J & Courtney's In It Together: Mental Health & Healing Trauma

Parenting From Fear vs. Parenting From Trust

Epicphany Media — Wed, 22 Oct 2025 01:10:00 +0000

In this episode, J and I unpack what rescue parenting really is, how to recognize when you’re doing it, and how to start shifting from rescuing to regulating — so your child learns strength through connection, not dependency.

It’s often rooted in our own nervous system ... that deep, protective part of us that remembers what it felt like to be alone, scared, or unsupported. So we overcompensate. We rush to rescue. We forget that our children build resilience through doing hard things, not through us preventing them.

True safety isn’t built through rescue ... it’s built through relationship.
Through sitting beside, not stepping in front of.
Through saying, “I trust you can handle this,” and meaning it.

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Parental Estrangement

Epicphany Media — Fri, 17 Oct 2025 11:30:00 +0000

In this episode, Courtney and J open up an honest and compassionate conversation about one of the most painful yet unspoken experiences families face today: parental estrangement.

Together, we’ll explore why this is happening more frequently, what’s really going on beneath the surface, and how both parents and adult children can begin to understand — and possibly heal — the rupture.

You’ll learn:

The emotional and nervous system roots of estrangement
Why “rejection” isn’t always rejection — sometimes it’s self-protection
The hidden patterns that keep families stuck in pain cycles
How parents can start doing their inner work to rebuild safety and trust
What adult children need (but often don’t know how to ask for)

This episode isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness, accountability, and the courage to heal what’s been generations in the making.

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Power of Pause

Epicphany Media — Fri, 10 Oct 2025 11:00:00 +0000

The Power of Pause: Why Slowing Down Speeds You Up

In our always-on, hyper-connected world, the simple act of pausing has become almost revolutionary. This episode explores the transformative benefits of intentionally creating space in your day, your conversations, and your decision-making.

Discover how strategic pauses can sharpen your focus, reduce stress, and unlock deeper creativity. We'll dive into the science behind why our brains need regular breaks to process information and consolidate learning, and why the most productive people aren't the ones who never stop moving.

Learn practical ways to integrate meaningful pauses into your routine—from the micro-moments between tasks to longer periods of rest and reflection. Whether you're facing a difficult decision, navigating a tense conversation, or simply feeling overwhelmed by the pace of life, the pause might be your most underrated tool.

We'll also explore how pausing creates space for emotional regulation, improves the quality of your responses, and helps you move from reactive to intentional living. It's not about doing less—it's about creating the mental clarity to do what matters most.

Ready to discover what happens when you stop rushing and start pausing? Tune in.

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Traumatic Nostalgia

Epicphany Media — Fri, 03 Oct 2025 11:30:00 +0000

We talk a lot about nostalgia as something sweet—warm memories, the “good old days.” But for many people, looking back isn’t comforting, it’s activating. Traumatic nostalgia is what happens when revisiting your past doesn’t just bring memories, it pulls you back into the pain, the fear, or the helplessness of what you lived through.

In this episode, I break down:

What traumatic nostalgia really is (and how it’s different from bittersweet remembering).
Why your mind and body can’t always tell the difference between “back then” and “right now.”
How this shows up in everyday life—holidays, songs, childhood places, even old relationships.
The nervous system’s role in dragging you into an old state of being.

If you’ve ever felt confused about why certain memories hurt more than they heal—or why you long for something that was actually harmful—this episode will help you name it, understand it, and start to loosen its grip.

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Subconscious Sabotage: Pushing People Away When You Need Space

Epicphany Media — Fri, 26 Sep 2025 12:28:23 +0000

Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed, craving space, but instead of saying no—you overcommit, explode, or unconsciously push people away? This is the hidden face of subconscious sabotage.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

Why saying “no” can feel threatening—even when it’s what you desperately need.
How old conditioning, trauma responses, and fear of rejection lead us to sabotage instead of setting boundaries.
The subtle ways sabotage shows up: irritability, withdrawal, overexplaining, or self-criticism.
Tools to practice pausing, naming your need for space, and communicating it clearly before sabotage takes over.

This conversation is for anyone who feels trapped in the cycle of over-giving, shutting down, or unconsciously pushing people away when all you really needed was to say: I need space right now.

By the end, you’ll see that sabotage isn’t weakness—it’s a signal from your nervous system pointing toward the boundary you’ve been afraid to set.

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Empathy Fatigue

Epicphany Media — Fri, 19 Sep 2025 11:30:00 +0000

Do you ever feel drained from caring so much? In this episode, I dive into the hidden cost of empathy—when our natural ability to tune into others’ feelings leaves us exhausted, resentful, or even numb. This isn’t about a lack of compassion; it’s about what happens when we carry the weight of everyone else’s emotions without knowing how to set boundaries or refill our own cup.

Right now, in light of everything we’re witnessing as a society, empathy fatigue may be something you’re experiencing without even realizing it. The constant exposure to others’ pain—whether through the news, social media, or within our own families—can quietly wear us down.

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When a Parent Becomes the Predator: Kendra Licari

Epicphany Media — Fri, 12 Sep 2025 16:00:00 +0000

In this episode, I dive into Netflix’s documentary Unknown: High School Catfish and unpack the shocking story of Kendra Licari—the mother at the center of a case that blurred the lines between parent, predator, and manipulator. Together, we explore the psychology behind her actions, the ripple effects on her family and community, and what this story reveals about control, secrecy, and unresolved wounds.

I’ll break down:

The patterns of behavior that led to her unraveling
The emotional and relational dynamics often overlooked in true crime narratives
Key lessons we can take away about boundaries, self-awareness, and the shadow side of parenting

This isn’t just about one woman’s actions—it’s about what happens when fear, shame, and control go unchecked. Tune in for a deeper analysis that goes beyond the headlines.

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Leading your Healing

Epicphany Media — Fri, 05 Sep 2025 11:20:00 +0000

We’re back! After two years of deep personal work—learning how to lead our own healing—we’re here again to share the journey with you. If you’ve missed us, know that we’ve missed you, too.

In this episode, we dive into what it really means to lead yourself down your own healing path. From breaking cycles of trauma to managing anxiety and navigating mental health struggles, we explore how self-leadership opens the door to true transformation.

This season is about honesty, growth, and practical tools for your healing journey. Whether you’re facing trauma recovery, struggling with anxiety, or searching for ways to reconnect with yourself, this podcast will give you support, insight, and encouragement.

mental health, healing, trauma recovery, anxiety, self-growth, emotional resilience, nervous system regulation, self-healing, personal transformation.

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Shame as our teacher

Epicphany Media — Thu, 24 Aug 2023 23:35:25 +0000

In this very special episode, J and Courtney discuss shame from a different perspective. They talk about leaning into shame as the teacher and how shame can become your friend and not your keeper. If you are on your healing journey, then this is an episode you won't want to miss! Healing can be lonely and the last thing we want to feel is bad for exisiting. Shame isn't a useless or unhelpful emotion - shame can literally help you transform your life if you learn to listen to it correctly.

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Your Choice: You are Capable

Epicphany Media — Mon, 07 Aug 2023 14:59:58 +0000

One of the hardest journeys is that of healing - especially when you don't have anyone to support you through the process. What we begin to recognize is that everything is a choice. We are far more capable than we give ourselves credit for and when we can look within and pull from that power nothing is unachievable. If you are struggling to believe in yourself and you feel that you just can't, then this episode will change that for you!

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Figuring out People are People

Epicphany Media — Mon, 31 Jul 2023 11:39:56 +0000

Do you hold on to relationships out of guilt? Do you feel a sense of responsibility for family members even if they have hurt you? If these sound familiar, you won't want to miss this episode because you are NOT alone. In this deeply raw episode, Courtney opens up deeper to share some of her most vulnerable emotions surrounding this exact topic. Together, J gently leads Courtney down the path of pain while she shares some of the most intimate painful moments that she's had surrounding the relationship with her biological father. If you're hurting, and you're holding on to that person, this episode may give you the support and permission that you need to finally let go.

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Rewriting Trauma: Special Guests Dr. Yener & Duygu Balan

Epicphany Media — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 22:05:59 +0000

In this very special episode, J and Courtney sit down to have a deep conversation with Duygu Balan, LPCC, LMHC, and Dr. Yener Balan. Duygu is a psychotherapist and certified trauma professional, and for over a decade has cared for individuals and couples dealing with childhood trauma, attachment injuries, and grief. Yener Balan, MD, DFAPA is a board-certified psychiatrist and is currently the Vice President of Behavioral Health and Specialty Services for Kaiser Permanente, Northern California. The Balan's are the authors of the book, "Re-Write: A Trauma Workbook for Creative Writing and Recovery in our New Normal.

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Rescue Parenting

Epicphany Media — Wed, 12 Jul 2023 14:53:32 +0000

Are you struggling with parenting? Are you having a very hard time watching your children make decisions that could "hurt them"? Are you always worried that you have to step in, solve, and fix their problems? Do you have this underlying fear that something bad is going to happen so you're always on edge? If so, you may find this episode very helpful. J and Courtney discuss Rescue Parenting - Something Courtney struggled with for many years that resulted from her own childhood trauma. This episode will help you better understand why you're parenting the way that you are with some helpful tips to get you feeling confident in yourself and your children's ability to navigate their own lives.

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Taming the Inner Child

Epicphany Media — Wed, 05 Jul 2023 09:00:00 +0000

In this very special episode, J and Courtney discuss the inner child but from a completely different perspective - a perspective not many talk about. If you're on your healing journey, finding yourself triggered...ALOT, and just feel stuck then THIS is the episode for you! Healing is messy and won't be easy. As a matter of fact, it may be the hardest thing that you'll ever do. That's why we have this podcast and our healing community because no one should do it alone.

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Restful Healing

Epicphany Media — Wed, 28 Jun 2023 13:14:06 +0000

Are you on your healing journey and just feel completely exhausted? You just don't have the energy or desire to do much of anything. When we are healing, we can get to this very poignant part of healing that Courtney calls, "Restful Healing" and it can be the most challenging place to be when you don't understand it. As a trained trauma counselor, Courtney has seen this in all of her clients and in her own personal journey. In this very episode, J and Courtney discuss this concept in depth. If there's ever an episode that you will want to listen to, it is THIS one! It's real, raw, and relatable and will leave you feeling empowered.

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Reactivity

Epicphany Media — Fri, 28 Apr 2023 16:15:00 +0000

When we have trauma, we may find that we become highly reactive. This is why you just JUMP to the first emotion and ACT on it without having time to stop and think and DECIDE what your decision will be. In this episode, J and Courtney discuss reactivity on a very personal level. If you have trauma and are on your healing journey, this is going to be an upside that you'll want to save and listen to frequently. As we heal, our brains look at situations differently and we understand and integrate concepts much deeper.

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4 Agreements: The Recap

Epicphany Media — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 12:00:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney recap the 4 agreements. This is the PERFECT episode if you're just looking to get a brief synopsis without all the fuss! Stay tuned because the next episode is on REACTIVITY! You won't want to MISS it!

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Your best will shift

Epicphany Media — Thu, 30 Mar 2023 16:00:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss what it means to "do your best" based on the book, "The Four Agreements". Together, they pull apart the agreement and discuss it at a deeper level. Our best will always shift depending on how we are feeling. Your best today may be different tomorrow. If you're on your healing journey, then this episode will resonate and give you permission to have more compassion and grace on those tough days.

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Don't Assume

Epicphany Media — Fri, 17 Mar 2023 16:00:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney continue their quest to explore concepts from the book, "The Four Agreements". Together, they share their thoughts and experiences surrounding the concept of not assuming and how assuming will keep you stuck on your healing journey. When we assume, we base what we perceive as fact instead of information to process.

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Don't Take It Personal: It isn't about you

Epicphany Media — Wed, 01 Mar 2023 23:54:28 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss the importance of not taking things personally. Courtney, in the hot-seat, again...discusses how this has been one of the most challenging things to overcome. At times, she still struggles with it and is very candid about her journey with learning to let things go and be as they are.

Do you struggle with feeling as if everything is a personal attack? Does it feel like even positive constructive feedback hurts? If so, listen to this episode! Remember, we aren't ever alone - we are alone together!

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The Words We Use

Epicphany Media — Fri, 17 Feb 2023 23:20:00 +0000

J and Courtney are back! It's been a while and they share what they have been up to and what to expect! They get into a conversation about the way in which we speak to ourselves and others - The Words We Use - and how IMPACTFUL our words are. If you're on your healing journey, or just looking to listen to a real, raw, and relatable podcast - this is for you! When we are on our journey, we are often left feeling alone, abandoned, and ore mistreated. It's truly important that we surround ourselves with others who are healing and learning - this way, we build a shared experience that truly adds value to the healing process.

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Shame

Epicphany Media — Tue, 02 Aug 2022 00:00:00 +0000

In this very special episode, J and Courtney dig deeper into shame. This is a great spin-off episode if you've listened to the one on Shame Vs Guilt AND if you're part of the healing community it went GREAT with the workshop and Newsletter. Shame is a universal emotion that we all have and feel but it can infiltrate our lives and truly prevent us from healing and walking in our authentic footsteps. This episode will help bring you clarity and solutions to working through and becoming stronger.

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Dreams

Epicphany Media — Sat, 23 Jul 2022 02:10:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss the meaning behind dreams and how you can pull a lot of insight from them. Courtney further discusses how dreams aren't always factual but actually metaphorically represent different parts of your waking life. This is an episode you won't want t sleep on!

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Shame vs Guilt

Epicphany Media — Thu, 14 Jul 2022 23:45:00 +0000

In this very interesting episode, Courtney breaks down the deep differences between Shame and Guilt - as they aren't the same. Together, J and Courtney have a discussion that brings to light moments in their own healing journey where shame presented itself. If you're on your healing journey, it's more likely than not that you are harboring deep shame - and that can truly affect your self-worth and your interpersonal relationships. Knowing the difference between shame and guilt will help you claim your life back!

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The Cost of Healing

Epicphany Media — Thu, 07 Jul 2022 23:59:00 +0000

In this very special episode, J and Courtney discuss the cost of healing. They sit down and together discuss what really happens when you heal. They talk about the things that most people don't realize and explore healing from a whole new perspective.

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Feelings vs Emotions

Epicphany Media — Fri, 01 Jul 2022 02:16:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss the fundamental differences between feelings and emotions! Most people aren't aware that the two aren't interchangeable - and that in fact, they are completely different. Together, they share their experiences with their own personal struggles while offering key tips to help you start becoming more emotionally aware. *If you want the Feelings Wheel, join the healing community below!*

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What Healing Looks Like

Epicphany Media — Wed, 08 Jun 2022 01:43:00 +0000

In this special episode, J and Courtney talk about what healing Really looks like. Together, they talk about the ugly side of healing - and what to truly expect. This is an episode that you won't want to miss!

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Disarming others Triggers

Epicphany Media — Fri, 13 May 2022 13:08:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney wrap up the trigger series by learning about how to disarm someone else when they are triggered! This is an episode that you won't want to miss. Both J and Courtney share their experiences with learning to disarm the other when a trigger has presented.

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Disarming your Triggers

Epicphany Media — Tue, 26 Apr 2022 23:59:00 +0000

This is the second episode in our Trigger Series and it's all about learning how to disarm triggers in yourself. If you haven't listened, we highly recommend listening to that episode before this one! Keep an eye out because the next episode is ALL on helping to disarm another when you notice that they are triggered.

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Triggers

Epicphany Media — Mon, 04 Apr 2022 16:25:00 +0000

Do you struggle with triggers? Do they pop up out of nowhere and "ruin" your entire mood/day? Do you find yourself struggling to recover after a trigger has occurred? If so, then THIS episode is for you! Together, J and Courtney explore triggers and the underlying reasons behind them. In a moment of vulnerability, Courtney becomes triggered and shares her process of working through it.

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Emotional Regulation

Epicphany Media — Mon, 21 Mar 2022 02:25:00 +0000

If you struggle with managing your emotions and feel like you're triggered ALL THE TIME, then THIS is the episode for you! Oftentimes, we don't even know WHY we are so dysregulated and miss all the signs. Before we know it, we are flying off the handle, yelling, screaming, or shutting down. In this episode, J and Courtney dig into Emotional Regulation while sharing quick tips on how to start becoming more in control. You won't want to miss this!

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Self-Worth

Epicphany Media — Mon, 21 Feb 2022 00:08:00 +0000

Happy 50th Episode!!! What an amazing milestone! In this very, very special episode, J and Courtney dig deep into the root of self-worth while exploring the many avenues one can take to start seeing their value and rebuilding their self-esteem.

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Love Languages

Epicphany Media — Fri, 11 Feb 2022 22:44:00 +0000

In this very special episode, Courtney and J discuss the topic of love languages. It's a topic we hear ALOT about, but it's also one that doesn't get much spotlight! Together, they discuss the 5 languages of love and how you can start identifying your own and your partner's. The journey to healing is complicated and messy at times, but it's having the knowledge of what you need that makes all the difference. When we know how we NEED to be loved - we can find emotionally available partners and friends - and THIS is how you start loving yourself.

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Intrusive Thoughts

Epicphany Media — Thu, 27 Jan 2022 02:34:00 +0000

Do you struggle with Intrusive Thoughts? IF so, this is the episode for you! You won't want to miss this one! In this episode, Courtney breaks down where Intrusive Thoughts may originate, what they look like, and tips to start working through them.

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Body Doubling

Epicphany Media — Sun, 16 Jan 2022 00:05:00 +0000

If you ever heard the term, "Body Doubling" and want to know more about it - then this is the episode for you! It's not just in the ADHD community, but we are seeing its positive effects in the trauma-healing community as well. In this episode, I discuss Body Doubling, what it looks like, and how to try it out for yourself.

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Emotional Boundaries

Epicphany Media — Tue, 04 Jan 2022 01:16:00 +0000

In this episode, Courtney & J discuss boundaries - more specifically, personal emotional boundaries. Before you can set boundaries with others, you must know your own. This episode will lay it out for you, help you understand where you need to tighten up and give some tips and tricks on setting them.

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Black Or White Thinking

Epicphany Media — Tue, 14 Dec 2021 01:54:00 +0000

Do you struggle with Black or White Thinking? Do you find yourself juggling one extreme thought to the next? If you do, then THIS is the episode for you. In this episode, I break down what Black or White Thinking means, where it comes from, how it presents in your life, and how to finally get a grip on it. You won't want to miss this one - I'm in the hot seat, again.

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Reintegrating Your Inner Child

Epicphany Media — Tue, 07 Dec 2021 20:31:00 +0000

In this very special episode, J and Courtney candidly share their journey with reintegrating their inner children while providing a foundation for you to build upon. Together, they discuss creating reintegration plans and what steps you can take to start that journey for yourself.

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ReParenting Your Inner Child

Epicphany Media — Thu, 02 Dec 2021 00:07:00 +0000

In this very special episode, J and Courtney delve deeper into the psyche of the inner child but more importantly discuss how to start healing by learning to reparent yourself. You will walk away with some tools and tricks that will help you start the journey to healing the little version within.

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Reacquainting Your Inner Child

Epicphany Media — Sat, 13 Nov 2021 23:55:00 +0000

This is the first Episode in the Inner Child Series. In this episode, Courtney and J discuss what the inner child means and ways to start reconnecting. You won't want to miss this one!

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Secure Attachment

Epicphany Media — Fri, 29 Oct 2021 21:35:00 +0000

This is the final episode in our Attachment series! In this episode, J and Courtney discuss what secure attachment looks like in oneself as well as how it presents and manifests in a relationship.

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Self Validation

Epicphany Media — Sun, 17 Oct 2021 21:38:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney explore Self-Validation and what it REALLY means. Courtney candidly opens up and shares her journey with self-validation and finding the power within herself.

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Anxious + Anxious Relationship

Epicphany Media — Mon, 11 Oct 2021 00:38:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss the Anxious/Anxious Relationship dynamic. Although rare, this combination is definitely one to explore! Together, they discuss what this duo would look like and ways to help bring functionality and balance to the relationship.

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Avoidant + Avoidant Relationship

Epicphany Media — Mon, 04 Oct 2021 00:29:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney break down the Avoidant + Avoidant Relationship! Although rare, it happens and it's a relationship that many don't discuss. J, with Dismissive Avoidance Attachment, shares parts of himself as Courtney touches upon the Fear Avoidant style and how a relationship would look. Together, they discuss ways to work on the relationship and find harmony.

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Parentification Emotional Responsibility

Epicphany Media — Sun, 26 Sep 2021 14:18:00 +0000

In this episode, J & Courtney dig deep into the topic of Parenticicaiton and how that can shape a person to then feel responsible for another person. Together, they explore the topic while sharing bits and pieces from their own journey.

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Anxious + Avoidant Relationship

Epicphany Media — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 11:17:00 +0000

In this episode, both J and Courtney candidly shared their struggles and growth as individuals and as a couple with having two different attachment styles. Courtney, once Anxious, and J, once Avoidant, talk about ways to help work through this dynamic.

Attachment Series: Avoidant/Dismissive

Epicphany Media — Sun, 12 Sep 2021 15:09:00 +0000

In this episode, it's J that is now in the hot seat! Together, they discuss the Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style and where it was cultivated. They also talk about how it's impacted their relationship along with ways that helped J improve upon it.

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Attachment Series: Anxious Attachment

Epicphany Media — Sun, 05 Sep 2021 17:52:00 +0000

In this episode, Courtney is put in the hot seat! She and J break down the Anxious Attachment Style while Courtney candidly shares her journey with it. You won't want to miss this one!

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RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria)

Epicphany Media — Thu, 26 Aug 2021 01:59:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss RSD, or Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. If you have OCD, ADHD, BPD, or trauma - then this is the video for you! Courtney brings perspective from a therapuetic standpoint while J seeks further to understand.

Balance

Epicphany Media — Sun, 15 Aug 2021 20:30:00 +0000

In this episdoe, J and Courtney get candid about how they've recently had to get more balance in life.

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Superwoman Complex

Epicphany Media — Sat, 31 Jul 2021 13:58:00 +0000

In this episode, Courtney opens up and candidly shares her fight with the "Superwoman Complex" - a term coined in the 1980's for women who feel like they have to do "Do it all." J brings an analytical approach and together they process through the complex. You won't want to miss this!

Happiness

Epicphany Media — Tue, 13 Jul 2021 22:51:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss happiness from what we think it is, to what it isn't. Together, they explore how happiness is subjective and it truly depends on how we view it. This is one you won't want to miss!

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Your Body Holds The Score

Epicphany Media — Thu, 01 Jul 2021 00:12:00 +0000

In this episode, Courtney shares a very candid experience when her body remembered trauma before she was consciously aware. It was an incredibly powerful experience that other's witnessed before she knew. You won't want to miss this!

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Life Advice

Epicphany Media — Tue, 08 Jun 2021 08:51:00 +0000

In this episode, J & Courtney respond to a listener's request to share their most valuable life advice. You won't want to miss this one.

Parenting Through Trauma

Epicphany Media — Fri, 28 May 2021 01:53:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss parenting, the different styles, and how trauma can directly interfer with parenting.

Trauma Bonds

Epicphany Media — Thu, 20 May 2021 22:30:00 +0000

In this epsisode, J and Courtney discuss what a trauma bond is, what leads to getting into one, and how you can identify whether you are in one.

Q & A Vol. 2

Epicphany Media — Thu, 13 May 2021 10:25:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney host a special episode dedicated to answering questions from their listeners. You don't want to miss this!

Processing

Epicphany Media — Fri, 07 May 2021 15:21:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney dig deep into the actions behind processing. They take you from what processing is, through the benefits, and discuss how to implement it into your everyday life.

Coping with Loss

Epicphany Media — Thu, 29 Apr 2021 00:55:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss coping with loss. Courtney gets candid and openly shares her pain with some of her greatest losses. Together, they discuss the grief cycle and how one can support themselves.

Trauma Gifts

Epicphany Media — Wed, 21 Apr 2021 23:49:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss trauma and how transforming your grief can change your perspective. Together, they explore trauma and the gifts it gives you.

Fear

Epicphany Media — Wed, 14 Apr 2021 21:58:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss fear and how it manifest in our lives.

RAD - Reactive Attachment Disorder

Epicphany Media — Sat, 03 Apr 2021 09:10:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss R.A.D from what it is to some potential causes. Courtney shares, from a mental health perspective, what R.A.D behavior looks like and how it presents in adults.

Masculinity

Epicphany Media — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 04:02:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss Masculinity with special guest, Jaeson, from TikTok. They discuss Masculinity from different perspectives and seek to redefine it.

Infidelity

Epicphany Media — Wed, 17 Mar 2021 01:19:00 +0000

In this episode, we discuss Infidelity from a different perspective.

Religion & Mental Health

Epicphany Media — Thu, 11 Mar 2021 01:17:00 +0000

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss Religion and Mental Health. Can they coexist, or do they need a separate path?

Abandonment Trauma

Epicphany Media — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 02:53:00 +0000

In this episode, we discuss what Abandonment Trauma is, what are some signs, and how to process it. Both J and I share aspects of our own abandonment and how it presents within ourselves and our relationship.

Q & A Special

Epicphany Media — Thu, 18 Feb 2021 01:57:00 +0000

This is a special Q & A episode where Courtney and J answer the top 10 Ask.Courtney TikTok questions of the week.

People Are People

Epicphany Media — Fri, 05 Feb 2021 01:14:00 +0000

In this episode, we explore familial relationships and the unconditional loyalty we have despite toxicity and our own traumas. We discuss the concept, "People are people", by exploring our own personal relationships, while having a thought provoking conversation.

Trauma In Everday Life

Epicphany Media — Fri, 29 Jan 2021 01:17:00 +0000

In this episode, we talk about Trauma and how it affects aspects of everyday life.

Support Systems

Epicphany Media — Fri, 22 Jan 2021 01:32:00 +0000

In this episode, we have a discussion about Support Systems. We talk about what a healthy support system looks like while talking about some misperceptions.

Anxiety

Epicphany Media — Tue, 12 Jan 2021 18:59:00 +0000

In this episode, we discuss Anxiety and how it manifest differently from person to person. Together, we identify Anxiety within ourselves, things to look for, and helpful tips. This episode is special and sensitive as Courtney openly experiences Anxiety while processing her emotions to get to a more balanced sense of self.

First Podcast of 2021 : Appreciating the Journey

Epicphany Media — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 19:58:00 +0000

In this episode, we talk about resolutions, appreciating the journey, and what's to come for this year. J and Courtney share their personal resolutions and offer tips to creating the best goals for yourself without setting yourself up to fail.

Mindfulness

Epicphany Media — Tue, 29 Dec 2020 09:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we discuss Mindfulness from what it is to how to become more mindful in your daily lives. Courtney shares how being more mindful has helped her work through feelings of shame, while J shares how practicing mindfulness has helped him recognize feelings of guilt.

Childhood Trauma with Guided Meditation

Epicphany Media — Tue, 22 Dec 2020 21:33:00 +0000

In this episode, we discuss Childhood Trauma. We explore what it is and how it affects you in adulthood. At the end, we do a guided meditation to help you connect with your inner child.

Surviving a Toxic Family Holiday

Epicphany Media — Tue, 15 Dec 2020 10:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we talk about toxic family, surviving the holidays, and offer tips for making your holiday your own.

Self- Compassion

Epicphany Media — Sun, 29 Nov 2020 10:07:00 +0000

In this episode, we explore Self-Compassion from what it entails, to why someone would lack it, to the benefits of it.

Healthy Relationships

Epicphany Media — Tue, 24 Nov 2020 09:30:00 +0000

In this Episode, we discuss the foundations of a healthy relationship from communicating to conflict resolution. We explore the ways men and women view conflict, and give healthy tips on effectively tackling conflict within a relationship.

Interview with Queen Burks

Epicphany Media — Sat, 14 Nov 2020 08:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we have a special guest, Queen Burks, the passionate woman behind the Queendom. Entrpreneur, motivational speaker, and author - she shares her story from suriving to thriving.

Stress Management

Epicphany Media — Fri, 13 Nov 2020 09:47:00 +0000

In this episode, we discuss Stress Management. We identify triggers and explore healthy and unhealthy ways of managing it.

Codependency

Epicphany Media — Tue, 10 Nov 2020 09:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we discuss Codependency from a couple's standpoint. Courtney also shares her own personal journey having been Codependent and offers insight into the reasons behind it, as well as tips for working through it.

Intro & Exploring Narcissism

Epicphany Media — Mon, 09 Nov 2020 03:59:00 +0000

In this episode, Courtney & J introduce themselves, discuss the meaning behind "In It Together", and explore Narcissism.