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How to Create Hot Sexual Chemistry from Nothing

Tari Mannello — Mon, 25 May 2020 19:11:36 +0000

The Truth About Chemistry: It’s Not Just “There or It Isn’t”

Yup. Surprise! Hot chemistry can be created from nothing. In fact most of the time… it is!

What’s your definition of hot, passionate chemistry? Do you believe it’s something that either magically exists or doesn’t?

In this episode of Closeness, we’re bursting that myth wide open. Chemistry isn’t just a lucky accident—it’s something you can create, cultivate, and amplify in our partner when you understand how it works.

What We’ll Explore:

•How to naturally create good chemistry with someone who likes you.

•Is good chemistry for men inevitable, or does it depend on the situation?

•The surprising number of types of chemistry and how to identify them.

•How to allow chemistry to happen by letting yourself go there.

•Why we shut ourselves down and block love when it comes from unexpected sources.

•The inevitability of not clicking with everyone—and why that’s okay.

•Why context and timing are everything in building chemistry.

•How to channel the energy from past relationships to spark intimacy in new ones.

•The role of touch, eye contact, and body language in creating sparks.

•Why “I’m just not feeling it” is a flawed excuse.

•Why thinking chemistry “just happens” misses the bigger picture.

Why Listen?

This episode dives deep into the science and art of chemistry, challenging the common belief that it’s purely luck or fate. By the end, you’ll have the tools to create magnetic connections and understand why some relationships ignite while others fizzle.

Ready to Come Closer?

Tune in now to discover how to unlock the chemistry you’ve been searching for. For more insights into intimacy, connection, and passion, visit Closeness.com.

Is she asking for it and is she asking for it sexually?

Tari Mannello — Mon, 13 Apr 2020 22:19:16 +0000

Is She Asking for It… or Just Asking for Attention?

In this provocative episode of The Closeness Podcast, we explore the power dynamics behind flirting, teasing, and attraction. Many women love being in a position of control—turning men on with playful eye contact, teasing gestures, or provocative outfits, all without intending to follow through sexually. It’s a game of power and attention, but where does the line get drawn? And what right does a man have if any, to act on it?

What You’ll Learn:

•The Power of Teasing: Why some women enjoy turning men on while maintaining full control of the situation.

•Flirting vs. Intentions: Exploring the difference between asking for attention and asking for sex.

•Why She Dresses That Way: Unpacking the common claim that women “dress for themselves” and what provocative clothing signals to others.

•Breaking the Misconceptions: Why “she’s not asking for it” is always the answer, even if she’s enjoying the attention but if she likes you it doesn’t mean both people can’t have some fun.

This episode explores the nuances of female empowerment vs entitlement, mindset attraction, and boundaries, shedding light on a topic often misunderstood. Whether you’re curious about the psychology of teasing or the fine line between admiration and obligation, this discussion is designed to challenge perspectives and foster greater understanding.

Ready to Come Closer?

T For more insights into relationships, intimacy, and attraction, visit Closeness.com.

Chapters:

0:00 Intro

1:16 Is she asking for it?

8:04 Men don’t really like to be teased the way women do

8:43 You should always be able to say no

9:43 He’s reading your cues accurately if you’re advertising sex

10:04 The same cues you use to flirt are the same cues people use to have sex

13:52 When a man takes you shopping…

An Intimate Sensual Meditation on the tropical Island of Kauai

Tari Mannello — Tue, 24 Mar 2020 23:41:26 +0000

Kauai Escape: A new Sensual Meditation You’ll Want to Replay again and again

Welcome to another Closeness sensual meditation—your go-to sexy escape whenever you need to recharge and reconnect. One aspect of these brief encounters serves as a rampage of appreciation. That means that by focusing on things that feel good to you, without letting other defeating thoughts in, even if for a few short minutes, you’ll start to feel better. Your focus will shift and you’ll awaken your senses in just 15 minutes or less!

This time, we’re taking you to the shores of Kauai, with crystal-clear warm salty waters, soft sand, and the soothing sounds of the ocean. It’s an immersive experience meant to transport you into a world of relaxation and hot sex.

Before you hit play, find a comfortable, quiet place where you can truly let go. Whether you’re unwinding after a long day or seeking a moment of intimacy, this meditation is the perfect way to center yourself without demanding too much of your time.

Ready to get warmer and Come Closer?

Tune in and let this meditation guide you to a tropical, primal state of mind. For more sensual escapes and tools for intimacy, visit Closeness.com.

How to Properly Have Sex with a Man and How to Turn a Man On

Tari Mannello — Sun, 15 Mar 2020 23:57:03 +0000

How to Take Care of Your Man: What Everyone’s Afraid to Talk About

While countless episodes of The Closeness Podcast focus on how to pleasure a woman, it’s time to give men their time to shine! What does it take to truly take care of your man? This isn’t about surface-level advice; it’s about getting real, going deep, and uncovering the things everyone is too afraid to talk about. Don’t worry there will be plenty of sexy and sexual things included as well- obviously.

But have you ever considered what he actually needs emotionally and mentally to feel valued, desired, and respected? Spoiler: it’s often more than just sex. Science shows that when men feel seen and appreciated, their oxytocin levels (the “bonding hormone”) skyrocket, leading to stronger emotional connections and better intimacy.

So stop scrolling, and tune in to explore the unspoken ways to get your man turned on and feel cared for. You’ll learn why emotional intimacy matters just as much as physical touch as well as the small but meaningful gestures that build trust and connection.

Ready to Come

Closer?

Dive into this episode to learn what it means to properly have sex with your man and how doing so can transform your relationship. For more tips on intimacy, relationships, and connection, visit Closeness.com.

How to properly kiss! 10 juicy steps

Tari Mannello — Tue, 10 Mar 2020 22:03:06 +0000

Master the Art of Kissing: The proper way that she’ll respond to

Kissing is an intimate and often sensual way to connect with a partner—but let’s be honest, it’s not something we’re naturally born knowing how to do. Like any skill, it takes practice, intention, and yes, even technique. While no one teaches us how to kiss in school (thankfully!), Closeness is here to fill the gap with this must-listen guide to mastering the kiss.

What You’ll Learn:

•The do’s and don’ts of kissing to make you a more confident and desirable lover while still being a little tongue in cheek so to speak.

•How to be receptive, malleable, and intentional when locking lips.

•Understanding the different styles of kissing and when to use them. Tip: Women don’t ALWAYS want to make out or be kissed or tongued.

•Why “I’m just not feeling it” isn’t enough and how to improve your technique instead.

•Avoiding biting, doing too much or too little, and the dreaded “porn star tongue.”

•How to ensure your kiss feels natural, sensual, and completely irresistible.

•A detailed look at how to use your mouth in ways that maximize pleasure for both of you.

Whether you’re looking to level up your first kiss game or reignite the spark in a long-term relationship, this episode has everything you need to make your kisses unforgettable.

Are You Ready to Come Closer?

Tune in for all the tips, techniques, and insights you need to become a better and more erotic kisser. For more intimate advice and relationship wisdom, visit Closeness.com.

Ready to come closer?

How to properly have sex with a woman

Tari Mannello — Fri, 10 Jan 2020 01:16:46 +0000

Giving Her an Unforgettable Experience

Welcome to 2020 and Season Two of The Closeness Podcast! We’re kicking off the New Year with a bold and sexually explicit episode that lays out 15 essential steps to giving a woman an experience she’ll never forget. While we each have our own flavor that we bring to intimacy and perhaps there is not “one way” there certainly are general rules that make a “proper” approach to intimacy more successful. You won’t want to miss these do’s and don’ts that can make all the difference in having a hotter and more connected experience.

What We’ll Uncover together:

•How to get out of your head and into your partner, leaving your ego behind.

•Strategies for going beyond technique to truly tune into her desires and emotions.

•How to decipher what confidence and presence actually look like during intimacy.

•Tips to make sure she’s not just comfortable but genuinely wants to have sex with you.

This episode isn’t about memorizing tricks or moves—it’s about adopting principles that make women feel more connected, safe, and drawn to you sexually. We’ll guide you through the mindset shifts that can transform your approach to intimacy while helping you enjoy the journey.

Ready to Come Closer?

Dive into this episode and set a sexy tone for a year of better connection, confidence, and closeness. For more on intimacy, relationships, and sex, visit Closeness.com.

How to Have the Big Talk: STD’s, STI’s and Proper Etiquette

Tari Mannello — Sat, 14 Dec 2019 23:35:46 +0000

Navigating Sexual Health: The Vulnerability of Sharing Your Past

Talking about details of your intimate sexual health and history with regard to STIs and STD’s can feel incredibly vulnerable—and let’s face it, it’s a conversation most of us would rather avoid. From getting tested to asking your partner about their past, these are some of the trickiest waters to navigate whether in relationship or casually dating. But avoiding the topic often leads to more harm than good.

In this episode, we dive into the uncomfortable truths about sexual health conversations. Why are we so put off by the idea of disease yet so VERY hesitant to take action when it matters most and ask or disclose? And why do so many of us struggle to have mature, honest discussions about protecting ourselves and our partners?

What You’ll Learn:

•How to Approach the STI Conversation: Tips for starting the dialogue about sexual health without shame or awkwardness.

•Handling Vulnerability: Learn how to share your history and feelings with confidence and empathy.

•Receiving News with Compassion: How to respond to both good and bad news in a way that fosters trust and understanding.

•Life After Mistakes: Explore what happens when things go wrong and how to move forward with compassion and responsibility.

Sexual health isn’t just about your safety and protection; it’s about building trust, fostering intimacy, and taking ownership of your body and choices. This episode offers practical advice on handling these delicate conversations while emphasizing the importance of mutual respect and understanding.

Ready to Come Closer?

If you’ve ever felt nervous about addressing sexual health with a partner, this episode is your guide to navigating these challenges with confidence and care. For more insights on intimacy, relationships, and communication, visit Closeness.com.

The Female Sexual Response Cycle: 10 Passionate Phases

Tari Mannello — Fri, 15 Nov 2019 23:54:20 +0000

Beyond the Basics: Unraveling the 10 Phases of Female Arousal

If you grew up learning about the traditional sexual response cycle—excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution—you might think you’ve heard it all. But what if there’s a lot more to the story? In this provocative and sexually charged episode, we’re breaking down the 10 phases most women experience as they get progressively more and more turned on. This isn’t just a lesson in biology; it’s a deep dive into the intricate and electrifying process of female arousal that takes intimacy to a whole new level.

Move Over, Masters and Johnson

Masters and Johnson introduced us to the basics of the sexual response cycle, but we’re here to expand on it in ways they never imagined. This episode goes beyond the clinical to explore the nuanced, intimate journey women go through as they move from initial attraction to full-blown passion.

What You’ll Learn:

•The Complexity of Female Arousal: Understand why women’s arousal isn’t just linear—it’s layered, dynamic, and deeply personal. It’s not just about making her come. It’s not just about doing it once.

•Breaking Down the 10 Phases: Discover the subtle shifts, both physical and emotional, that most women experience as they get more turned on. Orgasm is just the beginning.

•How to Recognize and Respond: Learn how to tune into these phases to enhance connection and create a more satisfying sexual experience for both partners. Do you know your partners primal side? Have you met her yet?

Explore how understanding the female sexual response can deepen intimacy, strengthen communication, and bring couples closer together.This isn’t your typical talk about sex—it’s a bold, exciting, and eye-opening look at the nuances of female pleasure. Whether you’re looking to better understand your partner or unlock new levels of intimacy in your relationship, this episode is packed with insights that will forever change the way you think about arousal.

Ready to Explore?

If you’ve ever wanted to take your knowledge of intimacy and connection to the next level, this episode is your gateway to discovery. Move over, traditional sexual response cycle—this one is hot, exciting, and totally next-level.

For more tips and insights into sex, intimacy, and relationships, visit Closeness.com. Let’s take this journey together.

Are you ready to come closer?

How to say no, Part 2: Changing your mind and maybe

Tari Mannello — Wed, 30 Oct 2019 06:47:22 +0000

Why Do We Change Our Minds About Attraction? Navigating Confusion, Boundaries, and Rejection

How to say no, part deux.

How many times have you changed your mind about someone or something? Maybe you weren’t attracted to them at first, but later, something shifted and you found yourself wanting them. Or, perhaps the opposite happened—you felt drawn to them initially, only to realize later that something just didn’t feel right. Attraction can be complex, and understanding why our feelings change is key to navigating relationships and intimacy with clarity and respect.

The Art of Healthy Rejection

Rejection is one of the trickiest parts of relationships, especially when it involves someone who genuinely wants to please and connect with you. Men, in particular, often take pleasure in making women happy, or pleasing them—so how do you reject someone in a way that’s thoughtful, kind, and respectful for both parties? The way you deliver your “no” matters more than you might think. Tone and delivery can make the difference between preserving dignity and unintentionally creating hurt.

If safety is a concern, this episode offers practical guidance on how to reject someone without sugarcoating, ignoring, or making excuses—habits that can often backfire, making it harder for you and others in similar situations.

In This Episode:

•When to Rein It In: How to dial back your sexual energy when something feels overwhelming or “too much” for your partner.

•From Yes to No (or Vice Versa): How to handle situations when someone changes their mind—from a yes to a no, or even a no to a yes.

•Managing Confusion: Tips for navigating your own energy and desires when you’re feeling unsure or conflicted.

Honoring Boundaries

At Closeness, we emphasize the critical importance of respecting someone’s boundaries and meeting them where they are. We DO NOT encourage pushing past anyone’s “no.” Instead, we promote open communication, thoughtful questions, and honest discussions that foster understanding, connection, and respect.

Rejection doesn’t have to be such a downer. It can be used to create a space where both people feel safe, respected, and heard. By learning how to communicate your feelings—whether they’re shifting, unclear, or firm—you can avoid unnecessary confusion and hurt while fostering a deeper sense of connection and trust.

Ready to Come Closer?

Tune in to explore the nuances of changing desires, healthy rejection, and boundary setting in relationships. Whether you’re figuring out how to honor someone’s “no” or learning to express your own, this episode offers tools to help you approach these sensitive topics with care and confidence.

For more insights into sex, intimacy, and relationships, visit Closeness.com. Let’s get closer together.

How to say no Part 1: Rejecting and approaching

Tari Mannello — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 06:40:48 +0000

Mastering the Art of Rejection: How to Say No

Rejection—it’s something we all dread, yet it’s an unavoidable part of life, relationships, and intimacy. Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end, rejection can leave you feeling unworthy, shut down, hurt, or misunderstood. The truth is, most of us are terrible at handling it. We struggle to express our feelings in a considerate way, and even more so to hear “no” without taking it personally.

But rejection is more than just a painful moment—it’s a critical step in establishing healthy boundaries and creating meaningful connections. It helps us define what works for us, what doesn’t, and how we want to engage with others. The problem? We rarely stop to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes. We hate being rejected but often fail to consider how our words impact the person on the receiving end. Too often, rejection is delivered harshly or thoughtlessly, leaving lasting scars.

Why Rejection Matters in Relationships

Honoring someone’s boundaries when you hear a “no” is essential—but there’s so much more to it. How do you tell the difference between no, maybe, not yet, and a firm hard stop? And how can you communicate this in a way that’s clear but compassionate? Likewise, how can you hear rejection without letting it damage your self-worth?

In this episode, we’ll explore:

•The Importance of Boundaries: Why respecting a “no” is foundational to any healthy relationship or sexual encounter.

•Understanding Rejection: How to interpret the nuances of communication, from hesitations to hard stops so that you can have more fun with your partner

•The Art of Delivery: How to reject someone in a way that’s honest but considerate, leaving room for understanding rather than resentment for future encounters

•Gracefully Receiving Rejection: Tips for maintaining your composure and self-esteem when you’re told “no.” It doesn’t have to be the blow we make it out to be.

A Call for Compassion

It’s easy to vent to friends or social media about what’s wrong in a relationship, but how often do we communicate those feelings directly to the person who needs to hear them most—our partner? Compassion and honesty are critical, especially when rejection is involved. Rejection doesn’t have to mean shutting someone down; it can be an opportunity for growth, understanding, and ultimately, greater closeness.

A Gendered Perspective: Why It Matters

We’ll also address the unique dynamics between men and women. Men are often expected to approach women, putting themselves in vulnerable positions where rejection is common. For women who prefer not to take the lead, it’s important to recognize the courage required for men to initiate and respond with sensitivity. This mutual understanding can transform how rejection is experienced and communicated.

Closeness Encourages Respect and Open Communication

At Closeness, we believe deeply in honoring boundaries. We DO NOT encourage pushing past anyone’s “no.” Instead, we advocate for open, gentle communication and authentic discussions about feelings and intentions. Through empathy and understanding, we can create safer, more meaningful relationships that bring us closer to love.

Ready to learn the art of giving and receiving rejection with grace? Tune in and explore how to turn this often-dreaded moment into an opportunity for growth, clarity, and deeper connection. For more insights, visit Closeness.com—let’s get closer!

Sunday morning for her. A sensual meditation to turn you on...

Tari Mannello — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 19:34:58 +0000

Experience Another Sensual Meditation: Go deeper

An immersive listening experience designed to awaken your senses and bring you closer to your partner, and yourself. Using evocative and sensual tones, this episode goes beyond what you’re used to listening to in a podcast and creates an atmosphere that feels electric and deeply intimate.

One of the best parts of listening to Closeness is how it teaches you the art of great sex—not just the physical, but the emotional and energetic aspects that make intimacy unforgettable. After receiving incredible feedback from previous sensual meditations, we’re thrilled to offer you another.

When men listen, they may not fully understand the depth of what’s happening—but for women, it can mean everything. This episode taps into the nuances of desire, vulnerability, and connection, creating a space for you and your partner to discuss after listening.

How to Get the Most From This Episode

•Listen Alone: Relax. Enjoy. Touch yourself or play if you want to.

Listen Together: The meditation is short enough for both you and your partner to enjoy in a single sitting. Use it as a way to spark a conversation about how it made each of you feel.

•Create the Right Environment: Find a place where you can relax and feel safe, free from distractions. The more comfortable you are, the more impactful the experience will be.

For more meditations and insights into connection, visit Closeness.com.

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Part 3: Who should pay for first dates and beyond?

Tari Mannello — Sun, 15 Sep 2019 00:57:50 +0000

The Explosive Finale: Who Should Pay for the First Date? Part 3

This highly anticipated 90-minute conclusion to our provocative three-part series, is a no-holds-barred deep dive into the unspoken rules, assumptions, and expectations surrounding money, sex, and first dates. With a mix of hard-hitting statistics, personal stories, and surprising evidence, this episode will challenge everything you think you know about dating dynamics.

What You’ll Discover in This Episode

•Is Paying for Dates a Form of Prostitution? We examine the controversial comparison and what it reveals about the interplay between money and intimacy.

•The Argument Over the Bill: How do people really feel when their partner fights to pay—or refuses to and what happens after in the bedroom? We’ll explore the emotions, egos, and expectations behind this common dating dilemma.

•Sex Before Dinner: What happens when intimacy comes before the meal? Does it change the dynamic of who pays, and how does it affect expectations?

•The Obligation Factor: Did you know up to 70% of men feel obligated to pay for dates, even if they don’t want to? We’ll break down the statistics and unpack why this sense of duty persists.

Why This Episode Matters

This isn’t just about splitting checks— it’s about taking an up-close and personal look at splitting cheeks! Why do we attach such strong expectations to who pays, and how does it affect how we view our partners intimately? More importantly, how do these dynamics shape our understanding of fairness, generosity, and mutual respect?

We’ll invite you to reflect on your own beliefs, biases, and expectations. Do you see paying for dates as an obligation, an act of kindness, or something more transactional? And how does this tie into your views on intimacy and relationships?

Whether you’re navigating the dating world, in a relationship, married or simply curious about the cultural forces at play for who pays, this 90-minute finale will leave you with fresh perspectives and plenty to think about.

For more deep dives into intimacy, relationships, and connection, visit Closeness.com. Tune in, challenge your assumptions, and join the conversation—let’s get closer.

Part 2: Who should pay for the first date and beyond?

Tari Mannello — Sat, 31 Aug 2019 22:01:16 +0000

Who Should Pay for the First Date? Part 2: Exploring the Controversy

In part two of this three-part series, we dive even deeper into one of the most debated questions in modern dating: Who should pay for the first date? This isn’t just about picking up the check—it’s a conversation that touches on gender roles, financial dynamics, and the expectations we bring to relationships. With over 25 fresh insights to explore, this episode promises to challenge your perspective and offer actionable takeaways for your own dating life.

Key Topics We’ll Explore

•When She Makes More: What happens when the woman has significantly more financial resources? Does it shift the dynamic? Does she still get turned on if she as to pay? How should it be navigated?

•Ego vs. Generosity: How can you tell if your choices—whether paying or not—are driven by a genuine sense of generosity or a desire to protect your ego and show everyone how you’ll take care of the tab?

•Dating and the Wage Gap: How do societal income disparities play into who pays for dates, and what does fairness really look like? If she makes significantly more than he does, what then?

•The “Prostitution” Argument: Is paying for dates transactional? We’ll break down this controversial comparison and examine what it says about our views on sex, money, and value in relationships.

Expectations vs. Inspiration

This episode goes beyond the surface to examine the semantics of dating expectations. Are your actions inspired by excitement and generosity, or are they rooted in fear, entitlement, or obligation? We’ll also tackle questions like:

•Do you feel like sex is something you’re “giving up”? How this mindset can undermine intimacy and connection.

•What about natural-born givers vs. people who feel entitled? We’ll explore the balance between giving freely and feeling taken for granted.

Why This Conversation Matters

The topic of who pays for the first date is more than just a logistical detail—it’s a reflection of how we approach relationships, power dynamics, and emotional connection. This episode isn’t about prescribing rules; it’s about helping you uncover your own beliefs and motivations so you can approach dating with clarity and confidence.

Tune In and Explore More

Whether you’re navigating first dates or redefining your role in established relationships, this episode is packed with insights to help you create healthier, more equitable connections.

For even more tips and discussions on dating, intimacy, and connection, visit Closeness.com. Ready to rethink your dating game? Let’s dive in.

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Who should pay for the first date and beyond?

Tari Mannello — Thu, 15 Aug 2019 17:48:03 +0000

In this incredible three part series, host Tari shares his thought-provoking stance on who should pay and why. He draws on countless personal experiences as well as experiences from others that have helped shape his philosophies over time. Over three and a half hours of content spread out over three episodes ensures you’ll reexamine almost everything you thought about dating rituals and male, female dynamics. Drawing on countless studies and hundreds of interviews, Tari helps you explore what kind of person you are inside and out of the dating arena.

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How to know if a girl really wants you using 5 signs

Tari Mannello — Thu, 01 Aug 2019 05:30:17 +0000

Unlocking the Secrets of Closeness: How to Know if she’s Into You

When it comes to creating genuine closeness with someone, the conversation often starts with what not to do. Avoiding common mistakes can set the stage for meaningful connection, but there’s so much more to the art of intimacy than simply avoiding pitfalls. This episode takes you beyond the basics, diving into the subtle yet powerful cues that help you understand when someone is truly interested—and how to respond with confidence.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

We’ll start by unpacking the common behaviors that can sabotage closeness before moving into the essentials of creating a spark. Topics include:

•The Power of Body Language: How to read the unspoken cues she’s giving off and what your own body language might be saying in return.

•Mastering the Art of Hugging: Is your hug friendly, romantic, or awkward? We’ll explore how physical touch can communicate your intentions and deepen connection.

•The Magic of Eye Contact: Learn how maintaining the right kind of eye contact can build trust, intrigue, and attraction in seconds.

•How does she touch you? We’ll discuss the nuances of initiating physical closeness and how to ensure it feels natural and welcome for both of you.

5 Sure-Fire Ways to Know She’s Into You

By the end of this episode, you’ll have five concrete methods to determine if she’s truly interested in you—and, more importantly, what to do next. These tips go beyond the surface, helping you recognize signals you might have missed before.

•Her Body Faces You: Pay attention to how she positions herself. Facing you fully is often a clear sign of interest.

•She Mirrors Your Movements: If she’s subtly mirroring your posture or gestures, it’s a subconscious indicator of connection.

•Prolonged Eye Contact: Not just quick glances—when she holds your gaze, it’s a powerful sign of trust and attraction.

•Light, Playful Touches: Whether it’s brushing your arm or playfully nudging you, initiating casual touch can signal comfort and interest.

•She Leans In: Literally. If she’s leaning toward you during a conversation, it shows she’s engaged and wants to be closer.

Why This Episode Matters

Building closeness isn’t just about following a checklist—it’s about creating an atmosphere where both partners feel seen, heard, and understood. This episode equips you with actionable insights to navigate the complex but rewarding process of getting closer to someone, while avoiding missteps that can break the connection before it begins.

Start Your Journey to Closeness

Whether you’re just getting to know someone or looking to strengthen a budding connection, this episode will give you the tools to confidently build intimacy and recognize when someone is genuinely into you.

Discover more about the art of connection and intimacy at Closeness.com.

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5 easy steps to figure out what turns you and your partner on

Tari Mannello — Sun, 14 Jul 2019 21:48:33 +0000

Mastering Communication and Intimacy: Unlock Closeness in Your Relationship

Flip through any self-help book, and you’ll likely come across the timeless mantra: “Communication is key.” But let’s be real—do we actually know how to communicate? Are we confident in expressing our needs, or do we hold back out of shyness? Do we truly say what we mean, or leave our partner guessing? And perhaps most importantly, do we actively listen to our partner’s needs with intention and empathy?

In this episode, we challenge the basic surface-level idea that “communication” alone is enough to fix relationship issues. It’s not just about talking—it’s about knowing how and when to communicate. We’ll explore the art of saying the right things, asking the right questions, and avoiding common communication pitfalls that can push your partner away instead of bringing you closer.

What You’ll Learn:

•How to Be Heard and Understood: Discover strategies to express yourself in a way that resonates with your partner. No more “You’re not listening to me!” moments—just clarity and connection.

•Nonviolent Communication in Action: Learn how to diffuse tension and have meaningful conversations, even when emotions run high.

•How to Ask the Right Questions: Find out how to spark curiosity and desire in your partner by asking questions that escalate excitement and intimacy.

•Unlocking Your Body’s Pleasure: Explore how understanding your own body can enhance your confidence and connection during intimacy. Knowing what you like is the first step toward communicating it to your partner.

•The Timing of Communication: Timing is everything. Learn when to speak up and when to listen, so your partner feels valued and understood.

Why This Episode Matters

Healthy, satisfying sex in relationships require more than vague advice about “communication.” They thrive on intentional, specific actions that deepen trust and intimacy. This episode is your guide to transforming not just how you speak to your partner, but how you connect on every level—emotionally, physically, and even sexually.

Whether you’re navigating a new relationship, looking to strengthen a long-term bond, or working through challenges, this episode provides actionable tips to help you bridge gaps and build closeness.

Ready to Dive In?

Improving your communication skills can unlock new levels of pleasure, understanding, and excitement in your relationship. Don’t settle for surface-level connection—learn how to communicate in a way that brings you closer than ever. Tune in now and start your journey to true intimacy.

For more insights and tips, visit closeness.com.

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Should you engage in long distance relationships?

Tari Mannello — Sun, 30 Jun 2019 21:46:51 +0000

We all have the potential to make relationships thrive, but are long-distance relationships truly worth the effort? If you’ve experienced one or are navigating one now, you already understand the unique challenges: the lack of regular visits, the absence of physical connection, and the emotional strain that comes with prolonged separation.

In this episode, we delve into the many drawbacks of long-distance relationships and explore why they may not be suitable for everyone. How long can you sustain a relationship without intimacy, touch, or the comforting presence of your partner?

This concise, thought-provoking episode is designed for listeners on the go—perfect for your commute or when you’re seeking a quick but meaningful perspective.

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Interview: The intimate adventures of a 48 year old mother

Tari Mannello — Sat, 15 Jun 2019 23:48:00 +0000

This epodes is the second part of the previous podcast. It takes the same juicy subject of sex and intimacy but rather than learning about it from a 21 year old, we explore it with a 48 year old mother. We cover a lot of territory including:

Stigmas and judgements about homosexuality and whether it's easier for a woman to be openly bisexual it today’s society
Judgements and whether it's possible not to judge
If the concept of non-judgement is a myth
Double penetration
What is true love, devotion and monogamy?
Does being jealous mean you don’t “truly” love the person?
If you are jealous are you loving conditionally?
Why people think that they’ll be just fine if their relationship ends
A deep exploration of breakup pain
Exploring whether it's healthy to immediately start seeing other people after just ending a relationship
How to help someone with anxiety when they're in pain
Do men need women and do women need men?
What does it mean to need attention plus a few details about Persian culture. Enjoy!

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Interview: The intimate adventures of a 48 year old mother

Tari Mannello — Sat, 15 Jun 2019 01:46:48 +0000

Hot sex and meaningful intimacy aren’t reserved for the young. In this episode, we dive deep into the complex and often unspoken facets of relationships, love, and sexuality—challenging societal norms and exploring the raw, real truths behind human connection.

We begin by unpacking stigmas and judgments, particularly around homosexuality and bisexuality. Why does society still hesitate to embrace sexual fluidity, and why does it seem easier for women to be openly bisexual than men? From there, we question the concept of non-judgment—can we truly live without judging others, or is this an impossible ideal? This naturally leads into topics that test the boundaries of comfort, such as double penetration and other intimate preferences, raising the question: how much of our discomfort actually stems from judgment?

Shifting to matters of the heart, we explore true love, devotion, and monogamy. Is jealousy a sign of conditional love, or is it simply part of being human? Can someone truly love another while experiencing jealousy? And perhaps more importantly, what does it mean to move forward after a breakup? We take a hard look at the deep, often underestimated pain of breakups, asking whether it’s healthy to jump into new relationships immediately, or if healing requires space, reflection, and time.

We also delve into the dynamics of dependence and independence in relationships. Do men and women truly need each other, or is that notion outdated in a modern world? What does it mean to crave attention, and is this “need” a flaw, or simply part of our human experience? For those navigating anxiety and emotional pain, we offer insights on how to be a supportive partner during difficult times.

Finally, as a bonus, we touch on some fascinating details about Persian culture—adding another layer to this rich discussion. This episode challenges perceptions, expands your understanding of intimacy, and encourages you to think deeply about your own relationships.

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Interview: How to excite a demi sexual with Sarah

Tari Mannello — Sat, 01 Jun 2019 09:29:00 +0000

What does it mean to be demisexual, and how does this identity intersect with the complexities of online dating? What does it truly take for someone like Sarah to experience arousal and connection? In this captivating and deeply personal episode, we sit down with a remarkable woman whose warmth, insight, and infectious laugh make her story all the more compelling.

Sarah shares her journey with vulnerability and grace, including the life-altering decision to undergo a double mastectomy. She explores the profound ways this choice impacted her sexuality and self-perception. When faced with physical changes, such as scarring or surgeries, how—and when—should you disclose them to a partner? And if intimacy becomes unexpectedly complicated, how do you navigate the delicate conversation of stepping back without causing harm?

The discussion doesn’t stop there. We’ll also explore overcoming body image insecurities, embracing pleasure, and redefining self-love. Sarah also shares her candid thoughts on masturbation, the art of surrendering to intimacy, and yes, even her favorite toy. This episode is a thoughtful and honest exploration of resilience, desire, and what it means to truly connect with ourselves and others.

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Interview: The intimate adventures of a 21 year old traveling girl with Marisa

Tari Mannello — Thu, 30 May 2019 03:59:28 +0000

Traveling has always been one of the most exciting ways to immerse ourselves in life, culture, and romance. In this episode, we sit down with Marisa, a newly turned twenty-one-year-old, to explore her adventures in world travel, love, and sexuality. Her fresh perspective on navigating life as a young, single woman is as enlightening as it is arousing, touching on topics that resonate with both Gen X’s seasoned wanderlust and Gen Z’s fearless curiosity.

We tackle the joys and challenges of traveling solo versus with a partner and the complexities of maintaining long-distance relationships while on the move. Marisa shares valuable insights on staying safe as a young woman exploring the world and navigating romantic or sexual encounters abroad. From gracefully turning down unwanted attention with a simple “I’m not interested” to letting a partner know he can take the lead with confidence, this episode offers practical advice for building boundaries while still embracing adventure.

Can a lack of confidence truly hold you back from intimacy? How can dominance play a healthy and exciting role in sexual exploration? Marisa dives into the impact travel has on our desires and sexual identity, revealing how new experiences can spark growth, curiosity, and passion.

We also confront deeper topics, including the craving for aggressive sex or taboo acts and Marisa’s story of surviving severe sexual trauma. Her honesty and resilience pour through as she shares how these experiences have shaped her journey toward healing and self-discovery.

Whether you’re craving inspiration for your next adventure or looking to deepen your understanding of love, sex, and confidence, this episode is for you. Are you ready to come closer?

Can men and women actually be friends?

Tari Mannello — Wed, 15 May 2019 16:49:53 +0000

At first glance, the idea of men and women being “just friends” seems simple enough —of course they can! But is that really what’s happening when sexual attraction enters the picture? This episode takes a thought-provoking dive into the subtle dynamics and unspoken exchanges that often occur in male-female friendships. How often do men go out of their way to perform favors for women in the hopes of earning something more than friendship? How frequently do women keep male “friends” around to enjoy their help, generosity, or companionship, without ever intending for it to become something deeper?

We’ll break down the often-blurred lines between genuine friendship, acquaintanceship, and romantic or sexual tension. What does it mean to be a true friend as opposed to someone lingering in the background, hoping for a chance to change the relationship? How do societal expectations and gender roles influence the way men and women navigate these connections? And more importantly, is it ever truly possible to eliminate the undertones of attraction or expectation in a friendship where desire might be present—even if unspoken?

This episode doesn’t just stop at unpacking these dynamics. We also explore the importance of clarity, communication, and honesty in relationships of all kinds. How do you set boundaries when one person’s intentions differ from the other’s? And what does it take to cultivate a friendship that’s built on mutual respect, not hidden motives?

Whether you’re someone who swears by platonic friendships or you’ve been burned by blurred lines before, this conversation will challenge the way you think about male-female dynamics. Are you ready to come closer?

The final 13 deadly sins of online dating (Part 3)

Tari Mannello — Tue, 16 Apr 2019 01:40:18 +0000

In the gripping finale of our Deadly Sins of Online Dating series, we reveal the final thirteen missteps that can doom your dating life—and, more importantly, how to avoid them. If you’re serious about stepping up your game and making real connections, this episode is your ultimate guide to sidestepping the biggest pitfalls of modern dating culture.

Here’s what we cover:

•Using vague or filler phrases to provoke jealousy. Saying you’re “out with friends” may seem harmless, but it’s a passive-aggressive move that creates unnecessary drama.

•Being intentionally boring. If you’re not putting effort into the conversation, don’t expect sparks to fly.

•Dodging direct questions. Evading answers might make you feel mysterious, but it comes off as avoidant and uninterested.

•Nitpicking your date. Being offended that he’s “too much” of anything—too nice, too confident, too direct—sends the message that nothing will ever be good enough.

•Killing the vibe with vague intentions. Saying, “I like to get to know people on the app before meeting or talking” is a fast-track to the dating graveyard. If you’re not ready to engage, why are you there?

•Ghosting between plans. If you’re radio silent from the time you set the date to when it actually happens, don’t be surprised if they lose interest.

•Admitting you’re “bad with your phone” and doing nothing about it. Being unreachable isn’t cute—it’s frustrating.

•Making excuses with phrases like “I just assumed you were…” Own your mistakes instead of projecting blame.

•Flagging every behavior as a “red flag.” Not every quirk is a dealbreaker. Being overly critical is exhausting for both of you.

•Adopting a “prove yourself to me” mentality. Thinking you’re inherently better than your date creates a power imbalance that kills chemistry.

•Constant tardiness with half-hearted apologies. Calling after you’re already late to announce you’ll be even later shows disrespect for their time.

•Encouraging them to lose interest before you even meet. Failing to follow through with plans or suggesting they “just cancel everything” after one hiccup is self-sabotage.

•Refusing to commit. Saying you’re interested but never taking action screams indifference.

•Overreacting to their approach. Criticizing someone for not understanding your boundaries, preferences, or personality before they even know you is unfair and unrealistic.

•Speaking in vague generalities. “Tell me something about yourself!” may sound casual, but if you’re not contributing to the conversation, it feels one-sided and shallow.

•Turning dates into job interviews. Asking endless questions but sharing nothing about yourself makes the interaction feel transactional instead of organic.

•Empty promises. Telling someone you can’t wait to see them but making no effort to follow through creates false expectations and wasted energy.

This episode isn’t just about pointing out the sins—it’s about understanding how these habits create walls instead of connections. Whether you’re a seasoned dater or new to the scene, these insights will help you identify your blind spots and make meaningful improvements.

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The next 12 deadly sins of online dating (Part 2)

Tari Mannello — Fri, 15 Mar 2019 21:20:17 +0000

In the second installment of the Deadly Sins of Online Dating, we’re tackling some of the most cringe-worthy behaviors that send online dating connections straight to the trash. Ready to up your dating game? Let’s dive in:

•Looking significantly worse in person than your worst profile photo. Let’s face it, your photos set expectations. Catfishing through selective editing or outdated pics? Not a vibe.

•Talking exclusively about what you “don’t do” or “won’t tolerate.” We get it, boundaries are important, but if your entire personality is wrapped in negativity, it’s exhausting.

•Making endless excuses to avoid meeting in person. If you like someone, show up! Flaking repeatedly and dodging plans doesn’t make you mysterious; it makes you forgettable.

•Overusing Snapchat filters and beauty filters. Nothing says, “I’m hiding everything about myself” like a generic filter. Retire it.

•Posting photos of yourself holding someone else’s baby. It might seem cute, but it’s giving confusing priorities rather than “dateable.”

•Responding with one-word answers. If “lol,” “yeah,” or “idk” is the best you’ve got, don’t be surprised if the conversation dies quick.

•Throwing around the phrase “next time” without meaning it. If there’s no “this time,” there’s not going to be a next one either.

•Freaking out if someone asks if you’re real. If your profile looks fake, or you’ve made yourself look like AI, that’s on you. A little verification question isn’t an attack—it’s common sense.

•Putting yourself in bad situations because “that’s what he wants.” Let’s make one thing clear: your safety and comfort come first, no matter what anyone else expects.

•Ignoring most of what someone says. If they ask three questions and you answer just one, you’re not playing it cool—you’re just not paying attention.

•Dropping phrases like, “I’m never on here,” “notifications are off,” or “hit me up on Snap.” Translation: “I’m bored and uninvested.” If you’re not into it, just log off.

•Playing mind games or being manipulative. Whether it’s tricks, passive-aggressive tests, or subtle power plays, it’s 2024—leave the drama in the past.

Online dating doesn’t have to be this hard. Avoid these sins, bring your best self to the table, and stop sabotaging your own chances. Ready to come closer?

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The first 15 deadly sins of online dating

Tari Mannello — Fri, 15 Feb 2019 20:19:01 +0000

Online dating is a bit like stepping into the wild West—lawless, chaotic, and full of promise, but it also isn’t without its pitfalls. For some, it’s thrilling, while for others, it’s a little secret we only whisper about to our closest friends. With endless choices and cutting-edge technology in the palm of our hands, why do so many of us leave dating apps feeling more frustrated, jaded, and alone than when we started?

As much as online dating is meant to bring us closer, it often brings out the worst in how we treat each other. Why do we ghost without a second thought, or send messages we’d never dare speak in person, or play games that end in nothing but regret? If finding love is supposedly easier than ever, why does it feel so incredibly hard to connect?

This brutally honest episode is the first in a multi-part series that dives headfirst into the tricky, awkward, and messy realities of modern dating.

Together, we’ll explore why we sabotage our chances, why we resort to treating people as disposable, and most importantly, how we can turn things around when all seems lost. Whether you’re a seasoned swiper or an app novice, this episode unpacks the unspoken truths of online dating and gives you the tools to navigate it with confidence and clarity.

Ready to face the chaos head-on? Let’s get started.

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Closeness and self-love: 5 pillars of self care

Tari Mannello — Fri, 11 Jan 2019 01:52:24 +0000

Building genuine closeness with someone else begins with a deep connection to yourself: learning how to care for your mind, body, and soul while staying in alignment with who you truly are.

In this episode, we unlock the incredible power of your own presence. Sounds simple, right? But this one shift can transform not just your relationships but your entire life.

We’ll dive into how physical activity doesn’t only strengthen your body but fuels your brain and emotional well-being. From mindful movement to high-energy workouts, we explore how different forms of exercise can boost creativity, focus, and overall happiness. Plus, we’ll show you how breaking up your workday with intentional, energizing activities can turn even the most monotonous days into something that feels inspiring and life-giving.

Sometimes, the solutions to our biggest frustrations and anxieties are shockingly simple—we just need a little nudge to find them. Whether it’s stepping away from your screen for a quick dance break, stretching to release pent-up stress, or taking a mindful walk to reconnect with your thoughts, these small actions can make a big impact.

Join us as we uncover the everyday habits that can help you regain balance, stay energized, and show up as your best self.

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Rome: A sensual and sexual meditation

Tari Mannello — Mon, 31 Dec 2018 23:12:42 +0000

Unlock the Power of Sensual Meditations: A Unique Listening Experience

Welcome to a new kind of meditation—one that isn’t about zoning out or falling asleep but about waking up your senses and diving into the world of erotic energy. This episode introduces sensual meditations. Created to excite and arouse rather than relax. Think of it as a sensual rampage of appreciation, a way to ignite positive emotions and connect with your body and desires in a whole new way.

What Are Sensual Meditations?

Unlike traditional meditations aimed at calm and relaxation, sensual meditations tap into your emotions and fantasies. Tari guides you in a rich, intimate tone, exploring vivid, erotic imagery and subjects designed to make you feel like you’re in the moment. It’s immersive, powerful, and deeply personal.

Through evocative descriptions, we’ll help you visualize the things you love about sex and closeness—what excites you, what moves you, and what awakens your most passionate self. This isn’t just about physical arousal; it’s about getting to know yourself better.

Why Try Sensual Meditations?

1.Enhance Your Mood: Arousal and sensual exploration aren’t just about intimacy—they can also boost your mood, creativity, and self-esteem.

2.Deepen Your Connection to Desire: Whether you’re in a relationship or exploring your own sensuality, this practice helps you better understand what turns you on and why.

3.Expand Your Imagination: Vivid visualization is a powerful tool to strengthen your fantasies and deepen your appreciation for intimacy and connection.

4.Reignite Passion: If you’re feeling disconnected from your sensual side, these meditations provide a safe and creative way to rekindle that flame.

What to Expect in This Episode

•A guided, sensual narrative that speaks directly to your emotions and desires.

•Vivid, detailed descriptions designed to stimulate your imagination and help you explore intimacy on a deeper level.

•A positive and uplifting tone that focuses on appreciation and connection, leaving you feeling empowered and aroused.

•A unique listening experience that’s equal parts erotic and introspective.

Who Is This For?

Whether you’re looking to spice things up in your love life, reconnect with your sensuality, or simply try something new, this episode is for you. Sensual meditations aren’t just for couples—they’re for anyone curious about exploring the boundaries of their imagination and desire.

Are you ready to close your eyes, let your mind wander, and immerse yourself in the world of sensual meditation? This episode promises to delight your senses and leave you feeling invigorated, inspired, and deeply connected to your body and emotions.

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10 Wicked little female faux pas to avoid

Tari Mannello — Sat, 29 Dec 2018 01:48:12 +0000

Common Behaviors That Might Be Hurting Your Relationships: What Women Should Know

In this episode, we dive into behaviors that women (often unconsciously) engage in that could harm their relationships and interactions. It’s not about placing blame—it’s about building awareness and fostering growth. Let’s explore the patterns, habits, and mindsets that may be holding you back from deeper, healthier connections.

Key Themes and Common Missteps Discussed

1. Exaggeration and Mislabeling

Throwing around terms like “narcissist” without clinical basis or exaggerating normal behaviors can distort perceptions and damage trust. Overstating issues in your relationships can make small problems feel insurmountable and breed unnecessary conflict.

2. Misusing Clinical Labels

Terms like “sociopath,” “toxic,” or “body shamer” should never be used casually. Mislabeling someone with these loaded terms not only unfairly stigmatizes them but also minimizes the actual impact these behaviors have on others.

3. Poor Communication Clarity

Using overly dramatic language—such as describing a polite decline as a “meltdown” or “freak out”—can create unnecessary tension. Clear and calm communication fosters trust and understanding.

4. Criticizing Other Women

Making negative comparisons or tearing down other women, particularly exes, reflects insecurity and fosters toxicity. Supporting and uplifting others is far more empowering.

5. Ignoring or Disrespecting Others in Public

Avoiding eye contact, failing to acknowledge someone’s presence, or skipping basic courtesies like a polite “hello” can unintentionally come across as hostile or entitled.

6. Entitlement in Communication

Expecting immediate responses or interpreting delayed replies as rejection reveals underlying insecurity. Practicing patience and respecting others’ time and boundaries is key to balanced communication.

7. Pressuring for Intentions Too Early

Demanding to know someone’s relationship intentions before they’re ready can create unnecessary pressure and erode organic connection. Let relationships evolve naturally.

8. Labeling Relationships as “Wasting Time”

Dismissing relationships that don’t lead to permanence as meaningless overlooks their role in growth, learning, and self-discovery. Not every connection needs to be forever to be valuable.

9. Poor Communication Etiquette

Overly brief responses, like “lol,” “k,” or just an emoji, can make you seem disengaged or uninterested. Taking the time to respond thoughtfully shows that you value the interaction.

10. General Lack of Kindness

Passive-aggressiveness, withholding smiles, or ignoring others creates a colder, less empathetic environment. Small acts of kindness and warmth go a long way in building better connections.

Why This Matters

This episode isn’t about perfection—it’s about growth. By becoming more self-aware and accountable for our communication habits, we can foster more meaningful and compassionate relationships. No one is perfect, but small changes can lead to big improvements in how we connect with others and how others perceive us.

Ready to reflect, grow, and come closer? Let’s make it happen.

CHAPTERS:

0:00 Intro

1:35 Hyper-exaggeration

9:07 Flinging around clinical and psychological diagnoses

10:55 A man who once touched a woman’s shoulder

15:15 Freaking out and losing your mind

19:50 Minimizing, insulting and picking apart other women

21:42 Ignoring all men and calling all men trash

32:03 The right kind of eye contact

34:23 The “I called you but you didn’t answer” dilemma

40:05 Demanding to know others’ intentions while not sharing your own

44:09 I don’t want to waste my time

48:31 The danger of short replies and solely communicating through emoji

Part 1: Social Etiquette. 5 faux pas to avoid

Tari Mannello — Sat, 08 Dec 2018 23:43:53 +0000

CHAPTERS:

0:00 Intro

3:16 The Reality TV effect on behavior

11:24 How do men feel about it all

13:10 Solutions and answers

16:15 2. Stealing your partners thunder in conflict

22:00 Answers and solutions

24:00 3. Being scared of everyone

30:20 I can’t be wrong or I would rather be right

32:26 Prioritizing social media over human connection

34:44 Outro

Interview: A sex coach in your pocket using the Juicebox app with Brianna Radar

Tari Mannello — Thu, 01 Nov 2018 07:59:22 +0000

Have you thought about where you can go to get help for intimacy and relationship issues? Hopefully after listening to the Closeness podcast you know that we are here for you. We offer in person private meetings and video chat as well as text support. But what if you’re not ready for that yet and you’re more of a private person?

In this episode Brianna introduces Juicebox: an app that gives you direct access to sex coaches and sex therapists via text! Closeness listeners get a 5-day free trial by using the the code “closeness” to experience it first hand.

In the Juicebox app, you’re paired one on one with a professional sex and relationship coach or counselor who you can text as much as you’d like, anonymously. Imagine getting the help you’ve always wanted without having to leave your house or be face to face with anyone. Find out more by visiting https://www.juiceboxit.com. If you prefer a more personalized approach you can also get help via text at Closeness.

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All listeners will receive a free 5-day trial of 1-on-1 coaching with the promo code “Closeness”.

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Interview with a Brazilian Dancer: A better sex life through dance and learning to be submissive

Tari Mannello — Sun, 28 Oct 2018 01:23:09 +0000

Dancers have always understood something that many of us are just starting to figure out—leading and following in dance isn’t just about choreography; it’s a powerful metaphor for relationships, especially in the bedroom.

And it’s what women want.

In this episode, we explore how the trust and connection built through dance can lead to deeper intimacy and better sex. For women, learning to follow and trust a partner on the dance floor can mirror the dynamics of surrender and connection in a relationship, opening doors to more fulfilling experiences.

We’ll also dive into the fascinating ways movement can help partners connect with their masculine and feminine energies. Whether it’s stepping into the strength and assertiveness of a lead or embracing the grace and responsiveness of a follow, dance teaches us how to embody these dynamics in a way that feels natural and empowering. Imagine using dance as a practice to strengthen your relationship, both emotionally and physically—it’s not just fun, it’s transformative.

We tackle the thorny issue of jealousy—where it comes from, how it shows up, and, more importantly, how to work through it in a healthy way. Can we take what we know about partner dancing—the trust, the rhythm, the balance—and use it to build stronger, more connected relationships? Spoiler alert: absolutely.

If you’ve ever wondered how the art of dance could teach you to navigate intimacy, tackle jealousy, and tap into your true self, this episode has the answers you’re looking for. Let’s groove into the secret connection between dancing and desire—you won’t want to miss this one.

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Interview: Dirty dancing explained with Briana Gibson

Tari Mannello — Thu, 18 Oct 2018 23:24:57 +0000

Briana Gibson is a force to be reckoned with on the dance floor, and in this candid interview with @breezydanceswcs, she gives us an insider’s look into the art of nonverbal communication through dance.

Three minutes of moving closely with someone can reveal more about their personality, energy, and intentions than hours of conversation. Crazy, right? Briana takes us deep into this unspoken language, sharing what you can learn about someone simply by sharing a song and a connection.

But it’s not all about the rhythm. In this episode, Briana also tackles the tough stuff, like what to do when someone “ghosts” you—yes, even in the dance world, it happens—and why women sometimes reject men on the dance floor. Her insights? Equal parts eye-opening and empowering, offering a fresh perspective on respect, boundaries, and the subtle dynamics that play out in social settings.

And of course, we couldn’t wrap up without exploring the big question: chemistry. How do you know when it’s there? How can you tell if a connection on the dance floor translates to something deeper in real life? Briana shares her top tips for understanding compatibility both while you’re grooving to the beat and when the music stops.

This interview is packed with fun, wisdom, and a touch of sass—just like Briana herself. Whether you’re a seasoned dancer or someone who’s never set foot on a dance floor, you’ll walk away with fresh insights on connection, chemistry, and maybe even a few new moves. Ready to learn how dance can unlock a whole new world of understanding? Let’s get started.

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Part 2: Who should initiate sex and intimacy in relationships?

Tari Mannello — Fri, 05 Oct 2018 01:18:25 +0000

Ever wondered why women often don’t try again after approaching or initiating just once? The truth is, rejection cuts deep—often more than you realize. In this episode, we’ll unpack how intensely women tend to internalize rejection and explore what both partners can do to navigate this delicate dynamic. Spoiler: it’s not just about the initial “no,” but how that “no” is communicated.

Rejection is part of life, but few people truly know how to handle it—or give it—with grace. That’s why we’re breaking it down: how to say no compassionately, without crushing someone’s confidence, and how to receive rejection without letting it derail your sense of self-worth. Mastering this skill isn’t just for dating—it’s essential for life. Whether you’re meeting someone new, in a long-term relationship, or navigating marriage, understanding how to reject (and be rejected) gracefully can make you a better partner, friend, and human being.

This isn’t about sugar-coating; it’s about connecting with empathy while staying true to yourself. Ready to level up your social skills and understand rejection from a whole new angle? Let’s get into it.

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Who should initiate sex and intimacy in relationships?

Tari Mannello — Thu, 13 Sep 2018 19:04:51 +0000

Have you ever thought about how much sex you want in a day, a week, or a month? Or do you avoid quantifying it altogether, thinking it’s too personal or restrictive? And here’s another question: once you’ve slept with someone a few times, who should initiate? These seemingly simple questions can ignite deeper conversations—and even lead to couple’s coaching.

At the heart of Closeness Coaching is this transformative idea: never have sex out of obligation. But how do you balance that with staying open, available, and receptive to intimacy with your partner? It’s a delicate dance, but one that can change your relationship for the better.

This episode dives into the intriguing debate: are women actually more sexual than men? Beyond that, we explore how to tell the difference between a partner who’s genuinely too tired and busy for intimacy versus someone who might be emotionally checked out—or, worse, rejecting you.

We’ll also tackle communication around initiating sex. How do you ask for what you need without it feeling awkward or forced? And if you’ve bought into the belief that men should always initiate, could that mindset be holding you back from getting what you really want?

Whether you’re trying to better understand your own desires or crack the code on intimacy with your partner, this episode is your chance to sort it all out. Tune in—it’s about time for some answers, don’t you think?

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Is it a deal breaker if your partner doesn’t share the same hobbies and passions?

Tari Mannello — Mon, 03 Sep 2018 00:59:39 +0000

Balancing Passion and Partnership: What Happens When Your Partner Doesn’t Share Your Interests?

Our passions and hobbies often define us—they’re what light us up, give us purpose, and make life more exciting. For some, these activities are just a fun pastime. For others, they hold the same weight as deeply personal values, like religious beliefs or major life decisions. But what happens when your intimate partner doesn’t share your same enthusiasm? What if, quite simply, they just don’t care about the things you love to do?

Should they feel obligated to attend your events, performances, or games, even if they’re not interested? Or is it unreasonable to expect someone to force themselves into a space where they don’t naturally fit? These are the questions we explore in this episode as we unpack the intersection of passion, partnership, and compromise.

Should Your Partner Support Your Hobbies, No Matter What?

It’s a tricky balance. On the one hand, we crave support from the people closest to us—it’s a way to feel valued and validated. On the other, forcing someone to engage in something they don’t enjoy can lead to resentment and tension.

•The Case for Showing Up: Does attending your partner’s events, even without genuine interest, demonstrate love and commitment? Is it part of the give-and-take that makes relationships work?

•The Case for Personal Freedom: Shouldn’t we respect our partner’s autonomy and allow them to choose how they spend their time? Is insisting on their participation a form of control?

These questions touch on deeper issues of expectations, communication, and the sacrifices we make for love.

Can Expectations and Sacrifices Become Toxic?

Expectations are natural in any relationship, but they can easily spiral into toxic territory if left unchecked. When one partner feels obligated to make sacrifices that don’t align with their interests or values, it can create bitterness and distance. Similarly, demanding unwavering support without considering your partner’s perspective can erode trust and respect.

In this episode, we delve into:

•How to identify when expectations around hobbies are becoming unhealthy.

•The importance of mutual respect and compromise in navigating differing interests.

•The fine line between supportive partnership and overstepping personal boundaries.

What Does Healthy Hobby Communication Look Like?

At the heart of this issue lies the need for honest, empathetic communication. We’ll share strategies for discussing hobbies and expectations with your partner in a way that fosters understanding and avoids conflict.

•Be Clear About Your Needs: Express why your passions matter to you and what kind of support you’d like.

•Respect Their Boundaries: Understand that they may not share your enthusiasm—and that’s okay.

Tune in to discover how to strike the right balance and create harmony between your passions and your relationship.

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How to properly go down on a woman part 2

Tari Mannello — Tue, 21 Aug 2018 18:47:22 +0000

The Secret to Deeper Intimacy: Communication, Connection, and Sensual Exploration

And also, how to properly go down on her. Part deux.

If we want to create unforgettable intimacy with our partners, the first step is understanding a simple truth: neither men nor women are mind readers. We can be intuitive, empathetic, and perceptive, but expecting someone to magically “just know what turns us on” is a recipe for disappointment.

Think about it: many of us see ourselves as rare, special individuals—complex, unique, and unlike anyone else. If that’s true (and it probably is), how can we expect our partners to instinctively know every nuance of our “special” desires, needs, and turn-ons? Being truly unique means that clear communication is essential. Without it, even the most loving partners can feel lost in translation.

Why “Just Knowing” Is a Myth

One of the most common pitfalls in intimacy is expecting men to decode the mystery of what turns a woman on without guidance. In this episode, we break down why this approach can lead to frustration for both partners. Instead of leaning on assumptions, we explore the art of communicating your needs in a way that feels authentic, empowering, and sexy.

From here, we move into something that demands both technique and presence: going down on her. Why is it important not to overcomplicate things or try too many techniques at once? Because intimacy isn’t just about a skill or completing a task—it’s about connection. Presence, focus, and a willingness to explore go further than any checklist of moves ever could.

The Power of Oral Language in the Bedroom

How we talk about each other’s bodies and intimate desires plays a huge role in sexual chemistry. What kind of language turns you on? Do you prefer sweet whispers, bold dirty talk, or something in between? Taking the time to figure this out—and sharing it with your partner—can open the door to a whole new level of connection and heat.

Talking about sex isn’t just a nice-to-have; it’s a must. Whether you’re describing what you love, what you want more of, or even what you’d like to try differently, the right words can bring you closer in ways you never imagined.

Exploring Positions and Self-Awareness

We wrap up the episode with a sensual look at experimentation. Trying new positions can reignite passion and curiosity, but there’s one crucial element that often goes overlooked: self-awareness. For women, knowing not just what their body looks like but also how it tastes can be a game-changer in building confidence and connection with their partner.

Why This Episode Matters

This is more than a guide to better oral sex—it’s a call to action for deeper understanding, intimate communication, and shared exploration.

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How to properly prepare to go down on a woman, get your mind right and eat her out Part 1

Tari Mannello — Fri, 17 Aug 2018 12:59:48 +0000

Unlocking the Art of Deep Listening and Mind-Blowing Oral Sex

Intimacy isn’t just about physical connection; it’s about tuning in with your whole being. Deep listening means learning to read your partner on a level that goes beyond words—so you don’t have to ask so many questions. It’s about paying attention to her signals, her body language, and her energy to create an experience that feels electric, connected, and completely satisfying. This is intimacy at its best and sets the perfect tone for the ultimate act of closeness: going down on her.

Oral sex for women can be one of the most exquisite and fulfilling experiences—but unlocking her full pleasure requires more than just a goal to make her come. It takes patience, attention, and a willingness to explore.

In Part One of this two-part series, we’ll look at the mental preparation and understanding necessary to turn her on and help her fully let go. There really is an energetic aspect to this. Get ready for a juicy, sensual conversation that will transform your approach to intimacy.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

•Decoding Mixed Signals: Learn what to do when a partner seems unsure or sends conflicting cues.

•Reading Her Desire: Understand the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways a woman shows she wants more.

•Understanding Stimulation: Why men and women need different kinds of touch to reach peak pleasure.

•Oral Sex as a Journey: Discover why oral isn’t just an isolated act but part of a greater, more sensual experience.

•Recognizing Discomfort: Spot the signs that she might be uncomfortable and how to adjust accordingly.

•The #1 Secret to Great Oral Sex: This single tip will elevate your skills to a higher

Sensitivity: How to navigate intimate topics like how she smells or tastes with confidence and care.

•Appreciating Her Taste: Celebrate her unique flavor and why it’s an essential part of the experience.

•Talking and Compliments: Learn how words during intimacy can amplify pleasure and connection.

•Recognizing Arousal: What arousal actually looks like in a woman and how to respond.

•Healthy Aggression: Explore what dominance looks like in a way that’s exciting, consensual, and empowering.

•Mastering Teasing: The art of slowing down to build anticipation and intensify pleasure.

Why This Matters

Deep listening and attentive intimacy aren’t just skills—they’re gifts you give to your partner and your relationship that make day to day living even better.

By learning to truly tune in, you’ll create experiences that feel richer, more connected, and deeply satisfying for both of you. Oral sex, when approached with care, curiosity, and confidence, can be one of the most intimate acts you share, and this episode is your roadmap to mastering it.

Ready to unlock the secrets to ultimate satisfaction? Tune in now and take your intimacy to the next level.

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Claiming her, giving too much and knowing what to do when she just want to see where this is going.

Tari Mannello — Fri, 10 Aug 2018 16:27:09 +0000

Refining the Art of Intimacy: A Guide to Memorable Sexual Encounters

You’ve shared moments of connection, and now you’re poised for some fun in the bedroom. While the mechanics of sex might be universally understood, the art of properly seducing a woman and truly connecting with a new partner on this level is a dance. Learn how to navigate the intricacies of this first intimate encounter. Are you equipped to ensure that both of you are left yearning for more?

The first sexual experience with someone new is a magical experience. It sets the tone for future encounters. This initial interaction can either create a bond or, with a few missteps, cut it off altogether. Awareness and presence in our actions becomes paramount. Join us for an insightful session with Closeness. Learn how to create an unforgettable sexual experience that really hits home.

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How to recognize a breakup Part 2

Tari Mannello — Fri, 27 Jul 2018 06:34:22 +0000

One of the most difficult and excruciating parts of relationships are breakups and the events leading up to them. Sometimes though, they can be avoided simply by recognizing the early warning signs. Why do we ignore them so readily?

In this episode we’ll show you what it looks like when someone is starting to withdraw from you, as well as the twisted truth about what really happens when one of us pulls back. When others withdraw from us, it can make us feel a sense of “forced neediness,” which isn’t healthy for either partner.

We’ll also look at why real communication fails through text and why pretending to be completely “unavailable” at all times not only makes you look bad, but isn’t healthy for intimacy. Finally, we’ll explain why expecting others to “get the hint” is a disaster when it comes to rejection.

When we learn healthy boundaries and own the ability to risk the relationship for what we stand for, we can say goodbye in a healthy way, rather than holding on to someone who is toxic for us. This is Part two of a two-part series.

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How to recognize a breakup before it happens Part 1

Tari Mannello — Sat, 21 Jul 2018 06:26:38 +0000

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Part 2: Fighting, arguments and manipulation tactics solved

Tari Mannello — Sat, 14 Jul 2018 06:30:23 +0000

Fighting and Manipulation Tactics Solved (Part 2)

In this follow-up episode, we delve deeper into the roots of arguments and manipulative behaviors in relationships—and, more importantly, how to resolve them. From communication pitfalls to accountability issues, this episode breaks down actionable strategies to stop the cycle of fighting to foster healthier, more respectful interactions.

Why Certain Phrases and Tactics Backfire

If you’ve ever said, “I don’t want to argue,” you likely found it only escalated the situation. This is because you’re starting an argument by saying this. It’s is a prime example of a well-meaning phrase that often backfires, leading to more tension. Similarly, some people intentionally start an argument only to shut it down immediately after, just to have the last word or feel like they’ve “won.” These tactics create frustration and prevent resolution. Direct communication is often the antidote—being clear and straightforward eliminates passive-aggressive behavior and keeps the conversation on track.

Accountability and Respect Are Key

Many fights stem from a lack of accountability. Flaky excuses like “My friend needs me” or being perpetually late due to procrastination. (“But I was really tired”) show a disregard for your partner’s time and priorities. Relationships thrive on mutual respect, and showing up—both physically and emotionally—goes a long way. Expecting reliability, such as being on time or following through on commitments, is not unreasonable; it’s essential for building trust.

Communication Tools That Work

Cold, vague texts or procrastinating by avoiding important conversations only fuel misunderstandings. Instead, prioritize clarity and respect in your relationship, especially when dealing with men. Simple tools like time management strategies can also help eliminate stressors that lead to arguments—such as tardiness or neglecting shared responsibilities.

When You Can’t Fix It Alone

Not every argument can be solved in the moment or by one person. Sometimes, external help—whether it’s a mediator, coach, or neutral space to process—is necessary. Closeness also specializes in these services!

Recognizing when you need support is a sign of strength, not weakness. And if a situation feels truly unresolvable, knowing when to let go of the fight can save both partners from unnecessary exhaustion.

This episode is a practical guide to cutting through the noise of arguments, holding yourself accountable, and creating a relationship built on mutual respect and effective communication.

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Tune in to learn how to spot manipulative tactics, resolve fights, and build a healthier connection with your partner. For more insights on love, intimacy, and communication, visit Closeness.com.

CHAPTERS:

0:00 Introduction and recap

2:32 I don’t want to argue

7:06 Starting and argument and then shutting it down

10:20 Reading way too deep into things

14:30 Why direct communication is best

16:40 Deprioritizing your partner without warning and punishing them

19:06 Excuses, excuses

23:05 The danger of NOT having expectations

28:50 Total lack of accountability

34:50 But my friend needs me

36:35 Poor texting examples

39:30 Dangers of procrastination

42:50 Solving age old issues of taking out the trash

45:15 Sometimes you just can’t fix it yourself

46:10 Being disrespectful of your partners time

49:58 Excessive tardiness

51:34 A useful time management tool

52:48 A second tool for time

53:46 Blaming it on my friend and self-victimization

57:04 Overnighters

1:01:46 But… I am really tired

1:06:32 Outro

Part 1: Fighting, arguments and manipulation tactics solved

Tari Mannello — Sat, 07 Jul 2018 21:56:06 +0000

Solving Conflict (Part 1)

In this episode, we explore the messy world of arguments, manipulation tactics, and how to resolve conflict in a better and more healthy way than what you’re used to. Whether you’re interrogating your partner, misinterpreting their actions, or are stuck in a cycle of accusations, this episode will help you reimagine how you approach disagreements and poor reactions.

Questioning, Tone, and Playing Fair

One mistake in couples quarrels is asking questions you don’t really want to hear or know the answers to as this often leads to resentment and escalated tension. Similarly, interrogating your partner with accusatory remarks, and implying manipulatively that they did something wrong to bate and test them is a surefire way to spark defensiveness or even bring a relationship to a screeching halt. Your tone also plays a huge role in how your message is received. Even valid concerns can feel like attacks when delivered with the wrong energy. Remember, fairness in fights is critical: are you arguing the point, or are you trying to argue all sides to win?

Stop Accusing, Start Understanding

Accusations, implications, and insinuations are relationship kryptonite. If you’re constantly accusing your partner of things they haven’t done or are implying wrongdoing without knowing all or any of the facts, you are killing your relationship. Humans are notmind readers—if you need something, say it clearly instead of assuming they should “just know how I feel or what they should have done.”

And while feelings are valid and certainly may matter to you, they’re not always accurate. Taking a moment to question whether your emotions are driven by actual intuition or fear before launching into an argument can work wonders.

Gaslighting, Reverse Gaslighting, and Intuition

Everyone thinks everyone is gas lighting these days. But when it actually happens, gaslighting can destroy trust in a relationship. This episode also introduces the concept of “reverse gaslighting.” It’s a reminder that being “right” in an argument doesn’t always matter if your partner is left feeling unseen or unheard. Intuition is powerful, but be honest with yourself: is it really intuition, or are you letting fear cloud your judgment?

It’s not about blame, but rather about harnessing the ability to recognize destructive patterns and build healthier ways to communicate. Fighting doesn’t have to be the end of intimacy connection—it can be the beginning of understanding.

Ready to Come Closer?

Check out today’s episode to learn how to navigate arguments, avoid manipulative tactics, and build a stronger connection with your partner. Visit Closeness.com for more tips on love, intimacy, and communication.

CHAPTERS:

0:00 Intro

2:00 Asking questions you don’t want the answer to

10:12 Questioning and interrogating

12:00 A tool to indentify the style of questions you’re being asked

15:05 Your tone matters

18:10 The best tool for asking the right questions

21:55 When the person asking you questions also punishes you

24:35 You’re not obligated to answer every question asked of you

26:30 Fabricating stories that never happened

32:56 Are you playing fair?

39:30 Gaslighting

42:00 “Reverse Gaslighting”

47:35 Do inaccurate or wrong feeligns matter?

52:45 Accsations, implications, insinautions and inferences

55:10 People aren’t mind readers

58:25 You’re not always right

1:00:15 Is it your intuition or is it fear?

1:09:10 Winding down

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What actually happens in a sex coaching or sexual guidance session at Closeness?

Tari Mannello — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 23:57:57 +0000

Are you curious about what really happens during an in-person sex coaching session? This episode takes you behind the scenes to show exactly why Closeness is renowned for creating breakthroughs and delivering sizzling results.

From the moment you walk in, you’ll feel welcomed into a space that’s safe, open, and pressure-free. Sessions are tailored to meet your unique needs—whether you’re struggling with intimacy, navigating communication issues, rebuilding trust, or looking to reignite chemistry with your partner.

We’ll explore the variety of approaches used to help you connect. Nothing is required and your comfort and safety come first:

•Optional interactive Demos: guided experiences, interactions and demos designed to model confidence, great communication, and when appropriate: touch, assertiveness and seduction. Sometimes seeing (and feeling) it in action makes all the difference with your partner.

•Conversations That Matter: Talking is always the first and often only step. A deep, honest look at your desires, needs challenges, and goals. There’s no judgment here—just real talk, support, and straightforward advice that works.

•Practical Techniques: From creating sensual attraction to handling difficult conversations, you’ll leave with tools you can actually use to bring passion and connection back into your relationship.

Closeness coaching is not therapy—it’s real, actionable guidance that moves the needle right away. Whether you come solo or as a couple, the goal is to give you clarity, confidence, and the skills to elevate your love life.

If you’ve been wondering what sets Closeness apart, this episode answers all your questions and invites you to experience the magic for yourself.

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What a woman’s body is capable of Part 2: How to turn her on

Tari Mannello — Sun, 17 Jun 2018 21:17:06 +0000

Self love and “touching yourself” is an interesting concept. Observe how you feel when you simply read the question: “Do you touch yourself?” or “Do you masturbate?” Some women have no issue being handsy multiple times a day, while others rarely touch themselves with no immediate plans to do so in the future. If we tack on the additional challenge of touching yourself in front of your partner, it opens up an entirely different set of possibilities… and concerns!

How do we unlock the ability to be comfortable in our own skin? How can we find comfort in touching ourselves and in front of our partner?

For our male listeners: Can you stay connected to your partner while helping her get there without zoning out or losing presence? Did you know you can get your partner wet without even touching her? Make a splash, and and let’s dive deep into this episode.

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What a woman’s body is capable of Part 1: Understanding female anatomy and orgasm

Tari Mannello — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 19:14:02 +0000

Helping a woman spill over into orgasm is a very exciting experience. We’re big fans of the whole process. But getting her there is not always about what you think, especially if you’re the kind of man who is destination oriented and who prides yourself on making women come.

In this episode we’ll explore this and several other concepts including:

– Understanding word play and loaded words

– What effects repressing your sexuality has on you

– Understanding what happens to sex when you’re married

– Why picking your type really plays in to sexual desire and your orgasm

– A deep exploration about female orgasm

– Why being solely orgasm focused means you lose half the fun

– How long it takes to come

– The appropriate time to be destination oriented

– What to do if you can come by yourself but not with your partner

– The two types of sexual comfort required to come

– What women can do to be more active participants during sex

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How to turn a woman on with decisiveness

Tari Mannello — Sat, 02 Jun 2018 03:09:27 +0000

Decisiveness: Your Attraction Cheat Code

Let’s be real: Women are magnetically drawn to men who know exactly what they want.

Forget pick-up lines and bedroom tricks. Do you want great chemistry and attraction? Decisiveness is your secret weapon. We’re talking about that electric confidence that makes her lean in, not pull away.

This isn’t about being aggressive, domineering or hyper masculine. It’s about being intentional. About showing up with such clear purpose that she can’t help but be intrigued. When you move through the world with laser-focused direction, you’re basically broadcasting “I’ve got my life together” – and trust me, that’s incredibly sexy.

Want to know how to flip her attraction switch? How to go from “just another guy” to someone she can’t stop thinking about?

Tune in. This episode is about to decode the art of magnetic masculine energy – and trust me, it’s nothing like what you’ve heard before.

Get ready to transform your game.

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Why you should talk to strangers

Tari Mannello — Wed, 30 May 2018 04:18:45 +0000

Have you ever caught yourself creating emotional barriers with a simple phrase like, “You don’t know me!” or “You’re a stranger!” or “You could be a serial killer” when you’re on a date and trying to make a smart choice?

These seemingly innocent words carry more weight than we realize, potentially sabotaging our chances for genuine connection.

Imagine the invisible walls we unconsciously build in our daily interactions: avoiding eye contact with a fellow shopper, reflexively stepping back when someone new approaches, or treating unfamiliar faces as if they’re invisible. Each of these moments represents a missed opportunity for a meaningful interaction.

This episode explores the subtle art of connection—how our language and micro-behaviors can either invite intimacy or push people away. We’ll uncover the surprising ways our communication patterns impact our relationships, revealing how small, intentional shifts can transform our social experiences from distant and guarded to open and authentic.

Get ready to challenge your assumptions about connection, learn to break down invisible barriers, and discover the profound power of being truly present with those around you—even those who might initially feel like “strangers.”

Would you like me to refine this further? The summary maintains the podcast’s introspective tone while making the language more dynamic and inviting.

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Unrequited love: What to do when you like someone more than they like you

Tari Mannello — Tue, 15 May 2018 20:58:19 +0000

Unrequited love is one of life’s most painful and challenging experiences—both for the person longing and for the one unable to reciprocate. Yet, we rarely stop to consider the impact on the other side: how it feels to be the one who isn’t interested. It’s a deeply emotional subject, and few of us are equipped to navigate it with the grace and sensitivity it deserves.

In this episode, we explore tools to handle both sides of unrequited love with respect, compassion, and care. When someone offers us their most precious gifts—their love, heart, and even their sexuality—why do we so often respond with indifference, impatience, or even cruelty, simply because we don’t share their feelings? Is a lack of interest truly justification for unkindness?

Through thoughtful reflection and actionable insights, you’ll learn how to transform these difficult moments into opportunities for greater understanding and connection. Open your heart and mind to a new way of approaching love, rejection, and relationships.

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How to know when you’re being lead on

Tari Mannello — Mon, 30 Apr 2018 05:34:06 +0000

Ever find yourself telling someone, “I don’t want to waste my time” on a date? Sure, it feels like you’re setting boundaries, but let’s be real—this harsh phrase can come off as dismissive and cold. What about the other person’s time? It implies that anyone who doesn’t instantly captivate you or fulfill your expectations is disposable. Instead of fostering connection, it shuts people down and leaves little room for genuine closeness.

And check this out: We often complain that others “waste our time,” yet we’re guilty of squandering it ourselves. How? By endlessly scrolling through social media, watching Netflix, hanging out, chilling etc. We squander time by holding on to toxic connections with others that we know aren’t serving us. We continue physical relationships with people we don’t truly care about. Or worse, by we’ll string along—neither committing fully nor letting them go.

Sometimes we avoid ending a relationship because we think we’re being kind, sparing their feelings. But let’s face it—it’s usually about avoiding the discomfort of necessary action. True closeness and connection require courage: to communicate clearly, to make space for what we do want, and to honor others’ time just as much as our own.

If you want deeper relationships, start valuing people’s time—including yours. Communicate with honesty and compassion, and don’t settle for half-hearted connections.

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How to properly tell someone that you’re not interested

Tari Mannello — Sun, 15 Apr 2018 20:05:11 +0000

Have you ever been accused of “playing games” or not being upfront? For many of us, the challenge lies in uttering three deceptively simple words: I’m not interested. This single sentence has the power to save both time and heartache—for you and for others.

If we’re honest, ignoring someone’s advances often does convey disinterest, but only part of the time. In other cases, our silence could be rooted in poor communication skills, shyness, or even uncertainty about our own feelings.

Instead of clearly expressing interest—or politely declining—we often respond to invitations with baffling, irrelevant updates about our physical location. When someone asks you out and your response is, “I’m in the shower,” “I’m at work,” or “I’m at the beach,” you’re not just speaking in fragments—you’re unintentionally sabotaging your chances.

These non-answers leave your suitor confused and discouraged, making it seem as though you’re brushing them off in a manipulative way, even if that wasn’t your intent. The solution? A simple yet transformative addition: but.

“I’m not interested, BUT I’d love to see you as a friend.”

“I’m busy tonight, BUT tomorrow works perfectly!”

By using “but,” you can turn down an invitation while still leaving the door open for clarity, connection, or future opportunities.

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How being busy and running late makes you extremely undesirable and sexually unattractive

Tari Mannello — Fri, 30 Mar 2018 20:45:18 +0000

Do you find yourself constantly telling others how busy you are? When someone invites you out, is your go-to response something like, “I can’t,” “I’m busy,” or “It’s a really hectic week for me”? Do you follow up with genuine interest or an effort to reschedule—or does the conversation end there?

If you’re always rushing from one place to the next, caught in a whirlwind of busyness, it’s worth asking: how much are you missing by being stuck in this cycle? A hurried excuse is worlds apart from having a meaningful, present conversation—even if it’s a brief one.

Think about it: how often do you avoid eye contact or glance away from others? How often do you skip a smile or a simple hello because you’re lost in thought or glued to your phone? Being “busy” has become a badge of honor, a way to signal importance, as if no one else could possibly have as much on their plate as you.

But here’s the catch: if you’re too busy to connect, those who value intimacy might eventually stop trying to reach you. If you’re a busy little bee longing for closeness, but tired of being brushed off or ignored yourself, this episode is your wake-up call.

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Part 2: How to properly have sex with someone new for the first time

Tari Mannello — Thu, 15 Mar 2018 02:18:38 +0000

Unspoken Expectations and First Encounters

The moments leading up to intimacy—the anticipation, connection, and discovery—are often just as profound as the intimacy itself. But what happens after that first experience? A dynamic begins to take shape, often filled with unspoken expectations about what happens next, subtle cues that most people do not pick up on, and decisions that can either deepen a bond or quietly unravel its potential.

In Part 2 of How to have sex with someone new for the first time, we explore the balance of these pivotal moments: how to approach sex with intention, recognizing the signals of desire, and avoid pushing too hard or moving too fast. From understanding why men are often expected to initiate to empowering women to be more assertive, we uncover what it takes to navigate these encounters with confidence, care, and awareness.

Key highlights:

•How to Tell if She’s Turned On: Learn to read her body language and energy and feel her desire.

•Navigating First Encounters: Tips for when things are progressing, how to move them forward and what specifically to do to not to ruin the moment.

•Timing and Connection: Thoughts on waiting for sex, one-night stands, and what happens when she’s ready before you are.

•Listening to Your Body: Tune into yourself to make the experience more authentic and satisfying.

This episode is explicit, raw, and thought-provoking, offering insights for anyone—regardless of gender or orientation—seeking a deeper, more connected approach to intimacy.

If you’re ready to elevate the way you connect, approach, and share yourself with someone new, this is your guide to navigating those unforgettable first experiences.

Chapters:

0:00 Introductions

3:09 Why a man has to initiate

15:36 Can women be more assertive and aggressive?

18:20 How to know if she’s turned on by you

19:52 Tips if things are progressing well with your date

24:00 Why pushing too hard can ruin it

25:28 Do you really need to like your date to have some fun?

26:58 One night stands

27:34 Listen to your body

33:48 Story time: A lifelong plutonic girlfriend

35:02 Thoughts on waiting to have sex

38:52 When she’s ready for sex before you are