2021 16:15:00 +0000

About This Episode

In today's episode, we're talking about how we handle change. A fitting topic for us as we say "goodbye for now" to our co-host, Reno who shows us how to gracefully navigating change.

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Racism in the Gay Community

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 18 Feb 2021 14:50:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

In this bonus episode, Matt & Reno unpack the hot topic of racism in the gay community with guests Mav Mehta & Edward Tsang. They share experiences of overt and covert racism, how our preferences can be a way to hide behind attitudes rooted in racism, and how to overcome the conditioning that may be contributing to our preferences. They also openly share their own personal biases when it comes to their own preferences/attractions and provide some solutions on how to start taking responsibility for our unconscious biases.

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I Want You in My Bubble…Butt

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 16:15:00 +0000

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Dating in the time of a worldwide pandemic brings a whole new set of challenges to deal with. Bubbles, social distance walks, and Zoom dates have become the norm in 2020 and beyond. This week we're talking about what we've learned about dating in the time of COVID.

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Interview with Stephen Lovegrove (aka America's Life Coach)

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 04 Feb 2021 14:56:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Today we are bringing you our first ever BONUS episode! In today’s episode, Calan has a sitdown interview with Stephen Lovegrove (America’s Life Coach) who has been featured on MTV, NBC, Fox, LA Times, OWN, Inc, CBS and USA Today.

They do a deep dive on how he got started as a coach, his religious cult upbringing and how that affected him as a gay man, mistaken and limiting beliefs which are usually the things holding us back in life, and much more.

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Coming Out

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 28 Jan 2021 16:15:00 +0000

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It's the thing that we all have in common. We ALL know the feeling of being a little "different" than the other boys and eventually coming to that conclusion that yes, "I'm gay," and then eventually coming out. Here are our stories…what’s yours?

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Self-Compassion

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 14 Jan 2021 16:15:00 +0000

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Self-compassion is a fundamental emotional skill that allows us to navigate the challenges of life with grace and humility. In this episode, we share how we incorporate self-compassion into our own journeys and some of the key lessons we've learned so far.

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Year in Review 2020

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 16:15:00 +0000

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A life without challenge is a life without growth. In our final episode of 2020, we reflect back on our highs, lows, and the valuable lessons this tumultuous year has gifted us.

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Reclaiming the Holiday Season

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 17 Dec 2020 16:15:00 +0000

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It's easy to believe that the holidays are a time filled with joy, gifts, and loved ones. But we don't often talk about the loneliness, anxiety, and dysfunction that goes with it. In this episode, we're encouraging you to reclaim the holiday season on your own terms.

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The Porn Episode

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 03 Dec 2020 16:15:00 +0000

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Love it or hate it, porn is a big part of the gay community. In this episode, we talk about how each of us has experienced porn and how that has evolved and contributed to our own sexual maturity and personal development.

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Our Relationship with the Gay Community

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 19 Nov 2020 16:15:00 +0000

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The gay community can be fractured and catty. But it can also be a source of brotherhood and connection. In this episode, we discuss how our relationship with the gay community has evolved in tandem with our own personal development journeys.

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How We Cope With Challenging Emotions

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 05 Nov 2020 16:15:00 +0000

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Challenging emotions like fear, anxiety, and anger are all part of living a full life. In this episode, we share our experiences with these emotions as well as some tips that can help you cope when they show up in your own life.

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How We Express Our Sexuality

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 22 Oct 2020 15:12:00 +0000

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In today’s episode, we jump into discussing conscious sexuality and how we navigate our own sexualities as individuals. How do we enjoy the fun of a hookup without feeling empty or lonely after? How do we shed ourselves of any shame we have around being intimate with other men? We answer these questions and so many more in today’s episode!

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Our Social Media Dilemma

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 08 Oct 2020 14:15:00 +0000

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In today’s episode, we jump into the social media dilemma of the gay community. Why do those guys with the perfect abs get so many likes? Why do we sometimes get left feeling more empty than full after scrolling for hours? Is social media using us, or are we using social media? Find out more in today’s episode!

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Open vs Closed Relationships

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 24 Sep 2020 14:18:00 +0000

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In today’s episode, we explore open vs closed relationships in the gay community. This certainly was our most hot button topic yet! In our private Facebook community, the guys had QUITE a lot to say about this! If you haven’t already, join in on the conversations in the private community through the link below!

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Dating

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 10 Sep 2020 14:21:00 +0000

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In today’s episode, we explore dating in the gay community. Oh GURL things get WILD in today’s episode! We dive deep into our own experiences with dating and being gay men and how it’s shaped the way we view dating now. Take a listen and see who you agree with on today’s episode!

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Body Talk

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 27 Aug 2020 14:31:00 +0000

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In today’s episode, we explore body image in the gay community. Why does it rule our social world as gay men? How do we break the cycle? What changes need to happen in order for us to stop focusing so much on appearance? Listen and find out!

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Self-Esteem

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 13 Aug 2020 14:33:00 +0000

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In today’s episode, we explore self-esteem. What is it? Where does it come from? Are you born with it or can you cultivate more of it as you get older? Are gay men prone to lower self-esteem? Listen to find out!

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Boundaries

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 30 Jul 2020 12:36:00 +0000

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In today’s episode, we explore healthy boundaries. How do you create them? How do you know what’s right for you? What do healthy boundaries look like? Listen in and find out!

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Rejection

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood — Thu, 16 Jul 2020 21:39:00 +0000

About Today’s Show

Welcome to our first ever episode of Gay Men Going Deeper! A podcast exploring the gay aspects of personal development, sexuality, mental health and much more. Brought to you by the Gay Men’s Brotherhood and hosted by Calan, Matt, Reno and Michael.

In this first episode, we explore rejection in the gay community and how we’ve handled it in the past.

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