Black Single Mothers by Choice (SMCs)

STFM Exclusive: How It’s Going...My Big Career Pivot

Aisha J — Thu, 12 Mar 2026 04:02:00 +0000

Leaving a toxic work environment while parenting solo required honesty and self-trust. This reflection names the clarity that comes from choosing sustainability over survival. It’s a reminder that pivots often signal alignment, not failure.

Mash-up Clip: What I Learned About Traveling with Kids

Aisha J — Mon, 09 Mar 2026 04:00:00 +0000

Traveling internationally as a Single Mother by Choice requires intention, preparation, and confidence. In this clip, reflections from early travels with young children meet updated insight from parenting school-age kids, including what has changed around documentation, boundaries, and advocacy. It’s a reminder that early decisions often hold up, but lived experience sharpens the strategy.

Mash-up Clip: How Sperm Costs Have Changed (2013–2026)

Aisha J — Thu, 05 Mar 2026 05:00:00 +0000

Looking back at fertility costs reveals how access and decision-making are shaped by timing and context. This reflection compares early choices with today’s realities and names the emotional weight behind financial planning. It’s a reminder that context matters as much as numbers.

Mash-up Clip: What I Learned About Having a Second Child

Aisha J — Mon, 02 Mar 2026 05:00:00 +0000

Parenting children at different stages reveals how needs and dynamics evolve. This clip reflects on tenderness, independence, and learning to support children with both structure and softness. It’s a meditation on presence as families grow.

Check out the full mash-up episode at Start to Finish Motherhood:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s5e8-trying-for-a-second-child-as-a-single-mother-by-choice/id1666585547?i=1000753032605

Mash-up Clip: What I Know Now... Ask Me Anything

Aisha J — Thu, 26 Feb 2026 05:00:00 +0000

Questions asked years ago land differently with time and lived experience. This reflection revisits early concerns with the clarity that only parenting school-age children can bring. It highlights how confidence grows as survival gives way to steadiness.

Mash-up Clip: What the Pandemic Revealed... Parenting in a Pandemic

Aisha J — Mon, 23 Feb 2026 05:00:00 +0000

The pandemic changed everything emotionally, mentally, and physically. This reflection names the unresolved stress many parents still carry and how survival mode lingers long after crisis ends. It offers language for experiences that were never fully processed.

Listen to the full mash-up episode at Start to Finish Motherhood:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s5e6-parenting-in-a-pandemic-navigating-uncertainty/id1666585547?i=1000750301664

Mash-up Clip: Advocating for My Child Then ... Advocating for Myself Now

Aisha J — Thu, 19 Feb 2026 05:00:00 +0000

Advocacy is a skill learned through necessity and experience. This clip reflects on becoming clearer and more confident when navigating healthcare systems for both children and self. It affirms that self-trust is built through practice, not permission.

Listen to the full mash-up episode at Start to Finish Motherhood:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s5e5-black-bodies-black-babies-and-medical-advocacy/id1666585547?i=1000749235154

Mash-up Clip: Reflections on the Dating Pool from a Black Single Mother by Choice

Aisha J — Mon, 16 Feb 2026 05:00:00 +0000

Dating looks different when your children’s safety, peace, and home come first. This clip reflects on boundaries, discernment, and why neutrality and shared values matter more than pressure. It captures how priorities sharpen with time and experience.

Listen to the full mash-up episode at Start to Finish Motherhood:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s5e4-dating-as-a-black-single-mother-by-choice/id1666585547?i=1000748005354

STFM Exclusive: How It Started... Why I Created Start to Finish Motherhood (STFM)

Aisha J — Thu, 12 Feb 2026 05:20:00 +0000

This reflection shares the heart behind continuing the work after the first chapter ended. It centers joy, softness, and storytelling from a Black woman’s lens, honoring the desire to create safe, affirming spaces. It explains why the story needed room to keep growing.

Listen to the full episode at Start to Finish Motherhood w/ Aisha:

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/77u8bMLi6rSggLzWfAArHi?si=f879e785caed44e1

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s1e1-on-why-i-created-the-start-to-finish-motherhood-podcast/id1666585547?i=1000599732178

Enjoy!

The Bridge Between Then (BSMC) and Now (STFM)

Aisha J — Mon, 09 Feb 2026 05:03:00 +0000

This reflection looks back at the earliest days of intentional motherhood and names how much can shift over time. What once felt heavy and uncertain has evolved with lived experience, growth, and perspective. This clip offers context for how early conversations continue to deepen in the next chapter.

A Final Note — Where the Story Goes Next

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Jan 2026 15:03:14 +0000

This episode is a bridge and final episode of this feed.

In this final episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, the journey continues under one home: Start to Finish Motherhood. What began with navigating fertility decisions, donor choices, dating, medical advocacy, and parenting very young children has evolved alongside motherhood itself.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

why this podcast feed is coming to a close
where the story continues
what the Mash-Up Episodes are — and why they are not reruns
how early conversations are revisited with updates from a more seasoned mother
and how the journey has grown from survival into sustainability

If Black Single Mothers by Choice helped you feel seen, grounded, or less alone, Start to Finish Motherhood is where the conversation deepens — with perspective shaped by parenting school-age children and living life on your own terms.

Join the next chapter at Start to Finish Motherhood, and if this podcast has supported you, please consider leaving a 5-star review on your listening platform.

Black Single Mothers by Choice & Start to Finish Motherhood... The Mash-up

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Jan 2026 13:05:22 +0000

If you’ve been listening to Black Single Mothers by Choice, you’ve been here from the beginning the questions, the uncertainty, the early decisions, and the quiet courage it takes to choose motherhood intentionally.

This episode is a bridge...

When this podcast began, the focus was narrow and necessary: becoming a Black Single Mother by Choice, navigating fertility decisions, donor choices, dating, medical advocacy, and the early realities of parenting very young children. These conversations were raw, timely, and rooted in survival and discovery.

But life didn’t stop there. Motherhood kept moving and evolving and so did my podcasting.

Children grew. Capacity shifted. New questions emerged: about school-age parenting, identity, work, rest, boundaries, grief, joy, and what it looks like to live beyond the early trenches of solo motherhood.

The story continues under one home: Start to Finish Motherhood.

Where to Go Next

Start to Finish Motherhood is where the full arc of the journey lives — from the earliest days of choosing solo motherhood to parenting school-age children and reimagining life on your own terms.

To make that transition easier, Season 5 of Start to Finish Motherhood introduces the Mash-Up Episodes.

What Are the Mash-Up Episodes?

The Mash-Up Episodes intentionally revisit key episodes from Black Single Mothers by Choice — but with context, reflection, and updates layered in. You’ll hear:

how early decisions played out over time
what changed, what stayed true, and what surprised us
new insights shaped by lived experience
and how the journey evolved from survival into sustainability

These are not reruns.
They are bridges connecting where you started to where the story is now.

How to Listen

Start with Season 5 of Start to Finish Motherhood to hear the Mash-Up Episodes and updates
Then, binge Seasons 1–4 to experience the journey from the beginning — uninterrupted and in one place

If Black Single Mothers by Choice helped you feel seen, grounded, or less alone, Start to Finish Motherhood is where that conversation deepens.

Same honesty.
More perspective.
A longer view of what intentional motherhood can become.

Thank you for being here — from the start.

Continue the journey with Start to Finish Motherhood:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood
Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/

Introducing: Start to Finish Motherhood w/ Aisha

Aisha J — Sat, 24 Aug 2024 08:24:00 +0000

Aisha, former co-host of the Mocha Single Mothers by Choice (SMCs) podcast, is launching Start to Finish Motherhood, a podcast for those thinking or already Single Mothers by Choice, just looking for practical advice for navigating life's relationships. When you decide to have children on your own, it doesn't mean that you're completely alone. Aisha is partnering with you every step of your journey.

Start to Finish Motherhood website: Start to Finish Motherhood

Connect with me:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StarttoFinishMotherhood

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood

Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/starttofinishmotherhood

YouTube: https://youtube.com/@starttofinishmotherhood

New Podcast Alert NorthStar GAZE

Aisha J — Sat, 24 Aug 2024 07:56:00 +0000

Embark on a transformative journey with the "NorthStar Gaze" podcast, sharing intimate stories from Geo-Stem luminaries. In 1-on-1 chats, explore their journeys and profound contributions to geography and GIS.

Inspired by our Telescope program, each episode offers a telescopic view into their lives. Uncover the human side of Geo-Stem, where passion meets purpose, and racial justice is central.

"The NorthStar Gaze" is your invitation to a Homecoming, where diverse voices paint the tapestry of contributions to geography and STEM. Tune in and let the brilliance of these geo-stars guide you.

S4E11: Parenting the Child in Front of You

Aisha J — Fri, 23 Aug 2024 16:22:00 +0000

In this, the podcast series finale, Aisha sits down with some of the moms she admires to discuss parenting. In this heartfelt episode, our host reflects on the parenting wisdom imparted by their own mother and how it shapes their approach to parenting today. Joined by fellow SMC moms Christina and Jillian, they dive deep into the joys and challenges of raising children as single mothers by choice. The conversation spans topics from respecting children's individuality and creating safe, emotionally supportive environments, to navigating school systems and setting healthy boundaries. Tune in for touching anecdotes, valuable insights, and practical advice. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more inspiring content!

00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections

00:48 Meet the Guests: Christina and Jillian

03:49 Parenting Philosophies and Early Expectations

09:27 Navigating Discipline and Emotional Health

17:54 Intentional Parenting and Family Values

25:27 Cultural Etiquette and Parenting Reflections

26:50 Navigating Modern Parenting Challenges

28:00 Balancing Boundaries and Family Dynamics

29:30 Surprising Lessons in Parenting

33:20 Understanding and Supporting Special Needs

34:47 School and Developmental Milestones

41:33 Building a Supportive Village

45:39 Kids' Career Aspirations and Parenting Joys

S4E10: Ask Us Anything (Part 2)

Aisha J — Fri, 23 Aug 2024 16:22:00 +0000

In this episode, the Mocha SMCs answer questions such as: should I move to be closer to my family, how do I start planning for a will, and what should I put on my child's birth certificate. They also get real about whether you can work and be home full time with your child.

S4E9: Ask Me Anything I'm an Open Book

Aisha J — Wed, 21 Aug 2024 15:00:00 +0000

In this episode, explore the common question of whether to move closer to family and dive into the personal journey of relocating for a vibrant SMC (Single Mothers by Choice) community. Our speaker discusses the importance of assessing your reasons for moving, leveraging your support network during emergencies, and the intricacies of child care. They also shed light on the necessity of estate planning, financial readiness, and the nuances of filling out official paperwork as a single parent. Tune in to get practical advice and heartfelt insights, and don't forget to join our SMC community for ongoing support and connection!

00:00 Should I Move Closer to Family?

01:22 Assessing Your Village and Community

01:56 Leveraging Support During Emergencies

04:51 Finding and Trusting Childcare

07:28 Estate Planning for SMCs

10:04 Financial Readiness for SMCs

12:06 Filling Out Official Paperwork as an SMC

S4E8: Debriefing Twin Pregnancy Challenges and Strategies for When Pregnancy Gets Complicated

Aisha J — Wed, 21 Aug 2024 03:50:00 +0000

Join Aisha as she debrief's the challenges and experiences shared in last week's episode about SMCs (Single Mothers by Choice) and twin pregnancies. In this candid discussion, she revisits the medical complexities such as gestational diabetes and intrauterine growth restriction, personal stories of navigating these issues, and the emotional toll they take. Also covered are some practical strategies for balancing pregnancy with work, finances, and childcare. This episode offers invaluable insights and a support system for anyone going through similar experiences. Tune in, share with someone who could benefit, and be sure to join the conversation!

00:00 Introduction and Recap of the Twins Episode

00:52 Personal Pregnancy Experiences

01:08 Challenges of Gestational Diabetes

02:42 Inter Uterine Growth Restriction (IUGR)

04:51 Impact on Daily Life and Work

09:35 Financial Considerations of Twin Pregnancies

11:25 Decisions Around Embryo Transfer

13:27 Physical and Mental Impact of Pregnancy

14:20 Epidural and Labor Experiences

16:06 Conclusion and Debrief

S4E7: The Realities of a Twin Pregnancy

Aisha J — Wed, 21 Aug 2024 02:50:00 +0000

Join Toja and Carla as they share their heartfelt and candid experiences of conceiving, carrying, and raising twins. From the trials of IVF and IUI treatments to the challenges of multigenerational living, both moms open up about the highs and lows of their unique journeys. They discuss the physical hardships, emotional struggles, and the surprising joys of twin motherhood. Their stories are filled with humor, honesty, and invaluable advice for anyone considering or navigating the path of raising multiples. Don't miss this incredible and eye-opening episode!

00:00 Meet Toja and Carla: Our Journey Begins

00:22 Family Dynamics and Living Situations

01:24 The Path to Pregnancy: IVF and IUI Stories

04:28 Discovering the Twin Surprise

06:45 Pregnancy Challenges and Health Complications

18:41 Life with Twins: The Early Months

20:33 Labor and Delivery Experiences

26:17 Financial and Emotional Struggles

29:23 Advice for Aspiring Twin Parents

31:50 Looking Back: Reflections and Encouragement

S4E6: Tips for SMCs Traveling with Infants and Toddlers

Aisha J — Mon, 19 Aug 2024 01:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Aisha delves into the world of travel with kids post-pandemic. A seasoned traveler, Aisha shares her experiences and practical tips for traveling domestically and internationally, whether you have an infant or a toddler. Get insights on packing strategies, handling in-flight challenges, leveraging local support from SMC friends, and making the most out of layovers. It's all about finding your family's travel groove and ensuring everyone, including mom, enjoys the vacation. If you found these tips useful, subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join our mailing list!

00:00 Introduction to Traveling with Kids

00:46 First Post-Pandemic Flight Experience

01:37 Tips for Traveling with Infants

02:39 Traveling with Toddlers: What to Expect

04:38 Navigating International Airports with Kids

06:06 The Benefits of Layovers and Road Trips

07:36 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

S4E5: Yes... You Can Have a Romantic Relationship After Becoming an SMC

Aisha J — Mon, 19 Aug 2024 01:00:00 +0000

In this enlightening episode, we explore the journey of transitioning from a Single Mother by Choice (SMC) to finding love and building a romantic relationship. Join Aisha as she chats with our special guests, Kim and Erica, who share their personal stories of love, dating history, and how they introduced their partners to their children. They discuss the dynamics of co-parenting, the significance of having open conversations, and the importance of staying true to one's path. Whether you're an SMC or considering this journey, you'll find valuable insights and inspiration. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more great content!

00:00 Introduction to Today's Topic

00:14 Meet Our Guests: Kim and Erica

01:42 Dating Histories and Current Relationships

06:11 Introducing Kids to New Partners

11:53 Roles and Responsibilities in Blended Families

20:23 Advice for SMCs in Relationships

23:43 Conclusion: SMCs and Future Relationships

S4E4: The SMC Motto is "Choose Your Hard"

Aisha J — Mon, 19 Aug 2024 00:25:00 +0000

In this episode, Aisha delves into the empowering yet challenging journey of being a Solo Mother by Choice (SMC). Listen as she unpacks the complexities and everyday realities of choosing this unique parenting path. From societal perceptions to financial responsibilities and the pandemic's impact, we cover it all. This candid discussion sheds light on the joys and hurdles faced by SMCs and emphasizes the importance of community and intentionality in creating a nurturing home environment. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more inspiring content and support!

00:00 Introduction: The Challenges of Solo Parenting

00:55 Choosing Your Hard: Embracing Solo Motherhood

01:47 Breaking Away from Traditional Paths

03:03 Navigating Social Perceptions and Inclusivity

05:38 Financial and Logistical Realities of SMC Life

10:00 The Importance of Male Influence and Building a Village

12:00 Creating a Peaceful Home Environment

14:03 Balancing Personal and Parental Roles

S4E3: A Black SMC's Perspective on Raising Biracial Children

Aisha J — Sun, 18 Aug 2024 18:05:00 +0000

Let's delve into a thoughtful and deeply personal discussion on the complexities of choosing a sperm donor while prioritizing the preservation of Black identity. Aisha shares her journey from choosing a donor to raising biracial children with a strong sense of Black heritage and cultural grounding. Her candid exploration of race, identity, and the importance of representation in family planning offers invaluable insights and heartfelt anecdotes. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more empowering content!

00:00 Introduction: Envisioning Black Parenthood

02:21 Choosing a Donor: Overcoming Challenges

05:02 Navigating Identity and Parenting

08:08 Addressing Racial Dynamics and Beauty Standards

11:28 Confronting Racial Realities and Responsibilities

15:20 Final Thoughts: The Importance of Racial Awareness

S4E2: Living Brave, the Day-to-Day Realities of Single Motherhood by Choice

Aisha J — Sun, 18 Aug 2024 16:58:00 +0000

Join us in this heartfelt episode as we dive deep into the unique journey of being a Single Mother by Choice (SMC). We'll discuss the meticulous planning, the emotional hurdles, and the bravery it takes to walk this path daily. Whether you're contemplating becoming an SMC, or you're already in the midst of it, you'll find solidarity and insights here. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and don't forget to join our mailing list for more inspiring content and community support.

00:00 Introduction and Greetings

00:07 The Journey to Becoming an SMC

00:47 Deciding the Path: Adoption, Pregnancy, or Surrogacy?

01:16 Family Reactions and Support

01:52 Financial and Emotional Preparedness

02:43 Plan A vs. Plan B SMCs

04:13 Bravery and Honest Conversations

05:47 Navigating Society and Conception Stories

07:56 Concerns and Decision-Making

10:11 Living Thoughtfully for the Future

10:59 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

S4E1: Back to School Already?

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 20:11:00 +0000

In this engaging episode, we dive into the adventures of summer camps, the chaos of 2022 back-to-school preparations, and the daily hustle of school drop-offs and pick-ups. Join us as we share practical tips on managing summer schedules, embracing the school supply scavenger hunt, and the importance of selecting the right school for your child. Listen in for delightful anecdotes, helpful advice for school choice and preparation, and some humorous moments from the school carpool line. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more insightful content!

00:00 Finding My Stride as a Parent

00:26 Summer Camp Adventures

01:39 Back to School Preparation

03:21 Navigating School Drop-offs and Pick-ups

06:39 Back to School Shopping Hacks

08:53 Lunchbox Lessons and School Choice Advice

S3E11: Trials of Pandemic Parenting #3

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 17:30:00 +0000

In this final episode of season 3, Aisha discusses the overwhelming experiences many Single Mothers by Choice (SMCs) face as their children transition into more demanding school environments. With a dive into the challenges of balancing different developmental stages with career planning, the impact of the pandemic on children's behavior, and the complexities of planning summer activities. Listen on as we share insights on making timely life decisions, from housing to career moves…, and how therapy and community support can help. Don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channels and Instagram pages at Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood.

00:00 Navigating Overwhelm as a Single Mother

02:27 Impact of the Pandemic on Children

05:11 Summer Camp Planning and Juggling Schedules

06:54 Making Major Life Decisions as a Single Mother

09:20 Financial Planning and Home Ownership

10:13 Career Moves and Family Planning

11:01 Closing Thoughts and Community Support

S3E10: Meet an Embryo Donor - Abby

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 17:27:00 +0000

In this episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, host Aisha and special guest Abby, founder of Peaceful Parent Sleep Coaching, explore the intricacies and emotional journey of embryo donation. Abby shares her personal experiences as an SMC, detailing the process and evolving relationships born from donation. This heartfelt conversation also covers practical aspects like financial and legal considerations. Don't miss out on these valuable insights! Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages. Join our mailing list and stay connected.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Host

00:59 Season Overview and Special Guest Introduction

02:28 Understanding Embryo Donation

05:52 Navigating Costs and Legalities of Embryo Donation

11:17 Emotional Aspects of Embryo Donation

14:25 Building Relationships and Defining Roles

20:19 Peaceful Parent Sleep Coaching

22:16 Closing Remarks and Contact Information

S3E9: Part 2: Sage Advice from SMCs Parenting Tweens

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 17:25:00 +0000

This episode opens with a candid discussions on consent, dating, and communication. Join Aisha and a panel of insightful Black Single Mothers by Choice as they continue their conversation on parenting tween and delve into the intricacies of crucial topics such as teaching body autonomy, handling conversations about consent, and the evolving nature of dating as a single mother. With personal anecdotes and valuable advice shared, listeners will gain a deeper understanding of fostering open communication and building a supportive village. Don't miss this enriching discussion; subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, and follow Start to Finish Motherhood on YouTube and Instagram. Join our mailing list to stay updated!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

01:00 Navigating Consent with Tweens

02:37 Empowering Children with Body Autonomy

03:07 Challenges of Raising Black Children

09:24 Dating as a Single Mother

13:54 Building a Supportive Community

17:24 Advice for Single Mothers of Younger Kids

21:40 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

S3E8: Part 1: Sage Advice from SMCs Parenting Tweens

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 17:18:00 +0000

Navigating Tweenhood and Parenthood as a Black Single Mother by Choice In this episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, host Aisha welcomes Jennifer, Joy, and Yana to discuss the unique challenges and joys of parenting tweens. From school dynamics and social pressures to the evolving understanding of familial structures and puberty, this episode dives deep into the real, unfiltered experiences of being a single mother by choice. Join us for candid conversations, sage advice, and heartfelt stories. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join our mailing list for the latest updates. Email us at mocha smc@gmail.com with your thoughts and questions!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:56 Challenges of School-Aged Children

01:50 Meet the Guests: Jennifer, Joy, and Yana

02:59 Balancing Work and Parenting

09:06 Navigating Conception and Adoption Stories

13:30 Handling Technology and Independence

21:48 Dealing with Puberty

26:01 Conclusion and Farewell

S3E7: Expat...An SMC's Decision to Blaxit

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 17:10:00 +0000

Join Aisha in her conversation with Michelle, a 50-year-old single mother by choice and a Foreign Service professional, as she shares her heartfelt and candid journey of raising her son, Aiden, overseas. From choosing the right sperm donor to the logistical challenges of living abroad, Michelle's story touches on the unique experiences and challenges faced by Black Single Mothers by Choice. Her advice on building a supportive village and navigating international living is invaluable. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join our mailing list for more inspiring stories. Email mocha.smc@gmail.com to share your thoughts!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:54 Meet Michelle: A Single Mother by Choice

01:18 Deciding to Become a Single Mother

03:06 The IVF Journey in Kenya

04:17 Challenges and Decisions in Fertility

06:47 Navigating Life in the Foreign Service

10:22 Raising a Child Abroad

13:46 Building a Support System Overseas

21:00 Advice for Single Mothers Moving Abroad

22:43 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

S3E6: Checking In... Real Talk

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 17:06:00 +0000

In this episode, Aisha dives into the importance of mask-wearing for her children, the logistical challenges of parenting solo, and the misconceptions about Black single mothers. Hear how she balances it all while advocating for greater representation and addressing the need for more Black sperm donors. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join our mailing list for more empowering stories and tips. For any thoughts or questions, email mocha.smc@gmail.com and consider supporting the podcast through donations.

00:00 Introduction to the Black Single Mothers by Choice Podcast

00:54 Navigating School and Mask Mandates

03:42 Challenges of Parenting Logistics

05:34 Dating as a Single Mother by Choice

08:17 Fertility and Representation in the Black Community

11:24 Concluding Thoughts and Call to Action

S3E5: Meet an Egg Donor - Dominique

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 17:05:00 +0000

In this heartfelt episode, Dominique shares her candid journey of becoming a new mom, navigating postpartum depression, and balancing work responsibilities. She opens up about her egg donation experience at age 21 and the emotional complexities involved. Dominique and the host discuss the stigma around fertility treatments and the need for more representation and openness in these conversations. They also explore the significance of donor relationships and the importance of transparency with donor-conceived children. Tune in for an inspiring discussion on resilience, support, and the diverse paths to motherhood. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join the mailing list for more empowering stories and resources.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:29 Challenges of Early Motherhood

00:55 Returning to Work After Maternity Leave

01:44 Journey to Becoming an Egg Donor

03:48 The Egg Donation Process

06:09 Navigating the Emotional Aspects of Egg Donation

20:48 Becoming a Single Mother by Choice (SMC)

22:35 Choosing a Sperm Donor

25:12 Advice for Future Donors and Recipients

27:21 Final Thoughts and Gratitude

S3E4: Cultural Appropriation and Black History Month

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 16:45:00 +0000

Join us for our special Black History Month episode, where we dive into the importance of Black History Month in parenting, being Black women, and as creatives. We explore how schools address Blackness, share personal stories, and discuss cultural appropriation in various industries. We also highlight notable Black figures like Mary Beeches Davidson Kenner and Dr. Percy LaVon Julian. Tune in for an enriching conversation and don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages. Join our mailing list to stay updated!

00:00 Introduction to Black History Month

00:45 Black History Month in Schools

01:51 Engaging with Black History at Home

03:26 Cultural Appropriation: A Historical Context

06:24 Modern Examples of Cultural Appropriation

09:46 Respecting Black Creatives

12:03 Honoring Black Innovators

12:49 Conclusion

S3E3: Black SMCs Raising Boys and Embracing Gender Differences

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 16:38:00 +0000

In this episode, Toja and Toni Jackson, proud mothers of twins, share their diverse experiences in raising boys—from addressing gender anxiety to handling potty training, and from experiencing the unique dynamics of barbershops to dealing with the ongoing conversations around race in a post-George Floyd era. They discuss the importance of male role models, instilling self-esteem in their children, and the joys and challenges of motherhood. Join us for this heartfelt conversation and get inspired by their advice for new moms. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join the mailing list to stay updated!

00:00 Introduction and Meet the Moms

00:31 Gender Anxiety and Expectations

04:18 Potty Training Challenges and Tips

09:00 Navigating Public Restrooms

14:49 Barbershop Experiences

18:18 Importance of Male Role Models

23:13 Post George Floyd Era and Discipline

29:51 Final Thoughts and Advice for New Moms

S3E2: Selfcare Can Look Different for Single Mothers by Choice

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 16:32:00 +0000

In this heartfelt episode, we dive into the tumultuous yet rewarding journey of motherhood and self-care as an SMC (Single Mother by Choice). We candidly discuss the challenges of balancing personal wellness with the demands of parenting, from the constant bedtime routines to the loss of pre-kid leisure time. Tune in to explore strategies for self-care amidst the chaos, the importance of setting boundaries, and the value of asking for help. Don't miss this relatable and insightful talk, and be sure to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages. Join the mailing list for more empowering content!

00:00 Introduction and Personal Update

00:25 Reflecting on Pre-Kids Life

01:06 Challenges of Motherhood

01:42 The Importance of Self-Care

02:28 Adapting Self-Care Routines

04:38 Incorporating Exercise

07:45 Paid Childcare and Self-Care

10:35 Balancing Work and Family

14:51 Fun and Superficial Self-Care

S3E1: I'm Back! Surviving and Advising

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 16:30:00 +0000

In this inspiring episode, we delve into the challenges and triumphs of Black single mothers who choose motherhood on their own terms. Join us as we share personal stories, provide practical advice, and foster a supportive community for those navigating this unique path. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages. Join our mailing list to stay updated and connected. Your journey is powerful, and we are here to support you every step of the way!

S2E15: Some Holiday Traditions for the SMC

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 16:25:00 +0000

Creating Lasting Memories and Traditions as a Black Single Mother by Choice

In this heartfelt episode, Aisha, a former host of MOCA Single Mothers by Choice, shares her journey and experiences as a Black single mother by choice. She discusses holiday traditions, gift-giving strategies, and the challenges and joys of parenting solo. This episode also touches on the emotional aspects of the holiday season before becoming a mother and how she has coped and created her own family traditions. Get inspired by her story, and don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages. Join our mailing list and stay connected!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:50 Holiday Traditions and Family Memories

02:17 Choosing and Managing Gifts for Kids

04:23 Gifts for Teachers and Community

07:57 Reflections on Single Motherhood During Holidays

11:16 Looking Forward: Plans for 2022

12:13 Conclusion and Call to Action

S2E14: Why Representation Matters in SMC and Parenting Spaces

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 16:20:00 +0000

This episode explores the profound impact of representation across various aspects of life, especially in media and entertainment. Aisha shares personal insights into the importance of Black visibility, recounting conversations with her children about seeing themselves on screen and highlighting notable TV shows that got it right and others still on their journey. Tune in for an engaging discussion on navigating motherhood, dating, and the urgent need for authentic representation. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list to stay updated!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 The Importance of Representation

02:25 Personal Stories and Representation

04:35 Media Representation and Critique

06:45 Shows Getting Representation Right

09:52 Shows on Their Journey to Better Representation

11:40 Children's Television and Final Thoughts

13:08 Conclusion and Call to Action

S2E13: Checking...How You Doing?

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 16:15:00 +0000

Aisha shares personal stories about dating, parenting, and the importance of finding balance through self-care. She also provides insights from recent conferences and highlights the need for more diversity in these spaces. Listen in for candid discussions, funny anecdotes, and hard truths about SMC life. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels, follow their IG pages, and join the mailing list for more updates!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:50 Navigating the Dating World as an SMC

02:53 Turning Lemons into Lemonade: A Spa Day Story

04:52 Parenting During the Pandemic

05:47 Reflections on the SMC Conference

08:10 Random Thoughts and Parenting Musings

10:21 The Importance of Choices in SMC Life

11:07 Closing Remarks and Call to Action

S2E12: Ask Me Anything #3

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 16:10:00 +0000

Join Aisha, as she answers some additional questions sent in by listeners, She offers heartfelt advice and practical tips. She also discusses exposing children to diverse activities and the importance of counseling sessions. Stay tuned till the end for insights on handling unsolicited advice and maintaining your peace. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and follow our IG pages. Join our mailing list for more inspiring content!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:54 Navigating Dating as a Single Mother by Choice

02:15 Handling Fertility Challenges and Social Pressures

04:38 Empowerment and Joy in Choosing Single Motherhood

07:07 Exposing Children to Diverse Experiences

11:58 The Importance of Counseling for SMCs

14:14 Dealing with Unsolicited Advice

15:43 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

S2E11: Fun Facts About Your Host

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 16:10:00 +0000

In today's episode, we're switching things up and sharing some fun facts and personal favorites. From playlist reveals to streaming queues, and comfort foods to self-care routines, we dive deep into lighter subjects that give you a peek into our everyday lives. Plus, we share some candid advice for our younger selves and quirky thoughts on a zombie apocalypse. Don't miss out on this engaging chat! Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list to stay connected.

00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic

00:20 Sharing Our Playlists

01:41 Favorite Books and Audiobooks

03:02 Streaming Queue and TV Shows

04:07 Advice to Younger Self

05:11 Zombie Apocalypse Plan

05:55 Go-To Gear for Running Errands

06:41 Comfort Foods and Pregnancy Cravings

07:15 Coffee or Tea Preferences

07:58 Self-Care Routine

08:50 How Would Your Kids Describe You?

S2E10: Trials of Pandemic Parenting #2

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 15:40:00 +0000

In this episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, host Aisha opens up about the challenges and triumphs of preparing for the 2021 school year amid the ongoing pandemic. From the anxieties of managing household health to ensuring her children's academic success, Aisha shares candid insights and practical tips for SMC households. Join her as she discusses COVID-19 protocols, the importance of advocating for your family's needs, the joys of summer enrichment, and the critical role of self-care. Don't miss out – subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, and follow our journey on YouTube and Instagram. Join our mailing list for more updates and support!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:50 Parental Check-In and School Year Anxiety

03:54 COVID-19 Protocols and School Safety

05:33 Summer Enrichment and Academic Progress

06:39 Technology Gains and Digital Safety

08:44 COVID-19 Protocols Across Different Schools

10:38 Work From Home and Mental Health

12:51 Conclusion and Self-Care Tips

S2E9: Ask Me Anything #2

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 15:35:00 +0000

In this episode Aisha answers more of your questions shared through her persona lens and offers insights e importance of finding diverse and affirming books for children, staying resilient in the face of societal expectations, and nurturing children's unique interests and potential. Tune in for an engaging and heartfelt discussion, and make sure to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more support and community!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 Choosing a Donor: Challenges and Considerations

05:23 Navigating IVF: Tips and Experiences

07:50 Baby Care: Hair Loss and Skin Changes

10:37 Diverse Books for Black Children

13:31 Supporting Your Body While Trying to Conceive

14:56 Handling Emotions and Social Situations

18:52 Empowering Your Children with Opportunities

22:26 Dealing with Unsolicited Advice

23:48 Conclusion and Call to Action

S2E8: Aisha's Conversation with Rosanna Hertz: Outcomes, Race, and Changing Face of SMC

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 15:30:00 +0000

Exploring SMC Life Through a Black Woman’s Lens: Insights from Aisha and Rosanna Hertz In this episode, Aisha, former host of MOCA Single Mothers by Choice, and Rosanna Hertz, professor of sociology and women's and gender studies at Wellesley College, discuss the unique challenges and rewards of being a Black single mother by choice. They delve into fertility, dating, parenting, and the intricacies of random families created through donor conception. Learn about the significance of race, family dynamics, and how SMCs navigate societal norms. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join our mailing list for more insightful discussions!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 Guest Host Introduction and PSA

01:29 Rosanna Hertz's Journey and Research

03:07 Understanding the SMC Community

05:58 Challenges and Catalysts for SMCs

09:23 Navigating Donor Conception and Family Dynamics

27:30 Race and Adoption in SMC Families

35:49 Future Research and Closing Remarks

S2E7: SMC Finances - How Much Does It Really Cost to Have a Baby

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 15:25:00 +0000

In this episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, Aisha shares her unique perspective and experiences as a Black Single Mother by Choice (SMC). From financial planning and navigating childcare options to the emotional and practical realities of raising children solo, Aisha offers invaluable insights for current and aspiring SMCs. Tune in to get tips on budgeting, fertility, and balancing work and motherhood. Enjoy engaging stories and practical advice that will help you feel supported in your journey. Don’t forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages for more content! Join our mailing list to stay updated.

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 Financial Planning for SMCs

02:54 Childcare Considerations and Costs

05:11 Strategic Planning for Conception

10:02 Housing and Flexibility

13:33 Managing Finances and Debt

17:22 Practical Tips and Conclusion

S2E6: Regrouping After the Fertility Journey Hits a Roadblock

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 15:22:00 +0000

In this heartfelt episode Aisha and Kimberly share their personal journeys of becoming single mothers by choice. Kimberly recounts her path to motherhood, from dealing with fibroids and infertility treatments to the joys and challenges of raising her daughter, Meridian, solo. The episode highlights the importance of support systems, the realities of fertility struggles, and the resilience required to navigate this unique path. Tune in for an inspiring conversation filled with practical advice, emotional insights, and a celebration of non-traditional family structures. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join our mailing list to stay connected!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:50 Meet Kimberly: A Journey to Motherhood

01:22 Deciding to Become an SMC

02:33 Fertility Challenges and Realities

05:54 Navigating Medical and Financial Hurdles

18:23 Support Systems and Personal Resilience

22:27 Pregnancy and Early Motherhood

25:23 Advice for Aspiring SMCs

27:37 Closing Thoughts and Gratitude

S2E5: Aisha's Conversation with Alease the Embryologist

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 15:20:00 +0000

Join Aisha, and guest Alease Daniel, a young and passionate embryologist, as they dive deep into the unique challenges and joys faced by Black single mothers by choice (SMCs). Elise explains her journey into embryology, the intricacies of egg retrieval, embryo grading, and the vital role of sperm analysis, all from a scientific and relatable perspective. Whether you're considering this non-traditional path to motherhood, dealing with infertility, or simply curious about the science behind it, this episode is filled with valuable insights! Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and don’t forget to join our mailing list for more inspiring content.

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 Meet Elise Daniel: The Embryologist

04:22 Understanding the Egg Retrieval Process

07:48 Egg Quality and Age Factors

09:32 PCOS, Endometriosis, and Egg Quality

10:57 Fertility Recommendations and Diagnostic Workups

13:09 Sperm Component and Choosing Donors

17:55 Embryo Grading Explained

20:54 Day 5, 6, and 7 Embryos

23:14 Mosaic Embryos and Genetic Testing

27:21 Ensuring Embryo Viability and Ethical Considerations

30:20 Embryo Donation and Handling Concerns

33:58 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

With @aleasetheembryologist

IG: @alease_the_embryologist

S2E4: Never a Dull Moment Dating as An SMC

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 15:16:00 +0000

In this episode, I share my experiences as a Black SMC, delve into the challenges and joys of dating while being the sole caregiver, and discuss the realities of parenthood. I talk about managing dating profiles, the importance of updated photos, and setting realistic expectations. I also explore love languages, the significance of acts of service, and the need for honesty in relationships. Listen in as I share tips on balancing motherhood with casual dating and maintaining self-love and self-respect. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list to stay updated!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:50 Navigating Dating as a Single Mother

01:48 Creating an Honest Dating Profile

02:30 Challenges and Realities of Dating

03:44 Setting Expectations and Boundaries

08:55 Love Languages and Personal Preferences

14:01 Advice for Single Mothers in the Dating Scene

21:45 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

22:53 Closing Remarks

S2E3: A Morning in the Life of an SMC

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 15:10:00 +0000

Navigating the Challenges and Joys of Single Motherhood by Choice with AishaJoin Aisha, as she dives into the everyday adventures and challenges of being a Black single mother by choice. From navigating picture day drama with her daughter Noelle to reflecting on how past traumas shape her parenting style, Aisha offers a candid glimpse into her life. She shares poignant insights about the struggles and joys of motherhood, the importance of community among single mothers, and her commitment to raising resilient children. Don't miss out on this heartfelt episode! Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages to stay connected. Also, join our mailing list for updates. Reach out to Aisha with your feedback at mochaSMC@gmail.com and consider making a donation using the link in the show notes below. Till next time, Pod. Bye now.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:50 A Chaotic Monday Morning

02:16 Navigating Parenting Challenges

06:08 Reflecting on Personal Trauma

09:35 Concluding Thoughts and Farewell

S2E2: Aisha's Conversation with Jane Mattes: Starting the National SMC Organization

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 15:05:00 +0000

Join Aisha and Jane as they delve into the unique journey of being a Black Single Mother by Choice. From the challenges and joys of single motherhood to the intricacies of donor insemination and the evolution of a supportive community, this episode offers heartfelt insights and practical advice. Don't miss Jane's reflections on the legacy of SMCs and the importance of empowering women to make conscious parenting decisions. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join the mailing list for more inspiring content.

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:52 Aisha's Journey to Single Motherhood

02:39 The Birth of a Movement

04:24 Defining Single Mother by Choice

05:11 Navigating Donor Insemination

08:00 Challenges and Support in the SMC Community

08:55 Cultural Competency and Parenting

20:03 Therapy and Counseling for SMCs

30:20 Reflections and Legacy

34:14 Closing Remarks and Call to Action

S2E1: I'm Back Let's Chat

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 15:00:00 +0000

Join me as I share my experiences as a single mother, from buying a new house to weaning my daughter, and tackling pandemic challenges. We'll laugh, reflect, and maybe even shed a tear as we discuss dating, parenting, and everything in between from a Black woman's perspective. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join our mailing list to stay updated. Share your thoughts with me at mochaSMC@gmail.com and consider supporting our journey with a donation. Until next time!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:50 Life Transitions and Reflections

01:29 Navigating Pandemic Challenges

02:20 Parenting Milestones and Celebrations

03:46 Balancing Work and Family

05:27 Exploring Online Dating

06:14 Health and Daycare Struggles

07:12 Season 2 Preview and Community Engagement

08:33 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

S1E15: Ask Me Anything Part 1

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 03:30:00 +0000

In this final episode of the season, host Aisha, a proud Black Single Mother by Choice (SMC), addresses listener questions about becoming and thriving as an SMC. From discussing how to break the news to family, to the right age for this journey, and the challenges faced in the fertility industry, Aisha shares her personal experiences and valuable insights. Tune in as she opens up about preparing for additional children and navigating the unique dynamics of donor conception. Don't miss out on this heartfelt and informative discussion. Subscribe to our Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more amazing content!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Host

00:50 Ask Me Anything: Listener Questions

01:02 Sharing Your SMC Decision with Family

03:06 The Right Age to Become an SMC

05:38 Discrimination in the Fertility Industry

09:16 Talking to Kids About Donor Conception

12:46 Preparing for an Additional Child

14:51 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement

Special Episode: Tips for Surviving Father's Day as an SMC

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 03:27:00 +0000

In this heartfelt episode, Aisha shares her unique perspective on navigating Father's Day as a Black Single Mother by Choice. She dives into the importance of recognizing diverse family structures, preparing children for societal norms, and celebrating the loving adults in their lives. Aisha also offers practical tips for other SMCs to handle Father's Day, emphasizing self-care and open, honest communication with children. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join the mailing list to stay updated and engaged!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 Personal Reflections on Father's Day

03:10 Teaching and Preparing Children

04:13 Five Tips for Navigating Father's Day

05:20 Empowering and Supporting Your Child

08:53 Self-Care and Final Thoughts

10:19 Conclusion and Call to Action

S1E14: A Conversation with Seattle Sperm Bank

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 03:18:00 +0000

Join Aisha as she dives deep into the unique experiences of Black Single Mothers by Choice (SMCs). In this heartfelt episode, we hear from Elise, a passionate clinic relation manager at Seattle Sperm Bank, as she shares her powerful pregnancy and childbirth story. They discuss the complexities of fertility, the realities of dating as an SMC, and the challenges faced by Black women in medical advocacy. Learn about the importance of OpenID donors, diverse sperm donation, and the meticulous processes donors undergo. Don't miss this eye-opening conversation! Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, the Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels, and follow us on IG. Join our mailing list to stay updated!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:50 Guest Introduction and Background

01:28 A Powerful Birth Story

04:09 Challenges in the NICU

07:58 Confronting Racial Bias in Healthcare

08:32 Understanding OpenID Donors

11:35 Impact of COVID on Sperm Donation

20:37 The Sperm Donation Process

24:11 Costs and Logistics of Sperm Donation

26:55 Personal Experiences and Closing Remarks

S1E13: Adoption for Black SMCs Part 2

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 03:15:00 +0000

In this episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, Aisha is joined by guest hosts Angela and Michelle for part two of their discussion on adoption. Explore the complexities and nuances of adopting as a Black SMC, from domestic infant adoption to international and kinship adoption. Delve into real-life experiences, the importance of building a supportive village, and gain crucial insights into the home study process. Don't miss out on these invaluable tips and heartfelt stories. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:51 Adoption as a Path for SMCs

02:41 International Adoption Insights

05:34 Challenges and Considerations in Adoption

10:20 Transracial and Kinship Adoptions

20:16 The Adoption Process and Home Study

29:42 Advice for Prospective Adoptive SMCs

32:30 Conclusion and Next Steps

S1E12: Birth, Breastfeeding and Managing Expectations as Parents

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 03:10:00 +0000

Join host Aisha and special guest Simone, a teacher, entrepreneur, and former doula, as they dive deep into setting and managing expectations as Black Single Mothers by Choice. Simone shares her personal journey, from performing an at-home IUI to facing unexpected challenges during childbirth and the realities of balancing motherhood with personal setbacks. They discuss the importance of realistic developmental expectations for children, especially during the pandemic, and offer insights into breastfeeding, weaning, and the pressures of societal expectations. Don't miss this candid conversation, and remember to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages. Join our mailing list to stay updated!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:52 Setting Expectations and Managing Disappointments

01:41 Special Guest: Simone's Journey to Motherhood

03:53 Simone's Birth Experience and Challenges

14:36 Breastfeeding Insights and Challenges

20:30 Weaning and Moving Forward

23:42 Developmental Expectations for Children

26:59 Conclusion and Farewell

S1E11: Adoption for Black SMCs Part 1

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 03:10:00 +0000

Exploring Adoption Paths for Black Single Mothers by Choice In this enlightening episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, Aisha, the former host of MOCA Single Mothers by Choice, dives into the intricate world of adoption from the perspective of a Black single mother by choice. Joined by Angela, a software sales executive who adopted via Domestic Infant Adoption, and Michelle, an experienced adoption attorney and single mom by adoption, the conversation covers the adoption process, different pathways to motherhood, and tackling common myths in the Black adoption community. Tune in to learn about the legal facets, financial considerations, and build your village as a potential adoptive mom. Don't miss out—subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join the mailing list today!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Host

00:50 Exploring Adoption as a Path to Motherhood

01:00 Meet the Guests: Angela and Michelle

03:17 Understanding the Adoption Process

03:53 Navigating Domestic Infant Adoption

06:15 The Role of Facilitators and Self-Matching

09:51 Adoption Scams and How to Avoid Them

13:42 Foster Care Adoption Insights

28:38 Financial Aspects of Adoption

33:37 Final Thoughts and Advice for Prospective SMCs

37:06 Contact Information and Closing Remarks

S1E10: Getting Started with a Known Donor

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 03:05:00 +0000

In this engaging episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, host Aisha teams up with Safara, a 28-year-old single mom by choice, to delve into the intricacies of using a known donor. They cover crucial topics such as finding the right donor, red flags to look out for, and the importance of thorough vetting. Safara shares her personal experiences, including the significance of open communication and the flexibility needed in these arrangements. They also touch on the legal aspects and the emotional considerations of being a single mother by choice in the Black community. Don't miss this insightful conversation! Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list.

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 Meet Safara: A Single Mom by Choice

01:09 Finding a Known Donor: Tips and Experiences

01:45 Red Flags and Important Questions for Donors

02:27 Navigating Donor Websites and Apps

03:01 Personal Stories: Choosing the Right Donor

06:43 The Importance of STD Testing

08:30 Co-Parenting vs. Single Mother by Choice

12:22 Legal Considerations and Contracts

15:33 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

S1E9: Traveling with Kids as an SMC, Tips and Insights

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 03:01:00 +0000

Join Aisha as she reminisces about her travel adventures and shares valuable tips for fellow Black SMCs. In this episode, Aisha discusses everything from planning vacations, the importance of childcare during trips, to essential packing hacks. She also provides practical advice for navigating long international flights. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels, follow their Instagram pages, and join the mailing list for more insights and support. Don't forget to share this podcast with your friends and email Aisha with your feedback!

00:00 Introduction to the Black Single Mothers by Choice Podcast

00:50 Planning and Reminiscing About Travel

02:32 Memorable Travel Experiences as an SMC

04:47 Travel Hacks for Single Mothers

07:37 Navigating Long Trips and International Travel

09:15 Conclusion and Farewell

S1E8: Trying for a Second Child as an SMC

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 02:58:00 +0000

In this episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, Aisha, a former host of MOCA Single Mothers by Choice, shares her personal journey of becoming a mother by choice as a Black woman. She discusses the joys and challenges faced, from fertility struggles and financial planning to the dynamics of raising two children as a single mother. Aisha provides valuable insights on managing daycare expenses, dealing with secondary infertility, and balancing attention between her children. Tune in for an honest and heartfelt conversation, and don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages. Join our mailing list to stay updated!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 Deciding to Have a Second Child

02:02 Financial Planning for a Second Child

03:57 Challenges of Secondary Infertility

05:26 Transitioning to Donor Eggs

06:23 Managing Sibling Jealousy

07:43 Morning Routines and Pandemic Parenting

10:42 Advice for Aspiring Single Mothers by Choice

11:24 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

S1E7: The Importance of Estate Planning for SMCs

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 02:55:00 +0000

In this episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, Aisha shares the importance of estate planning for SMCs and her own personal experiences with health scares. She provides practical advice on setting up wills, guardianship, life insurance, and more to ensure your children are well taken care of in case the unexpected happens. Tune in to gain vital insights on preparing for the future as a single mother by choice. If you enjoyed the episode, please subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and don't forget to join our mailing list!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:50 The Importance of Estate Planning for SMCs

01:19 Personal Health Scare and Estate Planning

02:23 Steps to Create an Estate Plan

03:13 LegalZoom Experience and Costs

05:23 Life Insurance Considerations

06:47 Guardianship Decisions

07:52 Final Thoughts on Estate Planning

09:39 Conclusion and Farewell

S1E6: Trials of Pandemic Parenting Part 1

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 02:52:00 +0000

In this heartfelt episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, Aisha, a former host of MOCA SMC, shares her personal journey as a single Black mother navigating the challenges of the pandemic. From the initial shock to balancing work, homeschooling, and childcare in a two-bedroom apartment, Aisha provides an honest look at her experiences. She discusses the hard realities of fertility and dating, the unexpected lessons kids are learning about technology, and the struggles of maintaining mental health. Aisha also highlights the resilience required to balance career pressures and single parenthood. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for updates. Tune in and join the conversation!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 Pandemic Realizations and Initial Reactions

02:11 Navigating Childcare and Work During the Pandemic

05:01 Balancing Virtual Schooling and Work

06:46 Technological Adaptations and Challenges

09:29 Managing Anxiety and Mental Health

11:41 Career Challenges and Low Points

13:42 Conclusion and Call to Action

S1E5: Black Bodies, Black Babies, and Medical Advocacy

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 02:50:00 +0000

This episode delves into the medical aspects of being an SMC, including important diagnostics, complications, and the significance of advocating for yourself. Learn about the realities of fertility issues, pregnancy challenges, and the importance of having a supportive medical team and community. Don't miss out on these invaluable insights and tips! Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more empowering content. Together, we can navigate this unique path of motherhood with confidence and resilience!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 Medical Aspects of Becoming an SMC

01:33 Fertility Diagnostics and Procedures

02:59 Personal Experiences with Fertility Challenges

06:00 Navigating Miscarriages and Finding the Right Clinic

08:25 Success with the Right Donor and Clinic

10:24 Advocating for Yourself and Your Baby

14:39 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

S1E4: Preparing to Date as an SMC

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 02:40:00 +0000

In this episode, Aisha shares personal stories about fertility, dating, and parenting while providing valuable insights into the dynamics of choosing a donor, the importance of self-awareness in relationships, and setting boundaries. Aisha also offers practical tips on balancing single motherhood with dating, what to look for in a partner, and how to maintain a healthy family space. Tune in for an engaging discussion and learn how to navigate this unique path with confidence. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list to stay updated!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 Choosing a Donor: Personal Experiences

01:09 Dating as a Single Mother by Choice

02:39 Balancing Family and Dating

03:25 Navigating Relationships and Boundaries

05:06 Challenges of Conceiving and Dating

08:51 Emotional Maturity and Self-Awareness

10:45 Tips for Single Moms Looking to Date

12:43 Concluding Thoughts and Farewell

S1E3: My Approach to Choosing a Sperm Donor

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 02:27:00 +0000

In this episode, Aisha discusses the unique challenges and joys of this non-traditional path, including donor selection, handling societal judgments, and the importance of embracing the SMC lifestyle fully. She also delves into the systemic issues contributing to the low numbers of Black donors and the cultural significance of these choices. Join Aisha for an insightful conversation and don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages. Join our mailing list to stay updated on future episodes!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 The Donor Selection Process

03:19 Dealing with Judgments and Assumptions

04:40 Embracing the SMC Path

05:01 Challenges and Low Numbers of Black Donors

06:21 Closing Remarks and Call to Action

S1E2: Getting Down to Basics: IUI vs. IVF

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 02:25:00 +0000

In this episode, Aisha, a former host of MOCA Single Mothers by Choice, delves into the nuanced journey of being a Black single mother by choice. She discusses various conception methods like IUI, IVF, and ICI, the associated costs, success rates by age, and the financial realities of fertility treatments. Aisha shares her personal experiences and the surprising elements she discovered during her journey. Tune in for an informative and heartfelt exploration of the obstacles and triumphs faced by Black SMCs. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages. Join our mailing list for more insightful content!

00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice

00:50 Conception Methods: IUI vs. IVF

01:21 Understanding Fertility Treatments

02:08 Costs and Success Rates of IVF

02:44 Personal Fertility Journey

05:33 Financial Considerations and Challenges

08:24 Hopes for the Future of Black Women in Fertility

09:01 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

S1E1: First Things First- Who is a Single Mother by Choice (SMC)

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 02:20:00 +0000

Join Aisha, a former host of Mocha Single Mothers by Choice, as she shares her journey and insights on becoming a mother by choice as a Black woman. From fertility challenges to the realities of dating and parenting solo, Aisha's story is both inspiring and informative. Tune in to explore the unique experiences and intentionality behind being a Single Mother by Choice and challenge the societal norms and stigmas. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more empowering content!

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:50 Aisha's Journey to Motherhood

02:26 Challenges and Triumphs of Pregnancy

03:35 Navigating Single Motherhood as a Black Woman

04:45 Defining Single Mother by Choice

05:41 The Importance of Planning and Self-Reliance

07:47 Addressing Societal Perceptions and Stigmas

10:03 Setting the Tone for the Season

21:14 Conclusion and Call to Action

Introducing the Black Single Mothers by Choice Podcast

Aisha J — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 02:12:00 +0000

Welcome to the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast! This thoughtfully edited series extracts the individual contributions from an original co-hosted podcast that aired from January 2021 to November 2022. The Aisha shares her SMC journey, supported by her close friends, and reflects on how the pandemic shaped her experience as a solo parent. She also introduces her second podcast series, Start to Finish Motherhood, launched in November 2022, which focuses on parenting and personal identity post-children. Join the mailing list and subscribe to both YouTube channels and IG pages for Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood. Enjoy and support these heartfelt projects!

00:00 Introduction and Gratitude

00:04 Podcast Background and Editing

00:20 Guest Contributions and SMC Journey

00:36 Content Importance and Personal Impact

00:48 New Podcast Series Announcement

00:58 Focus of Each Podcast Series

01:17 Respect for Listeners and Final Thoughts

Black Single Mothers by Choice (SMCs)

STFM Exclusive: How It’s Going...My Big Career Pivot

Mash-up Clip: What I Learned About Traveling with Kids

Mash-up Clip: How Sperm Costs Have Changed (2013–2026)

Mash-up Clip: What I Learned About Having a Second Child

Mash-up Clip: What I Know Now... Ask Me Anything

Mash-up Clip: What the Pandemic Revealed... Parenting in a Pandemic

Mash-up Clip: Advocating for My Child Then ... Advocating for Myself Now

Mash-up Clip: Reflections on the Dating Pool from a Black Single Mother by Choice

STFM Exclusive: How It Started... Why I Created Start to Finish Motherhood (STFM)

The Bridge Between Then (BSMC) and Now (STFM)

A Final Note — Where the Story Goes Next

Black Single Mothers by Choice & Start to Finish Motherhood... The Mash-up

Where to Go Next

What Are the Mash-Up Episodes?

How to Listen

Introducing: Start to Finish Motherhood w/ Aisha

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S4E11: Parenting the Child in Front of You

S4E10: Ask Us Anything (Part 2)

S4E9: Ask Me Anything I'm an Open Book

S4E8: Debriefing Twin Pregnancy Challenges and Strategies for When Pregnancy Gets Complicated

S4E7: The Realities of a Twin Pregnancy

S4E6: Tips for SMCs Traveling with Infants and Toddlers

S4E5: Yes... You Can Have a Romantic Relationship After Becoming an SMC

S4E4: The SMC Motto is "Choose Your Hard"

S4E3: A Black SMC's Perspective on Raising Biracial Children

S4E2: Living Brave, the Day-to-Day Realities of Single Motherhood by Choice

S4E1: Back to School Already?

S3E11: Trials of Pandemic Parenting #3

S3E10: Meet an Embryo Donor - Abby

S3E9: Part 2: Sage Advice from SMCs Parenting Tweens

S3E8: Part 1: Sage Advice from SMCs Parenting Tweens

S3E7: Expat...An SMC's Decision to Blaxit

S3E6: Checking In... Real Talk

S3E5: Meet an Egg Donor - Dominique

S3E4: Cultural Appropriation and Black History Month

S3E3: Black SMCs Raising Boys and Embracing Gender Differences

S3E2: Selfcare Can Look Different for Single Mothers by Choice

S3E1: I'm Back! Surviving and Advising

S2E15: Some Holiday Traditions for the SMC

S2E14: Why Representation Matters in SMC and Parenting Spaces

S2E13: Checking...How You Doing?

S2E12: Ask Me Anything #3

S2E11: Fun Facts About Your Host

S2E10: Trials of Pandemic Parenting #2

S2E9: Ask Me Anything #2

S2E8: Aisha's Conversation with Rosanna Hertz: Outcomes, Race, and Changing Face of SMC

S2E7: SMC Finances - How Much Does It Really Cost to Have a Baby

S2E6: Regrouping After the Fertility Journey Hits a Roadblock

S2E5: Aisha's Conversation with Alease the Embryologist

S2E4: Never a Dull Moment Dating as An SMC

S2E3: A Morning in the Life of an SMC

S2E2: Aisha's Conversation with Jane Mattes: Starting the National SMC Organization

S2E1: I'm Back Let's Chat

S1E15: Ask Me Anything Part 1

Special Episode: Tips for Surviving Father's Day as an SMC

S1E14: A Conversation with Seattle Sperm Bank

S1E13: Adoption for Black SMCs Part 2

S1E12: Birth, Breastfeeding and Managing Expectations as Parents

S1E11: Adoption for Black SMCs Part 1

S1E10: Getting Started with a Known Donor

S1E9: Traveling with Kids as an SMC, Tips and Insights

S1E8: Trying for a Second Child as an SMC

S1E7: The Importance of Estate Planning for SMCs

S1E6: Trials of Pandemic Parenting Part 1

S1E5: Black Bodies, Black Babies, and Medical Advocacy

S1E4: Preparing to Date as an SMC

S1E3: My Approach to Choosing a Sperm Donor

S1E2: Getting Down to Basics: IUI vs. IVF

S1E1: First Things First- Who is a Single Mother by Choice (SMC)

Introducing the Black Single Mothers by Choice Podcast

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