Imperfectly Honest

What Women Find Attractive: Confidence, Curiosity, and Unexpected Turn-Ons

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 04 Jun 2026 16:04:58 +0000

What makes someone attractive?

Is it confidence? Physical chemistry? Shared values? Emotional intelligence?

In this episode of Imperfectly Honest, Elizabeth is joined by her friend and Imperfectly Honest partner in crime, Kayla Gorski, to explore the psychology of attraction, modern dating, relationship compatibility, and the surprising qualities that create lasting connection. From confidence and curiosity to self-awareness and emotional intelligence, they unpack what women really find attractive—and how those preferences evolve over time.

Drawing from their own dating experiences, conversations about dating after divorce, and reflections on healthy relationships, Elizabeth and Kayla discuss why attraction is often about far more than physical appearance.

Together, they discuss:

Green flags, turn-ons, and unexpected relationship dynamics that influence who we choose to build a life with
Why curiosity may be one of the most attractive traits in a partner
The difference between confidence, self-worth, and arrogance
Dating after divorce and navigating major life transitions
Why close friendships matter in romantic relationships
Masculine and feminine dynamics in modern dating
The role self-awareness plays in attraction and compatibility
How attraction evolves as we grow and change

Whether you're actively dating, navigating a breakup, re-entering the dating world after divorce, or simply curious about human behavior, this conversation offers an honest look at attraction, relationships, confidence, and what truly creates connection.

Show Notes:

Deepen your connection with food and yourself by visiting Kayla’s Substack at substack.com/@kaylagorski.

Hear more Imperfectly Honest perspectives at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Chapters

(00:00:00) - The Secret to Being Attractive to Your Friends
(00:01:16) - Unexpected Turn Ons and Turn Offs in Love
(00:02:54) - The Ability to See Both Sides of an Argument
(00:06:43) - What Are Some Of Your Non-Annual Turn Ons?
(00:16:27) - Have You Been Dating More People Than You Think You Are?
(00:17:34) - Do You Expect A First Date To Be Like That?
(00:20:11) - What Are The Traits I'm Looking For In A Partner?
(00:27:12) - Are You More Attractive To A Venture Capitalist?
(00:29:40) - In the Spirit of Self-Adspection
(00:31:34) - The Importance of Deferential Relationships
(00:35:15) - "Stay Curious!"
(00:36:10) - Happy Birthday, Kayla

When to Sanitize and When to Let It Go: A Microbiologist’s Guide to Disease Prevention, Germ Anxiety, and Choosing Love Over Fear

Imperfectly Honest — Fri, 22 May 2026 05:29:26 +0000

For many people, the pandemic changed more than just daily routines – it changed the way we think about safety, health, and germs.

What starts as “being careful” can slowly become something heavier: contamination anxiety, obsessive cleaning, fear of getting sick, and stress that quietly impacts everyday life.

In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with microbiologist and department head at Montana State University, Jovanka Voyich, for an honest and nuanced conversation about germs, hygiene, immune health, and the balance between protecting ourselves and still fully living.

Together, they discuss:

How the pandemic triggered contamination anxiety and OCD-like behaviors for many people
What actually matters when it comes to staying healthy
Common misconceptions about germs and hygiene
Hand washing, sanitizers, gyms, public spaces, and household cleanliness
Why some exposure to germs may actually support immune health
The mental and emotional cost of living in constant fear

This episode is not about dismissing health concerns — it’s about finding balance, reducing shame, and learning how to stay informed without letting fear take over your life.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your “healthy habits” may have crossed into anxiety, this conversation is for you.

Hear more Imperfectly Honest perspectives at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Chapters

(00:00:00) - How To Live With Fear of germs in 2020
(00:01:40) - Incompetently Honest
(00:03:50) - How to avoid staphylo in the workplace
(00:07:29) - Hand washing, so important
(00:14:09) - Guys Don't Touch Door Doors
(00:17:16) - Do hand sanitizers actually help?
(00:23:33) - Do You Need To Clean Your Home When You're Alone?
(00:25:48) - Hand washing, sanitation, 9
(00:32:18) - How to Clean Your Bathroom Biofilm
(00:35:37) - Pandemaxi and the infectious disease fear
(00:41:04) - How to prevent infectious diseases through the microbiome

Mother’s Day Special: An Honest Conversation About Our Moms

Imperfectly Honest — Sat, 09 May 2026 04:00:00 +0000

For some, Mother’s Day is a pure celebration. For others, it's grief, or just a day that's not quite easy peasy. Sometimes it's all of those things at once. If Mother's Day has ever felt more complex than the greeting cards suggest, this one is for you.

In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with friend and fellow climate advocate, Max Scheder-Bieschin, who recently lost his mother. Max shares the lessons his mother left him, the things he wishes he'd said, and how she shaped the man he's become. Elizabeth brings her own truth about her loving relationship with her mother, and her own set of questions as well.

Hear more Imperfectly Honest perspectives at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Chapters

(00:00:00) - In Perfectly Honest: Mother's Day
(00:01:39) - Max Shader Bashin on Mother's Day
(00:02:19) - What Is Your Favorite Memory of Your Mother?
(00:08:03) - What's Your Mother's Advice For You?
(00:09:46) - When Advice Is More Important Than Joy
(00:13:54) - What did you learn from your mother's high highs or your mother
(00:15:24) - What Do You Do About Success and the High Highs?
(00:17:58) - What's the Standard of Measuring Up
(00:19:48) - The Ripples of Life
(00:20:37) - The Secret to Leading the Climate Change Fight
(00:23:37) - In the Elevator With My Mother
(00:25:37) - The Funny Things Your Mother Said
(00:28:53) - What Do You Wish You Had Said To Your Mother Before She
(00:32:22) - Judging My Mother's Fashion
(00:35:12) - MOTHER'S DAY

Are Women Playing the Wrong Game in Business? Rethinking Power, Femininity, and Success

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 30 Apr 2026 05:32:33 +0000

Should women use their looks, femininity, or sexuality to get ahead?

In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with CEO, investor, and author Jane Miller for a bold, unfiltered conversation about gender inequality, female leadership, and what it really takes to succeed as a woman in business and in love today.

Is gender inequality a problem – or could it also be an opportunity? And more provocatively: are women fully leveraging their strengths, or holding back to fit outdated expectations of success?

For decades, women have been taught to succeed by playing according to male-dominated rules – competing harder, leading similarly, and minimizing femininity in the workplace. But what if that strategy is fundamentally flawed?

Elizabeth and Jane explore the complex reality of power dynamics in business and dating, and why the same patterns – competition, insecurity, and perception – are at play in both.

They dive into:

The hidden rules of success for women in male-dominated environments
Why women often compete with, rather than support, each other
Confidence as the foundation of leadership and long-term success
The nuanced question of leveraging beauty, sexuality, and femininity in business
The personal cost of “making it” and the tradeoffs women aren’t always told about
The mindset shift from scarcity to abundance—and how to “run your own race”

This episode goes beyond surface-level conversations about equality to offer a more honest, nuanced look at how women can navigate power, identity, and ambition without abandoning themselves in the process.

Show Notes:

Connect with Jane and tune into her podcast at https://janesplace.com/.

Consider picking up a copy of Jane’s book, Sleep Your Way to the Top and Other Myths About Business Success via your favorite book retailer.

Hear more Imperfectly Honest perspectives at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Chapters

(00:00:00) - What Does It Really Mean to Success As a Woman?
(00:01:32) - In the Elevator With Jane Miller
(00:04:03) - Jane Knows: How to Sleep Your Way to the Top
(00:07:05) - In the Elevator With Women
(00:09:58) - Why I'm Always Competitive With Other Women
(00:17:11) - The Secret to Being More Professional at Pepsi
(00:24:13) - Jane Fonda on Plastic Surgery for Her Age
(00:27:19) - How to Make It in a Man's World
(00:29:57) - Gemma on Inclusion
(00:31:46) - Competition in Women's Life
(00:33:44) - Dolly Parton on Wealth vs. Poverty
(00:34:46) - Jane's Place

An Honest Conversation About Body Image, Beauty Standards, and the Truth About Wanting to Look Good

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 15 Apr 2026 18:56:58 +0000

In this episode of Imperfectly Honest, Elizabeth sits down with Kayla Gorski for a candid – and at times uncomfortable – conversation about body image, beauty standards, and the truth about wanting to look good.

For many of us, thoughts about our bodies are constant, yet conversations about body image, self-image, and body confidence often stay surface-level. Together, Elizabeth and Kayla go deeper, exploring the internal “mental inventory” we keep and the evolving relationship we have with how we look and feel in our bodies.

This conversation doesn’t stop at self-acceptance.

They also examine the very real benefits of striving toward conventional beauty standards – from increased confidence and discipline, to feeling more energized, more attractive, and more connected to desire. What happens when looking good isn’t just about appearance, but rather is about motivation and how you move through the world?

From disciplined routines and slipping back into old habits, to the way attraction, confidence, and even libido are tied to the physical self, they explore the tension between accepting yourself as you are and wanting to be better.

This chat doesn’t promise easy answers, perfect solutions, or total body confidence. Instead, it offers an honest reflection on the complicated and sometimes contradictory relationship many of us have with our bodies – and the curiosity it takes to examine those patterns with compassion.

Show Notes:

Deepen your connection with food by visiting Kayla’s Substack at substack.com/@kaylagorski, or tuning into the Dish + Tell podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube.

Chapters

(00:00:00) - Imperfectly Honest: Body Image
(00:01:11) - This Isn't Perfectly Honest About Body Image
(00:07:57) - Are You Always Trying To Improve Your Body?
(00:10:37) - Your Compliments Are Not For Me
(00:17:09) - The First Time You Feelt Not Good Enough Physically
(00:20:04) - Bob and Susan on Being Healthy
(00:25:28) - Focus on Yourself
(00:29:13) - Dish and Tell: To Tell or To Eat?
(00:31:25) - Be Kind To Your Body
(00:34:10) - Feeling Confident in Your Body

Could I, Would I, Donate a Kidney? A Living Donor’s Perspective

Imperfectly Honest — Fri, 03 Apr 2026 05:03:38 +0000

What if you knew that donating a kidney isn’t as extreme - or as impossible - as it sounds? In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with Liz Nelson for an honest, deeply personal conversation about her decision to do just that.

Liz shares her experience as a living kidney donor, offering a transparent look at what the kidney donation process actually involves — physically, emotionally, and logistically. Rather than positioning the decision as heroic or extraordinary, she aims to demystify organ donation and help others better understand what’s possible.

Together, they move beyond the initial question of “could I?” into the more personal reality of “would I?” — unpacking the motivations, misconceptions, and practical considerations that come with becoming a living organ donor.

As conversations around organ donation and transplant waitlists continue to grow, this episode offers a grounded, human perspective on generosity, agency, and informed choice.

This isn’t about pressure or persuasion. It’s about expanding awareness — and inviting a more open, curious look at what it really means to give.

Show Notes:

You can learn about the National Kidney Registry’s innovative voucher program at NKR.org. Visit the National Kidney Donation Organization for more general information about living kidney donation. Check out Kidney.org for a great resource on kidney health.
The documentary Liz mentioned is Confessions of a Good Samaritan, available on Netflix.
Sue Heilbronner’s blog post about kidney donation is where Liz’s journey began. You can see Sue's own post about Liz's decision here.
You can connect with Liz at www.essarynelson.com, or on LinkedIn.

Hear more Imperfectly Honest perspectives at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Chapters

(00:00:00) - Donor's Donor: Imperfectly Honest
(00:00:58) - Imperfectly Honest
(00:02:08) - I Donated My Kidney to the US
(00:08:34) - Donor Donates a Kidney
(00:11:25) - Why I Donated My Kidney
(00:13:01) - Donor's Donor's Story
(00:14:32) - I Donated My Kidney To A Stranger
(00:24:38) - Having Children Is a Personal Decision
(00:31:56) - Donating a Kidney on the Podcast
(00:36:35) - Donating a Kidney to a Cancer Patient
(00:40:20) - Donor's Donor's Guide

Would an AI Partner Be Better Than a Human? Exploring the Appeal of Love Without Risk

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 19 Mar 2026 17:10:11 +0000

In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with Sheila Lamont to explore a timely and deeply personal question: Could AI partners supplement—or even replace—human romantic relationships?

As AI relationships and virtual partners become more sophisticated, technology offers a seductive promise: companionship without rejection, compromise, or heartbreak. An AI partner can provide attention, affirmation, and emotional support while eliminating many of the risks that come with human intimacy.

But what if the very things we try to avoid—uncertainty, vulnerability, and the act of choosing and being chosen—are actually essential to authentic, nourishing relationships?

Elizabeth and Sheila examine the growing rise of AI companionship, the psychological appeal of risk-free relationships, and what might be lost if technology begins to replace human connection. As artificial intelligence moves deeper into our personal lives, this episode invites listeners to reflect on the future of intimacy and ask an important question: What do we truly want from love and partnership?

Show Notes:

The article that inspired this conversation can be found in Psychology Today. If you haven’t already, we recommend you listen to Elizabeth and Sheila’s recent episode on “Default No." Hear more Imperfectly Honest perspectives at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Chapters

(00:00:00) - Imperfectly Honest: Can AI Replace Love?
(00:01:51) - Not All Relationships Are Without Risk
(00:05:35) - Are You a Default Yes or No Person?
(00:09:53) - Would You Rather Have a Robot in Your Home?
(00:14:59) - Would a Relationship With a Robot Be Safer?
(00:21:42) - "I Would Sexually Serve My Partner"
(00:24:02) - Would You Choose a Robot Over a Human Partner?
(00:33:00) - A Relationship With a Robot
(00:36:30) - About Love and Loneliness
(00:36:58) - A Question for Sheila

Shifting From Default No | Rethinking Decision-Making and the Perceived Safety of Hyper-Focus

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 04 Mar 2026 12:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Elizabeth reunites with Sheila Lamont to explore the subtle but powerful difference between living as a default “yes” and a default “no.” Early in her career, Elizabeth was a self-proclaimed default yes who embraced every opportunity… but over time, she shifted to a default no as she strived to be more focused and efficient. Recently, she’s begun to question whether that reflex has quietly limited her growth and opportunities for meaningful, unexpected connections.

Together, Elizabeth and Sheila unpack how past experiences shape the speed and certainty of our choices. Is your no protecting your peace – or preventing possibility? Is your yes rooted in joy – or people-pleasing?

This conversation invites a slower, more honest look at how you decide — and whether your default response still reflects the life you’re trying to build.

Show Notes:

Hear more Imperfectly Honest perspectives at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Chapters

(00:00:00) - Are You a Default Yes or No Person?
(00:02:25) - Do You Want to Be a Default Yes Person or a Default No
(00:08:12) - Are You a Default No-Person?
(00:12:27) - Mature Me: Saying Yes to Things
(00:20:48) - When Life Is Too Fast for Me
(00:22:35) - The Real Cost of Planning Your Life
(00:25:47) - Winter Skiing Is Back in the Northeast

When “Good” Is – and Isn’t – “Good Enough”

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 19 Feb 2026 15:57:12 +0000

In this episode, Elizabeth and Kayla wrestle with a deceptively simple question: when should we strive to be better – and when is it wiser to accept what is, even if it’s imperfect? They explore the double edge of perfectionism, the pressure to optimize every part of our lives, and the recognition that improvement doesn’t always change the outcome. They talk candidly about the reality that life isn’t always an equal playing field, the underdog doesn’t always win, and sometimes, no matter how much effort is invested, you might never be “good enough.” From career paths and leadership to body image, relationships, and self-compassion, Elizabeth and Kayla explore when to invest in potential and when to recognize limits. This isn’t about settling, and it’s not about striving endlessly either. It’s about knowing when to push, when to pause, and when to be HONEST. Show Notes: Hear more Imperfectly Honest perspectives at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Chapters

(00:00:01) - Imperfectly Honest
(00:01:43) - When Better Isn't Good Enough
(00:03:35) - What Do You Meant To Be Better?
(00:07:07) - In the Elevator With Steve Jobs
(00:10:19) - Celebrating the Growth of Others
(00:19:24) - An Enneagram Person on His Type
(00:20:42) - How to Striving to Be Better without Becoming Destructive
(00:25:56) - The Perfect Body Doesn't Matter
(00:28:21) - More Self-Compassion For Body Image
(00:31:35) - A Year in the Life of Entrepreneurs
(00:33:48) - Democracy on Listeners

Preventive Health | An Honest Conversation That Could Save Your Life

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 29 Jan 2026 09:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with Dr. Dennis Lipton, a board-certified internal medicine physician who practices preventative, deeply personalized care. Together, they talk honestly about what it actually means to take responsibility for your health – before something goes wrong.

They explore why early detection matters; how to think differently about tests, medications, and lifestyle changes; and why so many of us underestimate the power we have over our future health.

This is a conversation about curiosity over fear, information over avoidance, and finding balance between taking care of your body and still living your life, in full color.

Show Notes:

Learn more about Dr. Lipton’s practice at www.dennisliptonmd.com/.

Connect with Elizabeth’s Imperfectly Honest perspective at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Caregiving Without Losing Yourself: Boundaries, Burnout, and Self-Care

Imperfectly Honest — Tue, 13 Jan 2026 10:24:00 +0000

In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with her friend Heather Grahame to talk about caring for others – while caring for yourself. Setting boundaries and giving without giving too much of oneself is an imperfectly honest art to master. The rewards of caretaking can be immense, but they are not always immediate or obvious, and the juice isn’t always worth the squeeze.

If you're currently caring for someone, have done so in the past, or suspect that someday you may find yourself in that role, then this episode is for you. It's not about doing it perfectly; it's about learning how to be honest with the person you're taking care of and with yourself.

Connect with Elizabeth’s Imperfectly Honest perspective at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

La Dolce Vita: Honest Reflections from an Italian Road Trip

Imperfectly Honest — Tue, 23 Dec 2025 16:45:53 +0000

In this episode, Elizabeth and Kayla share a conversation that is as winding as an Italian road trip! Back from a wine tour in Italy, Kayla shares her reflections, imperfectly honest moments, and sweet intention for the year ahead. As you listen, ask yourself what you’d like to invite more of in 2026—is there room for you to slow down and savor more of life’s pleasures?

Show Notes:

“La dolce vita” is an Italian phrase that translates as “the sweet life” and refers to living fully in the moment, slowing down to savor life’s pleasures rather than rushing or letting stress rule.

Learn more about the wine importer Kayla referenced at https://tanarowineimports.com/.

Connect with Elizabeth’s Imperfectly Honest perspective at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Imperfect Truths of the American Economy | The Evolution of Capitalism with Seth Levine

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 11 Dec 2025 16:10:24 +0000

In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with Seth Levine, co-author of the new book Capital Evolution: The New American Economy. Seth explains how and why the American economy is changing and what the future could look like. Given the major realignment America is in, visible in our divided politics, fractured media, reshaped labor markets, and more, Seth shares his belief that businesses hold most of the power—and some responsibility—to shape the future. This thought-provoking episode, and book, is for anyone who buys things—which is EVERYONE.

Show Notes:

You can order your copy of Capital Evolution at TheCapitalEvolution.com.

And, in the spirit of dynamic capitalism and the holidays, consider ordering one for a friend, local school, or library through Seth and his co-author Elizabeth MacBride’s Worthy Books program.

For my listeners who prefer to shop local, check out Seth’s wife’s independent book store, Composition Shop, in Longmont, Colorado. Connect with Elizabeth’s Imperfectly Honest perspective at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Getting Honest About Boundaries: How to Set Them, Hold Them, and Stop Feeling Guilty

Imperfectly Honest — Fri, 28 Nov 2025 17:09:53 +0000

In this episode, Kayla sits in for Elizabeth and connects with Dr. Andrea Wick about boundaries: physical, emotional, and energetic. As a chiropractor, applied kinesiologist, and energy worker, Dr. Wick shares tips on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, particularly as we head into the holiday season. Show Notes To learn more about Dr. Wick or schedule an appointment, please visit www.drandreawick.com, or follow her on Instagram @dr.andreawick. While the workshop mentioned in the episode has passed by the time of airing, Dr. Wick will host a virtual Energetic Boundaries course in 2026! Learn more about To Be Magnetic, the neural manifestation practice Kayla referenced, at www.tobemagnetic.com. Consider reading Boundary Boss by Terri Cole to go deeper. Connect with Elizabeth’s Imperfectly Honest perspective at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Preparing for Wildfires: Getting Honest About Climate Change and Imperfect Advocacy

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 13 Nov 2025 12:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with Lizzie Peyton, Director of Big Sky SNO (Sustainability Network Organization), to talk about wildfire preparedness, living with wildfire risk, and what it means to be an imperfect advocate for climate change.

If you or someone you love lives in an area prone to wildfires or natural disasters, this conversation offers practical steps for preparing your home, creating a safety plan, and reducing anxiety around fire season. Even if wildfire season feels far away, it’s never too early to understand your risks and build confidence through preparation.

Elizabeth and Lizzie also speak candidly about the emotional side of climate change––how to show up, take meaningful action, and make lifestyle choices that align with your values, without needing to be perfect. This is a grounded, compassionate conversation for anyone wanting to care for the planet while also caring for themselves.

Show Notes:

The Big Sky Sustainability Network Organization, or “SNO,” is making its mountain town more sustainable by focusing on waste reduction, resource protection, energy management, transportation solutions, sustainable education, tourism, and more. To learn more about Lizzie, get involved with Big Sky SNO, or discover resources to use in your own community, visit https://www.bigskysno.org/ or reach out directly at hello@bigskysno.org.

Connect with Elizabeth’s Imperfectly Honest perspective at www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Child-Free by Choice: Opting Out of Motherhood

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 16 Oct 2025 14:49:42 +0000

Elizabeth and her friend, Kayla Gorski, talk about their mutual choice to opt out of motherhood. They have both learned a lot from making this unconventional choice and thought that others might benefit from what they've learned along their journey.

Changing Times at Imperfectly Honest | Sheila Says Goodbye

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 17 Sep 2025 09:30:00 +0000

As we move into Autumn, changes are happening at Imperfectly Honest. In Sheila’s final episode as co-host, she and Elizabeth share thoughts on past highlights, current mixed emotions, and future plans.

Lessons from 20 Years of Health Mistakes

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 11 Sep 2025 10:00:00 +0000

Elizabeth has been addressing some systemic health issues and has learned a great deal in the process. In this short and sweet episode, she shares what she wishes someone had shared with her when her issues began two decades ago. Her advice applies to anyone trying to connect the dots with their own health issues, and is especially relevant to those dealing with digestive-, hormone-, or thyroid-related symptoms.

Show Notes:

The Adrenal Transformation Protocol by Isabella Wentz. The audio version is pretty good. For a teaser, you can listen to this podcast episode.

Fiber Fueled Cookbook by Dr. Will Bulsiewicz. This book is packed with information about the microbiome and provides gut friendly recipes.This podcast episode gives an overview of what the author, Will Bulsiewicz, is up to.

Nicole DeBoom’s hormone series on her Run This World podcast. Check out episodes 214-216.

Will Cole’s The Art of Being Well. This podcast episode on how chronic inflammation, hormonal imbalances, and emotional health affect our health is especially helpful.

Assessing Our Datability | An Honest Look at Ourselves

Imperfectly Honest — Mon, 25 Aug 2025 20:29:24 +0000

Elizabeth and her friend Jenni Graff have had many long conversations about what they are looking for in a romantic partner. In this episode, they turn the tables to think more deeply about what they can bring to a relationship. It’s a window into what it might be like to date either of them, and a model for both self-assessment and delivering kindly candid feedback to good friends.

How Do We Talk About Mental Health?

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 31 Jul 2025 05:00:00 +0000

A Conversation with Brad Feld – Author, Venture Capitalist, and Mental Health Advocate

Elizabeth and Sheila invite Brad Feld to join them in a candid conversation about destigmatizing mental health. Brad Feld – entrepreneur, author, venture capitalist, and a co-founder of Foundry Group and Techstars, has been very public about his struggles with OCD and depression and is a longtime mental health advocate.

In this episode, Elizabeth and Sheila get his take on if, when, and how to reveal one’s mental health story. In the spirit of Brad’s new book, Give First: The Power of Mentorship, Elizabeth shares some of the lessons she’s learned from her decade-long relationship with Brad as a mentor and investor. She asks him to open up about a cause that Sheila, Elizabeth, and Brad care deeply about – mental health.

In this episode, we explore:

(01:16) Introducing Brad Feld – entrepreneur, author, venture capitalist, and a co-founder of Foundry Group and Techstars (07:58) Brad Feld discusses his personal experiences with OCD (10:25) The insidiousness of the link between obsessive and compulsive thoughts and behavior (16:21) When, if, and how to reveal your mental health story (20:04) Digging into the root causes vs. just moving dirt around (25:25) Dealing with the shame associated with depression, anxiety, and other mental health challenges (29:30) The importance of self-awareness and therapy: Spend some time on “Planet Yourself” (33:07) Elizabeth’s experiences with a close friend and mental health issues (36:30) Brad’s philanthropic efforts in Boulder, CO (40:20) Destigmatizing mental health issues (45:30) What is the line between supporting and enabling? (50:57) Supporting others by just being present for them (53:08) Brad’s new book is Give First: The Power of Mentorship. If you like the book, make some music about it! (55:14) Closing thoughts

Letting Today Be Enough

Imperfectly Honest — Mon, 07 Jul 2025 06:34:34 +0000

Elizabeth and Sheila explore the tension between living fully in the present and planning for an uncertain future, particularly involving where we may live in the future and who we care about. Together, they ponder whether leaning into experiences that will inevitably end is brave, foolish, or simply human.

In this episode, we explore:

(1:15) Greetings and content intro (4:08) Putting down roots in a community when your future there is uncertain (7:17) The challenges of making new friends as an adult (12:16) Joy today vs sorrow tomorrow (13:33) Is anyone's future really a certainty? (14:22) Exploring the dynamics of finite relationships (16:50) Accepting to live in relationship limbo (19:27) Staying connected after a move or at the end of a relationship (21:55) Going with the flow vs. steering your life (24:05) Final thoughts

Connect with Imperfectly Honest via www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Ethical Non-Monogamy | Seeing Right and Wrong in Color vs. Black and White

Imperfectly Honest — Fri, 27 Jun 2025 10:30:00 +0000

Elizabeth is currently in a relationship that can best be described as “emotional non-monogamy.” She and her partner have agreed not to be physically intimate with anyone else. Yet, they are staying open to the possibility that their relationship may not last and that others may be better suited to be their long-term partners.

Sheila and Elizabeth dig into the ups and downs of open relationships. Elizabeth shares how she’s tackling her jealousy and her tendency to compare herself to other women, as well as the unexpected benefits and life lessons that have arisen from her “situationship.” Sheila shares her Imperfectly Honest thoughts on the potential pitfalls of Elizabeth’s relationship and provides a perspective from a different angle.

In this episode, we explore: (1:45) Emotional non-monogamy vs. Physical non-monogamy (5:12) Navigating jealousy and hurt (9:23) When do you disclose your non-monogamous status with dates? (12:13) Can this non-monogamy relationship be a learning tool? (13:22) Coping with “learning” vs. “hurting” in an open relationship. (14:45) The value of finding out what you DON’T want. And what you DO. (18:48) Questions to ask yourself when you’re dating more than one person. (21:24) Final thoughts about best lessons from the non-monogamous experience.

Connect with Imperfectly Honest via www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

If, When, and How to Reveal Our Secrets

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 11 Jun 2025 10:00:00 +0000

Personal Development and Momentum Coach, Matt Suess, joins Elizabeth and Sheila to discuss how soon and how much personal information should be shared with new acquaintances - romantic, platonic, and professional. In this age of social media and googling, it's challenging to assume the same "air of mystery" as we may have been allowed in the past. Failing to reveal one's true self could be perceived as inauthentic, but sharing too much - and too soon - might also stifle a relationship that might need a little space and time to flourish.

Show Notes

Matt Suess has been a professional photographer and entrepreneur for 35 years, currently as a world travel photographer & educator. Following a failed long-term relationship that ended two years ago, Matt set out on a journey of self discovery & improvement to finally tackle lifelong struggles of shame and avoidance. Reinvention has become his rhythm which has now led to a strong desire to help others get unstuck following his years of personal experience. This year he embarked on a new path as a Personal Development & Momentum Coach, and this summer, he is co-launching a dating podcast Red Flag or Green Flag, Spilling the Tea with Matt & Kelli. Matt is currently based in Bozeman, Montana.

Elizabeth's TechStars podcast interview, The Perfect Storm.

In this episode, we explore:

(1:09) Intro to episode participants and description of content (4:09) Matt, Elizabeth and Sheila provide a macro view of communication styles (8:25) Under-sharing vs. oversharing? (11:54) What about revealing secrets that may not be permanent? (14:40) Enhancing the conversation by going deep (19:52) Handling preconceptions from your online and social media info (21:40) The benefits of attracting what you put out there (24:33) Final thoughts about gauging your audience and providing context

The 24-Hour Divide | Rethinking Email Responsiveness

Imperfectly Honest — Mon, 26 May 2025 10:00:00 +0000

Elizabeth's Imperfectly Honest blog in April, "Why I Don't Apologize for Unanswered Emails" hit a nerve with her longtime mentor and investor, Jimmy Calano. He joins today's episode for a lively conversation, sharing his own email response time "Rule of 24", and mixing it up with Elizabeth and Sheila on where he stands on email apologies and other content.

Episode Notes

Jimmy Calano is the former founder/CEO of a global training company and, more recently, co-facilitator of the 935 member Boulder Investment Group.

Resources for Crafting Emails:

"How to Write a Cold Email" by Elizabeth Yin
"The Perfect Email" by David Cohen

In this episode, we explore:

(1:17) Intro to episode participants and description of the “Divide” (4:51) Jimmy and Elizabeth elaborate on their reasoning and judgements re: email responsiveness (10:14) How being email responsive helped forge Jimmy and Elizabeth’s business relationship (12:59) The downsides of ignoring emails (15:57) Individual personalities and quality of life desires may impact on email communication styles (22:50) Should we or shouldn't we apologize for email response time delays? (27:15) How to craft emails to enhance response time (31:10) In closing...

In Conclusion, Money Matters

Imperfectly Honest — Fri, 16 May 2025 10:00:00 +0000

How you make financial decisions in both romantic and business relationships can have a big impact. Elizabeth and Sheila look to their personal experiences, and what others choose, to lay out some different approaches to calculating the role of money in the relationship equation.

Show Notes: Giggly Squad Podcast https://gigglysquad.com/

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Am I a Doormat?

Imperfectly Honest — Tue, 06 May 2025 10:00:00 +0000

There can be a fine line between being helpful and being taken advantage of. Elizabeth and Sheila go through the questions they ask themselves when trying to figure out that difference, especially when they aren’t sure if they’re stepping up or being stepped on.

Checking Back in on This Year’s Intentions

Imperfectly Honest — Tue, 22 Apr 2025 10:01:00 +0000

I think we all know the quote about a certain road which is paved with good intentions. Elizabeth and Sheila review the intentions they each set for 2025, realizing that, although these respective "quarterly reports" had some hits and some misses, a lot was learned in the process!

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Would You Change Anything From Your Past?

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 09 Apr 2025 19:15:16 +0000

Rethinking past life choices can summon up both painful challenges and joyful successes. Elizabeth and Sheila take that backward look in time, and agree that those mountains climbed in the process may have helped to shape them into who they were meant to be. Show Notes 2013 movie "About Time". Connect with Imperfectly Honest via www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Online Dating: When Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone is Too Uncomfortable

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 20 Mar 2025 16:52:39 +0000

It can often be a true growth opportunity to try new things that attract us but are also challenging and move us outside our comfort zone. Sheila and Elizabeth discuss their recent forays into online dating. They agree that it’s essential to listen to your inner voice -- and gut feelings -- to (in the words of "The Gambler") "know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, and know when to run."

Links mentioned:

Elizabeth's article Committing to Discomfort to Achieve Growth

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Criticism: A Mirror, Not a Weapon

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 13 Mar 2025 17:46:50 +0000

What if we made more of an effort to view criticism from others like a two way mirror? We can see how their words reflect something about us and reflect something about them as well. Elizabeth and Sheila discuss an Oscar Wilde quote: “Criticism is the only reliable form of autobiography,” to explore dynamics of criticism, weaving in personal experiences for extra color!

Would You Want to Know Your Expiration Date?

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 27 Feb 2025 10:05:00 +0000

How would you feel if you were given the choice to know how long your life would be? The Measure, by Nikki Erlick, is a recent bestseller, where the entire world population is given the opportunity to find the answer to that question in a box which appears on their doorstep.

Elizabeth and Sheila talk about what their own choices might be, as well as the impact the knowledge could have on their lives, and on the people they love. Or those they may have hopes of loving in the future.

Adventures in Non-Monogamy

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 19 Feb 2025 02:20:41 +0000

Elizabeth and her friend John have formed a meaningful and healthy, non-platonic relationship, but they are skeptical about their potential to be long-term life partners. They have decided to engage in a non-monogamous dating arrangement to allow them to look for a long-term life partner while enjoying their time together. Sheila joins Elizabeth for a candid conversation about the pluses and minuses of an “intimate friendship.”

In this episode, we explore:

(00:00) Introduction

(06:41) Embracing non-exclusive relationships

(09:02) OCD in relationships

(14:20) Navigating post-divorce relationships

(15:10) Relationship doubts and uncertainty

(20:46) Dogs and dating

(22:41) Embracing uncertainty through illness

(24:37) Navigating early relationship dynamics

(24:45) Wrap-up and conclusion

Links mentioned:

The Attachment Project Connect with Imperfectly Honest via www.imperfectlyhonest.com.

Healing from LA Fires: Quick Aid While Striving for Systemic Changes

Imperfectly Honest — Fri, 24 Jan 2025 18:23:20 +0000

Have you ever felt helpless watching tragedies unfold on the news? Discussing the LA fires on today's episode of Imperfectly Honest, Elizabeth and Sheila express the candid thoughts that have swirled in their heads and explore the question: Can we actually make a difference, or should we just focus on less hopeless efforts?

This episode will help inspire action and hope amidst the devastation. Elizabeth and Sheila share their personal thoughts on how donations and local efforts can make a difference, the importance of education and federal involvement, and some creative ideas like how the Oscars can play a role in driving change.

Show Notes

In addition to the suggestions for addressing systemic change that Sheila and Elizabeth make in this episode, we hope you’ll consider donations to address the immediate need. The organizations recommended by the article that inspired this conversation are as follows:

José Andrés’s World Central Kitchen

The Global Empowerment Mission

The California Community Foundation

In this episode, we explore:

(00:00) Introduction

(03:19) Supporting natural disaster victims

(08:14) What forest management and funding controlled burns can do

(11:39) Rethinking charity and root solutions

(16:49) Why award shows serve as powerful fundraisers

(18:41) When revamping the Oscar telecast has an impact

(22:46) Why highlighting the helpers is so important

(24:45) Wrap-up and conclusion

Links mentioned:

The Bulwark: ‘Babygirl’ Review by Sonny Bunch

Variety: Rosanna Arquette Says the Oscars Shouldn’t Be Canceled Amid L.A. Fires: ‘It’s About Using Art to Rebuild’

The Hollywood Reporter: ‘Film and TV Production In L.A. Was Already Plummeting. Wildfires May Hasten the Exodus’

Colin Farrell’s Golden Globes acceptance speech

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When Life and Love Don’t Have to Be Hard

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 15 Jan 2025 18:05:09 +0000

In this episode, Elizabeth interviews the couple whose relationship she most admires. Mikela and Philip Tarlow are partners in life, love, and work. Working with them in her twenties opened Elizabeth’s eyes to the possibility that life and love don’t have to be hard. Throughout their careers, Mikela and Philip have managed to pursue meaningful and fulfilling work while achieving financial success and work/life harmony. Their multi-decade relationship has required many honest conversations. Listen to this honest conversation to learn more.

Links:

Philip Tarlow's art site is https://www.philiptarlow.com/
You can learn more about Yemeni Coffee at https://www.almokha.com/

Embracing Our Fears

Imperfectly Honest — Thu, 02 Jan 2025 00:36:52 +0000

After weathering serious health issues and significant life challenges, Elizabeth and Sheila are seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. In this candid conversation, they share how they plan to overcome their fears to embrace their new opportunities.

Episode Quotes:

“Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.” ~ Susan Jeffers

"The very essence of romance is uncertainty." ~ Oscar Wilde

“To thine own self be true.” ~ William Shakespeare. Spoken by character Polonius in Act I, Scene 3 of Hamlet.

"You will always be too much of something for someone: too big, too loud, too soft, too edgy. If you round out your edges, you lose your edge. Apologize for mistakes. Apologize for unintentionally hurting someone - profusely. But don't apologize for being who you are." ~ Danielle LaPorte

What Does Being “Masculine” Really Mean These Days?

Imperfectly Honest — Tue, 10 Dec 2024 18:48:14 +0000

Gender roles today can be more confusing than ever. Sheila and Elizabeth discuss their own confusions and perspectives about what it may mean to be masculine or feminine right now, citing the need for a dose of empathy to be added to the mix.

Show Notes:

How Our Messed-Up Dating Culture Leads to Loneliness, Anger and Donald Trump

Unwrapping Holiday Stress and Obligations

Imperfectly Honest — Tue, 26 Nov 2024 01:25:48 +0000

Reuniting with family during the holiday season can be both joyful and stressful, especially when it involves travel and overnight visits. Elizabeth and Sheila discuss the 'tis the season challenges that may arise, sharing personal perspectives on holidays past, present, and future (but minus the Scrooge spirits).

Relationships | Let’s Be Honest

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 13 Nov 2024 03:25:55 +0000

Partnering with someone can be challenging, but it can also enhance your life in many ways. Elizabeth and Sheila discuss their own experiences with relationships, past and current. They share perspectives on the benefits of kind, candid honesty, especially in relationships.

How to Actually Be Helpful, Part 2

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 30 Oct 2024 14:57:36 +0000

Offering support when not being asked to do so can be tricky, especially if you want to express concern without being judgmental. In this episode, Elizabeth and Sheila share thoughts about when and how to share your concerns with others. Executive coach Sharon Cavanaugh joined the conversation to provide her insights and perspectives as well.

Show Resources:

Listen to Part 1 of this discussion here.
For more insight from coach Sharon Cavanaugh, check out Welcoming Way.

Adjusting the Volume on Uncertainty

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 16 Oct 2024 20:03:01 +0000

We like to think that life is controllable. But uncertainties in relationships, health, finances, politics – and even the weather! – abound. Elizabeth and Sheila share the way they cope with, and sometimes even embrace, life’s micro and macro uncertainties.

Outing My OCD

Imperfectly Honest — Fri, 04 Oct 2024 20:02:00 +0000

Coping with issues related to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder can take a toll on your own life, as well as your relationships with others. Elizabeth and Sheila discuss their personal experiences in that regard and explore their own efforts to address the reactions of others. Listen to hear their candid take on this topic.

How to Actually Be Helpful

Imperfectly Honest — Mon, 23 Sep 2024 17:48:37 +0000

Sheila and Elizabeth have been the recipients of a lot of love and support in their lives. Especially through their experiences over the past few years, they have seen how others can effectively offer support AND how well-intentioned attempts to be helpful can backfire. Listen to hear their candid take on this topic.

Can I Ask You to Remove Your Shoes?

Imperfectly Honest — Tue, 10 Sep 2024 05:27:05 +0000

Asking people to remove their shoes before entering the home can be a sticky subject, at least in the U.S. Sheila and Elizabeth discuss the ins and outs of wearing shoes indoors, finding the courage to state unconventional preferences, and the challenge of asking others to respect personal boundaries.

Episode notes:

CBS Sunday Morning’s Mo Rocca’s Shoes on Shoes Off
Flightless Bird: Shoes Indoors - Armchair Expert
Boundless: Upgrade Your Brain, Optimize Your Body & Defy Aging by Ben Greenfield
Dr. Stacy Sims: Female-Specific Exercise & Nutrition for Health, Performance & Longevity - Huberman Lab
The Enneagram - How Does the Enneagram Work and How Useful Is It?
To find out your Enneagram Type, we recommend the Enneagram Institute. The RHETI Test delivers extensive insight and, from our experience, is well worth the 40 minutes required to complete the test.

Living Solo by Choice

Imperfectly Honest — Tue, 20 Aug 2024 16:47:48 +0000

Sheila and Elizabeth have both, individually, made the choice to live alone. In this episode, they discuss the perks and the challenges of this lifestyle, as well as how it has created more ease and opportunity for each of them.

As cited on the podcast, Surgeon General, Vivek Murthy, shared his thoughts and some research on loneliness and relationships in this episode of The Armchair Expert.

How Much of My Story Am I Ready to Tell?

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 31 Jul 2024 13:17:34 +0000

Elizabeth wants to share the lessons she’s learned from the transformative experience she’s had over the past two years. However, sharing this deeply personal story won’t come without consequences, and distilling the millions of thoughts in her head is proving to be a bit of a challenge. After feeling stuck, Elizabeth turned to her executive coach, Sharon Cavanaugh, for advice. Sharon’s advice is applicable to anyone who has ever experienced writer's block, grappled with what to share publicly, or simply wondered how to share a compelling story. Sheila and Elizabeth thought you would like to hear it.

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To learn more about coaching with Sharon Cavanaugh or to book a session, visit https://welcomingway.com/.

As mentioned on the podcast, you might also enjoy:

Can Friends Talk About Money?

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 03 Jul 2024 14:06:44 +0000

Money can be a touchy subject, especially with family and friends. In this episode, Sheila and Elizabeth take the leap to have a long overdue conversation about how money affected their friendship in the past and may come into play in the future. At some point during this conversation, Elizabeth mentioned the pitfalls of being a "hero" rather than a coach or friend. For a better articulation of this "heroing" pattern and more about how to avoid it, check out this video from the Conscious Leadership Group.

Can Authenticity and Kindness Win an Election? An Imperfectly Honest Political Conversation

Imperfectly Honest — Wed, 12 Jun 2024 22:57:57 +0000

After publicly sharing that the mudslinging in Montana politics was turning her off, Elizabeth received a personal phone call from a political candidate who asked a thoughtful question: How can I invigorate my base without alienating others? The candidate authentically asked for advice for crafting an effective message by finding common ground rather than fueling division and hate. Elizabeth and Sheila share their imperfectly honest thoughts. As mentioned by Sheila, Jon Stewart's Ken Buck interview can be found here.

Episode 1, Take 3

Imperfectly Honest — Mon, 08 Apr 2024 23:35:26 +0000

Welcome to our first episode of Imperfectly Honest. We're Elizabeth and Sheila. We met as neighbors in Boulder, Colorado in 2010, and our friendship grew during frequent hikes in the foothills until…..we had a falling out. Our friendship “paused” for eight years until we reconnected in a meaningful way when Sheila picked up the phone to have an eight-year-overdue honest conversation. At least for now, we're really good friends in large part because we've learned to be honest with each other, but that's not always perfect. Nonetheless, we're learning a lot by being "Imperfectly Honest" and thought you might too. We'll be sharing our conversations on this podcast and more of our thoughts on our blog. To stay in the loop, visit www.imperfectlyhonest.com.